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For not wanting to spend another Christmas Day with his batshit family?

229 replies

MsCrowly · 09/11/2025 14:39

When I first met DP’s family they seemed absolutely lovely, really really nice people. Charity work at the church, voluntary work at the local primary school, his dad cut the elderly neighbours grass throughout summer - I could go on but honestly they seemed like amazing people. So when Dp told me his mum had invited us around for Christmas dinner I happily accepted. On the run up to Christmas Day he told me his family were a bit wild at Christmas so be prepared but with what I knew about them I assumed he meant his dad had a few too many sherrys and tended to start singing Elvis or something!

No.

It was fucking awful. They were all drunk by time we got there at 12. His mother was ffing, blinding and cunting all over the place, his dad was watching world war 2 documentaries and screaming about how the kids of today would be too pussy to fight - when we first arrived his sister launched into a verbal attack saying it was just like him to turn up like a vulture when someone else was cooking 🫤 DP said we were invited so she screamed “so was fucking Judas”

over the course of the day his mother threw a glass of wine over his dads head, his sister continued picking arguments with everyone until she ultimately launched a tub of quality street across the room in rage, his dad started throwing up to which his mum got handfuls of it in kitchen roll and tried to smear it across his face - by the end of the day his mum was sat drunk in tears saying she wished she’d joined the army?!? His dad was passed out upstairs, his sister was sat furiously watching Grease screaming at everyone to stop talking and DP was drunk and going around squashing chocolates into the walls.

Couldn’t wait to get out - anyway he’s now asked if we can go this year considering how everyone enjoyed it so much last year, I was like “you joking? Everyone was arguing!!” and he got defensive saying it’s Christmas, people drink and get silly - all families do that. Mine don’t!!! A few drinks yeah but fighting and arguining? Nope

Thing is if I don’t go I’ll be alone Christmas Day - do I go or have a quiet (lonely?) one by myself? And AIBu to think this isn’t how normal families celebrate Christmas?

OP posts:
Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas · 20/12/2025 21:26

Squashing chocolates into the wall ??

Pedallleur · 20/12/2025 21:41

Pictures or it never happened. Sounds horrendous. I would have been out within minutes. Having said that, last Christmas I was sat in the in-laws dirty house with my coat on as it was so cold.

Crumbelina · 20/12/2025 23:52

Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas · 20/12/2025 21:26

Squashing chocolates into the wall ??

The OP's partner said that he didn't remember doing it. And if I had the same family, I might do similar. 🤭

sweatervest · 25/12/2025 20:17

asking for a friend. what a lie. i'm asking for me. did you spend christmas with them? i can't unthink the cliff richard and headlock situations. not two words you'd normally find in the same sentence.

(i literally laughed so much re-reading your re-cap that i literally almost cried and thank god the neighbours are out as they would have thought i was dying tbh)

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