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Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

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JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 11:22

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

OP posts:
Aintnosunshinenowitsgone · 06/11/2025 17:05

housethatbuiltme · 06/11/2025 14:38

How did you word the invite?

While this seems brass balls it 'legally' could come down to how it was presented. If you just invited them along because you had a spare ticket (which is what you make it sound like) then obviously they aren't owed anything but if you 'gifted' a ticket to the friend then technically it theirs. So it could come down to something as silly as saying 'oh no, you don't have to pay me back its my gift'.

Still I think most people would never ask for the cash even if it was a gift, I tend to be of the mindset that unless a gift has been physically given to you its not a real gift yet and anything could happen in the mean time.

Like I have been told that for Xmas someone got me tickets to a band I liked (tickets are digital now so no paper tickets given) then a few months later the band cancelled their tour due to illness. Apparently ticket holders where refunded but as for the 'gift' it was never mentioned again, I'm not going to be all like 'right can I have the £50 for the gig we didn't go to then?' though (so cringey) but 'legally' you could ask for it.

I expect that in her head this is what's happening.

DIC (dear invited child) was given a gift of the ticket.
DIC can no longer attend
OP is now selling the gift, and DIC is therefore due the funds.

It takes balls to ask, I'll give her that

MaggieBsBoat · 06/11/2025 17:08

I’m gripped. I can’t wait to read the reply. WTAF kind of CFery was that!!

SusiQ18472638 · 06/11/2025 17:08

I can’t believe what I’ve read, CF of the highest order!!! 😳

Anyahyacinth · 06/11/2025 17:11

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/11/2025 11:31

”Hi Brenda,

I am happy to transfer to you the entire sum that you paid me for the tickets!

Yours sincerely,
@JeffTheSquirrel!”

🤭😂😂

nomas · 06/11/2025 17:13

MidnightMeltdown · 06/11/2025 17:05

CF logic.

She was probably trying her luck, hoping that OP would just hand over the cash and be too embarrassed to refuse. Will be interesting to see whether she tries to backtrack now.

She'll probably try and style it out and say oh I thought I had sent you the money.

KnightandDay · 06/11/2025 17:13

Aintnosunshinenowitsgone · 06/11/2025 17:05

I expect that in her head this is what's happening.

DIC (dear invited child) was given a gift of the ticket.
DIC can no longer attend
OP is now selling the gift, and DIC is therefore due the funds.

It takes balls to ask, I'll give her that

But DIC wasn't "given the gift of a ticket" - she was invited to attend something with Squirrel Jnr.

Littlejellyuk · 06/11/2025 17:14

The suspense is killing me 😭 @JeffTheSquirrel
Why hasn't she replied? Is she sorting the tea? Did she have a change of heart? 🤔

Unless she's also a fellow mumsnetter and she's seen this thread and thought oh crap, I have been rumbled and I'm now the leading CF of all CF's in November! 😆 🤣 😂

FOJN · 06/11/2025 17:15

Shamelessly place marking in anticipation of the response.

You were willing to gift a £50 ticket and now the daughter can't use it you should gift her the monetary value?

People are batshit in their entitlement these days.

sakura06 · 06/11/2025 17:15

WTAF?!

Poodleville · 06/11/2025 17:18

Ooh can't wait for her response!!!

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 06/11/2025 17:19

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 06/11/2025 16:16

I had someone tell me what to buy their children as gifts. Bought what was requested and then after giving the gifts was told that one of the children didn’t like that item anymore so could I replace it with something else please. Fair enough, but instead of giving me the item back so I could get a refund, they told me they were keeping it as they were going to give it to one of their friends as a present.

?!?!?!?!?!?!

Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.
Elle771 · 06/11/2025 17:21

Shamelessly following for the reply!

MidnightMeltdown · 06/11/2025 17:21

Littlejellyuk · 06/11/2025 17:14

The suspense is killing me 😭 @JeffTheSquirrel
Why hasn't she replied? Is she sorting the tea? Did she have a change of heart? 🤔

Unless she's also a fellow mumsnetter and she's seen this thread and thought oh crap, I have been rumbled and I'm now the leading CF of all CF's in November! 😆 🤣 😂

I think she must be top of the CF leaderboard for this year!

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 06/11/2025 17:21

nomas · 06/11/2025 17:02

What culture do you think this happens in? Hmm

Costa Cheeka.

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 17:21

She just replied, “the money for the ticket you gave to X.”

Erm. Quite curt I thought.

OP posts:
nomas · 06/11/2025 17:23

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 17:21

She just replied, “the money for the ticket you gave to X.”

Erm. Quite curt I thought.

😮😮😮

Please ask her to explain

summernights24 · 06/11/2025 17:23

Cheeky fucker!

WhamBamThankU · 06/11/2025 17:23

Maybe she forgot for a moment she isn’t on a 90s tv game show that offered cash alternatives?

poetryandwine · 06/11/2025 17:23

That is hilarious, OP. Now you can have fun.

Littlemissbubbblles · 06/11/2025 17:24

Holy shit!!

Ladybugheart · 06/11/2025 17:24

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 17:21

She just replied, “the money for the ticket you gave to X.”

Erm. Quite curt I thought.

The audacity!!

DeborahVance · 06/11/2025 17:24

She thinks it was a gift for her daughter. Honestly I think some people are just quite thick.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 06/11/2025 17:24

Offer her the ticket back and see what she intends to do with it. CF indeed!

TeenToTwenties · 06/11/2025 17:24

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 17:21

She just replied, “the money for the ticket you gave to X.”

Erm. Quite curt I thought.

Ah. She thinks you gave her DD a ticket rather than you buying a ticket that you were letting her DD use.

'Sorry for the confusion, I didn't buy your DD a ticket, I bought an extra ticket so my DD could bring a friend, so no I won't be passing over money to you.'

KnightandDay · 06/11/2025 17:25

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 17:21

She just replied, “the money for the ticket you gave to X.”

Erm. Quite curt I thought.

Spit Take GIF

She didn't??!!! How the fuck do these people exist???

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