DH didn’t get DD anything but got his nieces

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This week DH was in New York on a business trip, he got back this morning. We have 2 children DS is 8 and DD is 6. He also has 2 nieces who are 2 and 4. While on his trip he went to the American Girl Doll store and got a doll for both of his nieces, he told me his SIL sent him the money and told him what to get and it’s for their Christmas. I asked if he didn’t think to get DD one and he shrugged and said doesn’t she already have loads of dolls. She does but she adores dolls and would absolutely love an American girl doll, they aren’t easy to get in the uk so she will likely never have one.
Its upset me that he made all the effort to go to a store filled with things DD would love and didn’t think to get her one for her Christmas. He says if I knew she wanted one I should have told him like SIL did. I feel as a father he should have been able to think for himself and get her one.

AIBU?

You're just projecting your useless children's father onto this situation

There's no suggestion he's a bad father. There's also no suggestion.This child has even asked for 1 of these dolls or knows they exist.

She's hardly gonna have a ruined christmas and blighted childhood, which is going to spoil her emotional well being for the rest of her life.Just because she didn't get a an ugly american doll.

Yes, I am, I just said so myself didn’t I?

I disagree with everything else you posted though.

Nice example of a sneery, mean spirited post though. Thanks for exemplifying for me :)

What, you think that she's going to have a ruined christmas and blighted childhood, which is going to spoil her emotional well being for the rest of her life, based on this one incident?

Well, by your own admission your daughter has many dolls already, which he has presumably paid for them, at least partly. So he has a point. And this is something that he was doing as a favour to her sister, who, by they way, paid for the dolls.
I don't my children expect I bring something back every time I am on a business trip, especially when their toy needs are fully covered already.
OP, it is concerning that even though you are admitting that your daughter has plenty of dolls already you want to carry on spoiling her. Maybe you need to reflect what kind of values you want to educate her with.

I personally, in his situation, would have bought the dolls for my sister and looked at them and thought, they’re lovely, I’ll get one for dd too, she will want one especially if she sees her cousins with one each”. Why didn’t he think that? Why is the standard always lower for fathers?

In that case the standard must be low for me too as there's no way I would spend £150 on a toy just because my sons cousin will have one.

I personally, in his situation, would have bought the dolls for my sister and looked at them and thought, they’re lovely, I’ll get one for dd too, she will want one especially if she sees her cousins with one each”. Why didn’t he think that? Why is the standard always lower for fathers?

And as I, and many other women on this thread have pointed out, it wouldn't have crossed my mind to get them for my children, even before looking at the ridiculous price.
Does that make me a shit mum?

It's ridiculous isnt it.

I also take issue with these dolls as UK kids. I'm not a bloody american girl and nor are any of the children in the u k you're buying them for. I wouldn't have wanted one and their nauseating all around american girl backstories. Not would, I want one dressed as a butter churner in her awful colonial dress.

You can’t get the create your own dolls in the store.

I think she means the vast array available in the Truly Me line. That is, the non-historical dolls, that don't come with a book series and a back story. They are stock dolls that come in many different skin tones, hair colours, eye colours etc. That's different from the Create Your Own line.

Oh dear! That's a pretty negative view! The historical dolls are a wonderful introduction to history. Most girls start by reading the books - the company is predominantly a book publisher really - and then they want the girl in the books, in the form of a doll. They're not nauseating stories, they teach periods of history really well. The company's founder was a teacher. The stories don't shy away from difficult periods, like Addy, who was a slave and gained her freedom from a pretty cruel master. And there was a homeless doll, too. And Samantha's story deals with child labour in factories in the Edwardian period.

ETA: Emily is an English girl who goes to stay with Molly during WW2 to escape the bombing in London. So there is at least one AG English girl! And Molly's books deal with worldwide events.

ETA: None of them are meant to be dressed like someone who churns butter! 😂🧈

A period of american history that's particularly uninteresting and no use to a u k primary school child.

Which period is uninteresting?

Is it ever too early to learn about world history?

Only one word springs to mind. No sorry, make that TWO:

Total W⚓

He sounds unpleasant. Is he normally like this?