Am I a complete weirdo for contemplating moving to America?

[Frinkleg]

It’s always been an option as dh is a pilot. He’s spoken to an airline out there and would be able to secure a job with 3x the salary. We would actually be able to feel a little bit more than just comfortable.

I actually really do love the UK. I enjoy village life, British holidays, Brits are just funnier etc.

But the money is just too much of a head turner.

We could afford a gorgeous home in Connecticut with a pool.

We spend a lot of time in the states but only as holidaymakers. It would certainly be an adjustment.

of course I fear guns, American politics re female rights, I’m by no means pro Trump. The ICE raids are horrific. But we’d have some bloody money. And a nice house.

I can’t imagine the US ever feeling like home that’s the only thing.

I would go if I didn’t have kids. No question. With kids, I wouldn’t.

Would you personally have financial independence? If so, I would.

Brit here, having lived here 30 years and just acquired citizenship, so now finally committed to the place. CT, if you can afford it, could be lovely and if you can find something fulfilling to do with your time. And if the visa situation is OK - it is definitely getting harder to settle here as a foreigner which is a big part of why I decided to become a full citizen. Yes, things are dire on the national level, but I am optimistic that this won't be true forever, and on a day to day level, if you have enough money, life is still good here. The huge caveat I would add, though, is if you have parents/other family who one day might need help that is hard to give from thousands of miles away. When I moved, I didn't quite realize what that would be like and it's expensive to go back and forth, though do you get free flights because of your husband's profession?

I’d rather have a leader that had the country’s best interests at heart to be honest. It doesn’t feel like we have that in the Uk at the moment. Whereas Trump is very pro-America

In a similar position @Frinkleg . Partner been offered promotion in NY. but we've negotiated a Secondment. Absolutely will take it. It's our last chance for a big adventure.

I am currently a SAHM. I was a project manager at an energy provider pre kids. I currently do book keeping for my FIL’s business which keeps me just busy enough. It gives me my Botox spending money

Yes.

I can see the temptation, but with children I wouldn’t. Or maybe just do it and rent for a couple of years then move back for secondary school. I wouldn’t want to have a teenager of either sex live in a country where abortion is becoming less and less available, it could be life changing, and for a girl it could be life threatening.

Abortions are legal I believe in CT.

Dear OP - politics and all that other stuff will always be there. Fundamentally, you do what makes you and your family happy. The house is gorgeous and if I was in your situation I’d already be packing my bags 😁

And unless there is a giant shift this is unlikely to ever change

Yabu to go with children.
Have you factored in all the costs? Specifically health insurance?

From bleak to bleak, makes no sense.

Why not trade up.

I wouldn’t go if I had children, or if I might possibly need any kind of reproductive care.

There’s no nice way of saying this but honestly if the money trumps the feeling of home thing there’s your answer.

With everything going on, this sounds great. Never feel guilty because you have this opportunity because there are many who would jump at this opportunity.

Hell, no. A thousand times no.

Dh has found that the health plans in the US for pilots are very comprehensive due to pilots having strong unions in the US. We would pay minimally out of pocket.

By myself or as a couple, sure, maybe

With school age kids, nope

If you split up and the kids are settled you won't be able to move out of the USA with them. Will you be able to work there? If not then you wouldn't be able to support yourself to stay after a split - you're making yourself vulnerable to living in a different country to your children.

a move to which country would you consider a trade up? I refuse to live in a country where I don’t speak the language so my options are extremely limited.

3 x the salary doesn’t work as a comparison because living in the US is so much more expensive. Even with work health insurance my friends there all have to top up their insurance to get anything like a decent level of cover. That’s $1000 a month for a family straight off the bat. Things cost more in the US too - food is more expensive in the supermarkets there. And then there’s the politics…

In your position I’d try and go to Singapore I think

I would consider Australia or New Zealand. Great quality of life and no guns.

Just loads of racists.