DH didn’t get DD anything but got his nieces

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This week DH was in New York on a business trip, he got back this morning. We have 2 children DS is 8 and DD is 6. He also has 2 nieces who are 2 and 4. While on his trip he went to the American Girl Doll store and got a doll for both of his nieces, he told me his SIL sent him the money and told him what to get and it’s for their Christmas. I asked if he didn’t think to get DD one and he shrugged and said doesn’t she already have loads of dolls. She does but she adores dolls and would absolutely love an American girl doll, they aren’t easy to get in the uk so she will likely never have one.
Its upset me that he made all the effort to go to a store filled with things DD would love and didn’t think to get her one for her Christmas. He says if I knew she wanted one I should have told him like SIL did. I feel as a father he should have been able to think for himself and get her one.

AIBU?

Seems to me that the SIL specifically asked him to buy these toys, gave him detailed instructions of where to go and what to get, and sent him the money.

He was doing as she asked.

No good deed goes unpunished.

Idiotic fail at independant thought.
However, he likely doesnt know that there is much difference between the dolls your daughter has already and an american girl doll. They are all just dolls to him.

Your title is misleading, he didn’t buy gifts for his nieces and not your DD, he did a favour for his sister and bought your DD separate gifts.

only you know if he is a thoughtless arse in general, but I think if the doll was something your DD really really wanted then you probably should have mentioned it to him. You said yourself she has loads of dolls - it doesn’t sound like she’s missing out.

He wasn’t getting them a gift, he was doing as his sister told him and she paid. He was just getting your sister something really.

😂

Well that'll teach him not to tell you about that favour he did for his sister: he'll keep quiet in future!

Thats really sad. Your dd will remember this.

This is so riddiculous. It's a blooming doll that he was asked to get. Christ, just look around at other threads where domestic violence is rife, non payment of CM, abandoment ect...that's something to write about. He's not an arse because he didn't buy dd a doll. The silliness of People writing his dd will remember this....no actually children remember security, feeling safe, and love, amongst other things.

I think you are over-reacting. Your DH probably didn't realise these dolls are coveted by some. His sister had asked him to pick two dolls up from there, so he probably went in and picked them up in a hurry, not thinking that his own DDs would want one because they have lots of dolls already. Plus, I'm sure he wouldn't have had luggage space for four dolls.

You knew he was going to NY, if you wanted your DD's to have one of these dolls, you could have asked him to pick them up. Have either of your DD's asked for a doll for Christmas ?

Agree. Some bizarre responses so far!

I clicked the wrong option. YANBU!

What are on about ? How will his DD remember or even know about this ??

I’m guessing he leaves all the family and present admin to you so it didn’t cross his mind……

I can’t believe people are making excuses for this man.

I don't think it's a big deal. Maybe he just didn't want to buy your DD an expensive doll when she has so many.

Did you discuss what you are getting your children for Christmas prior to this?

PP being satirical surely?

OP did he bring anything for your son or you?

How ridiculous. Your girls are 6 and 8 and those dolls look like a million other standard ones you get here. I think at their ages they would have tons by now and he has said that. Also comparing to a 2yo that would love a doll to a 6yo - he’s being the sensible one.
he could have bought something else though. He’s right on the doll front.

I wouldn't have a problem with that. His sister asked him for something very specific as a christmas gift and gave him the money. Very different if he'd just spontaneously decided to buy his nieces something and not his daughters.

This man? Wtf has he done so terrible other than not buying a gift that makes him "this man"

Seriously look at the actual pathetic excuses of parents that really neglect their families.

They are about 2x more expensive than in the US.

I've now read the whole thread and see that he did buy small gifts for your DD. Now I think you are being ridiculous!

Remember what exactly??

I don't get all the man hate here.
If i was abroad in a doll shop doing a favour for my sister in law, it definitely wouldn't occur to me to get them for my kids. Especially if they already had lots of dolls.
It's not thoughtless, it's not being an arse or any of those other things.
Not like he didn't bring back anything for his kids at all.

I get what you mean.

However, AG dolls are really expensive and half the fun is actually going to the store and choosing the doll, dress and accessories; getting it's hair done, ears pierced (😳) etc. You're partly paying for the experience.

If you're just going to choose the doll yourself and give it as a gift, it could be any old doll really.

the thread title reads as though he went to buy dolls for his nieces off his own accord and nothing for his kids.

this is slightly different - he was given specific instructions, with money and he essentially did someone a favour.

yes it’s sad that he didn’t have a brainwave and do something nice for his kids, but it’s more of an inconsideration than a conspiracy.