Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

This....

Don't leave us hanging Op. What was your reply to her, and how did she react?

I want to know what she said!

What would annoy me the most is her assumption that I was stupid enough to fall for this. A complete lack of respect.

Think I’d just say, ‘ah, I’ve found someone else to accompany us now so I didn’t sell the ticket in the end — but hopefully you can find another way to treat your DD and that she and DDSquirrel can do something nice together soon.’
What a cheek!

Oh wow, I'd tell her where to go. Cheeky so so!

Madness! How old are the girls? Has her daughter seen an opportunity and rinsed the ticket price out of her mum, but not handed it on to you? Only explanation i can think of!

But, if you think of the concert tickets as a gift then in this case I think concert tickets to accompany OP's daughter would be more like a conditional gift: you get the gift on condition that you go to the concert WITH OP's daughter.

Whereas your concert tickets for Christmas were not conditional: they were your Christmas gift to do with as you pleased.

I am in the USA so I don't know how the equivalent things work in Britain, but here, a contract must have benefit to both parties to be enforceable. A "contract" where only one side benefits (I give you concert tickets, you don't give me anything) is not really enforceable over here. When people get "reimbursed" by their family members for gifts they weren't, for whatever reason, able to use, the illusion is that there WAS a contract in the first place. Like, if I gave my son concert tickets and he was unable to use them because he got the flu, I might replace the tickets because he's my son and I want him to enjoy life. But it's not legally on me to ensure he has replacement tickets for the concert.

Why has the friend dropped out in the first place

this women is very rude

I've experienced similar, a gift handed back asking if I could return it and get them a voucher or the cash instead.

I think what really pissed me off was the foisting of that labour onto me rather than saying "oh thank you but she already has one of those, do you still have the receipt so I can swap it for something?"

I took it back and got a refund. CF chased me for the money and I said sorry its been a tough month and I can't really afford it after all. which was a total lie but quite satisfying to see her gobsmacked face

Can you do a transfer for 0.00?
If so I would do that and say money transferred now.
Or transfer 10p and say enjoy a lucky bag on me.

I think this is the right approach. Apart from anything else, it should prompt/provoke the CF mum to try and justify her crazy request…which should be interesting!

I had a scenario last year where dd and her friend were at a thing that charged £20 per hour. The card machine was down so I gave a £20 note to dd friend's mum who was going to pay in cash. I then wandered across the car park to get better phone reception to pay online and managed it. I returned to the group and dd friend mum gave me back the £20 note to okay for her dd. I was so confused I didn't say anything at that point and then the moment sort of passed.
I think she just had an aberration rather than being a CF though.

No, there was no contract as there was no consideration (ie money paid over).

It was an "invitation to treat" probably (not a lawyer, done some contract law tho) but unless cash exchanged hands, no contract.

Well done you!

Do you think she thinks that you should reimburse her even if she’s aware that she didn’t pay?

Anyway have you sent the email and has she come back to you?

#invested

I had someone tell me what to buy their children as gifts. Bought what was requested and then after giving the gifts was told that one of the children didn’t like that item anymore so could I replace it with something else please. Fair enough, but instead of giving me the item back so I could get a refund, they told me they were keeping it as they were going to give it to one of their friends as a present.

In the name of...!

Eagerly waiting the update on this crazy one 😂

PLEASE return and tell us (a) what your reply was and (b) what she said in response.

I don’t even get why you selling something you own would mean she gets the money from the sale

Nobody gets that! Which is why we're hooked. Hope the CF explains...

If this is real , I am genuinely shocked.
And 🍿

Really want updated on the CF response 😂

Wasn’t the first time, but I made sure it was the last.

Even if you had sold it the money would still be yours - she’s hilarious.

keen to hear what you responsed!