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Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

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JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 11:22

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

OP posts:
JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 16:43

Oh this has moved on. Thanks for the legal analysis (I’m a lawyer btw, so know full well when I’m in a contract!)

The original invitee is a lovely girl, and I’m pretty sure had nothing to do with this request. And also pretty sure she’s gutted to miss out. We had the tickets for months before DD decided who to invite, so it’s not like we bought a ticket specifically for X.

In reply, I went with:
”Hi X’s mum. We were hoping X could join us & it’s such a shame she can’t. You didn’t pay anything towards it, so not sure what money you’re asking for. Can you explain please?”

I decided to go with the last sentence just for the fun of it, as I’d really like to know her reasoning.

OP posts:
Zanatdy · 06/11/2025 16:44

Wow. I’d just say you may have forgotten but you didn’t pay for the ticket, it was my shout which i’m now transferring to another friend so no refund has been given.

MummyJ36 · 06/11/2025 16:45

I’m waiting with my popcorn for her reply 🍿

wfhwfh · 06/11/2025 16:47

Great reply - totally reasonable question from you and i cannot wait to hear her reply!!

pinkpanther84 · 06/11/2025 16:47

She sounds completely bonkers, I can only think she is getting confused as there cannot be any other reasonable explanation!

Littlejellyuk · 06/11/2025 16:47

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 16:43

Oh this has moved on. Thanks for the legal analysis (I’m a lawyer btw, so know full well when I’m in a contract!)

The original invitee is a lovely girl, and I’m pretty sure had nothing to do with this request. And also pretty sure she’s gutted to miss out. We had the tickets for months before DD decided who to invite, so it’s not like we bought a ticket specifically for X.

In reply, I went with:
”Hi X’s mum. We were hoping X could join us & it’s such a shame she can’t. You didn’t pay anything towards it, so not sure what money you’re asking for. Can you explain please?”

I decided to go with the last sentence just for the fun of it, as I’d really like to know her reasoning.

I have never been so invested, as I am in this thread today 😆 🍿 🤣
I am now sweating on the friends mums reply! 😭

outdooryone · 06/11/2025 16:49

Popcorn out here too...I'm so wanting to hear this reasoning.

Can I place a bet on total bat-shit crazy justification....

KnightandDay · 06/11/2025 16:50

Excellent message OP, well done!
Can't wait to see if she responds...

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 06/11/2025 16:50

I think I’d have probably chickened out of asking her to explain. I’m glad you did it though because I want to know how she responds so badly.

ClockworkGiraffe · 06/11/2025 16:54

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 12:09

I hadn’t told the mum that another friend has taken the ticket and I don’t think DD has mentioned to original invitee (friends are from different friendship groups).

So I assume she thinks I’ve flogged it, and the money is rightfully theirs!

I still don’t see why she would think the money for a ticket she didn’t pay for was hers? What on earth goes on inside these people’s heads?

HorrorFan81 · 06/11/2025 16:56

Great reply OP!

BoundaryGirl3939 · 06/11/2025 16:57

Great reply. Please do tell us what she comes back with.

Is it a cultural thing? Is she from another country? Still cheeky as hell...and doesn't excuse this extreme piss take. Talk about trying to take advantage.

50lbstolose · 06/11/2025 16:58

Can’t wait to see the response

Screamingabdabz · 06/11/2025 16:58

I am so invested in this… looking forward to the reply update more than the Celebrity Traitors final!

Beentheretoolong · 06/11/2025 16:59

If ever there was a thread the watch facility was made for it’s this one… waiting for the reply with baited breath😆

What an absolute CF though!

Linenpickle · 06/11/2025 16:59

What an absolute pisstake!!

MirrorMirror1247 · 06/11/2025 16:59

Screamingabdabz · 06/11/2025 16:58

I am so invested in this… looking forward to the reply update more than the Celebrity Traitors final!

Me too! I just hope we get an answer before 9pm, I don't want a clash!

CoffeeCantata · 06/11/2025 17:00

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 16:43

Oh this has moved on. Thanks for the legal analysis (I’m a lawyer btw, so know full well when I’m in a contract!)

The original invitee is a lovely girl, and I’m pretty sure had nothing to do with this request. And also pretty sure she’s gutted to miss out. We had the tickets for months before DD decided who to invite, so it’s not like we bought a ticket specifically for X.

In reply, I went with:
”Hi X’s mum. We were hoping X could join us & it’s such a shame she can’t. You didn’t pay anything towards it, so not sure what money you’re asking for. Can you explain please?”

I decided to go with the last sentence just for the fun of it, as I’d really like to know her reasoning.

Definitely worth the entertainment value, OP!

She owes you a chuckle.

Calamitousness · 06/11/2025 17:01

I hope you laughed in her face. Complete CF of the highest order.

Flakey99 · 06/11/2025 17:01

@JeffTheSquirrel

Presumably the Mum has decided that as you’re a soft touch and willing to fork out 50 quid for a ticket to a show for her daughter, you’d be equally soft in happily handing over a further 50 quid to treat her DD to something entirely unrelated and it won’t even include your daughter this time. 🤔

What a massive chancer she is! 🤣🤣🤣

PacersSpanglesandaCabanabar · 06/11/2025 17:01

ClockworkGiraffe · 06/11/2025 16:54

I still don’t see why she would think the money for a ticket she didn’t pay for was hers? What on earth goes on inside these people’s heads?

Entitlement. Pure and simple.

828Pax · 06/11/2025 17:02

Sorry what on earth

nomas · 06/11/2025 17:02

BoundaryGirl3939 · 06/11/2025 16:57

Great reply. Please do tell us what she comes back with.

Is it a cultural thing? Is she from another country? Still cheeky as hell...and doesn't excuse this extreme piss take. Talk about trying to take advantage.

What culture do you think this happens in? Hmm

FootyMcFooty · 06/11/2025 17:02

Is there any possibility that the child has told mum that she needed to pay for the ticket and kept the money?

As in, she’s said mum, X has invited me to an event. It’s £50 per ticket. Then she’s asked DD where to send the money, DD has said, oh don’t worry mum’s covered it’ and then she’s not told her own mum?

MidnightMeltdown · 06/11/2025 17:05

ClockworkGiraffe · 06/11/2025 16:54

I still don’t see why she would think the money for a ticket she didn’t pay for was hers? What on earth goes on inside these people’s heads?

CF logic.

She was probably trying her luck, hoping that OP would just hand over the cash and be too embarrassed to refuse. Will be interesting to see whether she tries to backtrack now.

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