Neighbour heard everything!

[Soembarrassedd]

So I have been divorced a year and have been talking to a guy for a good while (we have met a few times prior to this) anyway, we ended up back to my house one night and my neighbour heard the whole thing. To the point where she knocked on the wall. I want to die of embarrassment, I saw her the other morning and she usually says hi, nothing, I think she now hates me.

If she has children I can see why she's pissed off to be honest. Depending on their age that's a difficult conversation to have a 2 in the morning.

Also depends whether you were emitting normal levels of passion or howling like a performing monkey.

I think most people have heard this through their walls at one time or another. Dont worry about it.

Yikes!

Your sex must feel better than mine. I’ve never had a neighbour knock on the wall.

I’m honestly not proud of it, I’m mortified

Don’t feel bad about this OP

Have you apologised to her?

I can’t!

Of course you can next time you see her, just say "I am so sorry for the other night, had a bit too much to drink and got carried away",

Or act dumb, ask if you've done something to upset her and when she says what it is, blame it on your "friend/sister/anyone else" who was staying while you were away overnight 😃

Can you not just approach her & say “ look I’m very embarrassed about the last night , I would just like to say sorry , I know you have kids & I’d hate if you were out with me over it “ , leave it like that, anyone worth bothering with will accept apology .

Take her a bottle of wine; hand it over while apologising.
Then produce a second bottle from behind your back and say, 'And this is for the next time!' Run away, chortling loudly.

These things happen and its hardly the crime of the century. I don't think you should ignore the issue. You never know when/if you might need her in the future. Be brave. Post a note and small box of chocs through her letterbox. Just apologise for the noise and say it won't happen again. Next time you see her after that try saying hi again. If she's still icy after that then its her issue but at least you'll have tried ❤️

Unfortunately had to do this thanks to our neighbour. We blamed the foxes.

A one off, I could put up with. But if it becomes frequent...my god I wanted to throttle our neighbour. We started going to bed at 9 so we were fast asleep before it started. We'd phone her in the middle to ask her to stfu. She thought it was hilarious we could hear.

I doubt that.

Decent people used to play music, or whatever it took, to avoid being overheard. Just because it's "natural" doesn't mean anyone wants to be an unwilling party to it.

I don't fancy being kept awake by someone else's loud sex either, nothing to do with jealousy, just annoying.

My children were at their dads at the time and I just feel like such a bad person like she thinks I’m a bad mum because of it

Could you make up a story? "People were staying at my house and I've since heard that they were a bit boisterous."

Enjoying loud sex doesn't make you a bad mum, it might make you a slightly irritating neighbour. The thing is, she's being silly giving you the silent treatment, she needs to say something or let it slide. I wouldn't grovel. Hopefully she's not a gossip.

She may be jealous. Unless you were acting like a porn star. I was sitting outside in my garden a few times when my neighbours decided to go at it mid afternoon with all the windows open on a hot summers day while I had all my family round. Never said anyhthing to them though. They would have been mortified if I did.

send her ear plugs in a christmas card.

You can be as loud as the hell you want.

She's just jealous 😂

Fair play to you, OP. A year (possibly more?) is a long time to go without so I don’t think anyone on here will blame you for letting off some steam!

Her children probably heard and asked questions. It’s not nice for children to hear loud sex, especially if they’re toddlers or primary school aged.

Cut yourself some slack ..we all just live in our houses n if she so bothered you got some she cant wave then well f* her ..clearly no one else is