Husband and Lindor

[Clementina49er]

A couple of weeks ago we were in Wilko together and he added a bx of Lindor in some weird flavour (possibly Baileys) to my shopping basket for which I paid without comment. They went on a shelf in the kitchen and I had maybe two out of the box before discovering the empty box a mere two days later. I made no comment but I must admit I thought "that's a lot of chocolate to eat between meals in such a short time."
Ten days later I saw a box of Lindor dark chocolate mint flavour in Sainsburys so I bought them. I have a bit of a thing for dark chocolate and mint.... but a box of Bendicks lasts me at least a fortnight.
The Lindor went in the cupboard but I'd have one from to time to time in the evening with a cup of coffee after my meal.... they weren't "hidden " as such because DH is perfectly capable of opening the cupboard door.... but I know what he's like with chocolate, sweets and biscuits and a packet left anywhere visible in the kitchen will be empty before you can say "I was looking forward to eating one of those"... After lunch I noticed him go and help himself to one of the Lindor.... I made no comment, and decided I'd have one too..... I did notice there weren't many left in the box butagain, I didn't comment.... he's a grown man.
However, when I saw with his hand in the box less than an hour later something snapped and I said "only one a day": he was very offended, but he knows where the supermarket is and has enough money to buy his own damn chocolate if he wants to make a pig of himself.... He is noticeably overweight and has a sweet tooth as well as a love of alcohol and fatty foods. I cook from scratch and we eat healthy, nutritious, filling meals so I really hate to see the crap he eats in between times, not because he's hungry, but because it's there.He buys bags of Doritos and creamy dips, adds mayonnaise to meals which have their own sauce and puts 3tsp of sugar in his coffee. I make no comment about any of this, but AIBU to set a rule that expensive chocolate which I have bought is limited to one a day? There is actually other chocolate in plain view on the table, so he could have helped himself to that, but he decided he wanted a second Lindor. I rather suspect that if I hadn't seen him with his hand in the box I would have gone to it this evening for a chocolate and found it empty.

urgh i couldn't read to the end of your post. You sound so passive aggressive and clearly don't like your husband. Why do you think you are better than him?

How on earth can anyone only eat ONE Lindor? Totally unreasonable, OP.

I'm a healthy eater, and healthy weight, but think it's very U to limit someone to one box chocolate a day. To me a portion would be three.
You're being unreasonably controlling about this because of your resentment and disgust at his weight and eating habits. So rather than jump on something that makes you sound that way, you should have a conversation about the real issues.

Exactly. It’s why I never buy it, the entire box would be gone in about ten minutes.

Control. Simple as that. Stop it. If it was the other way round, people would be quite rightly horrified.

Tedious. Yes we know, you're definitely one of those MNtters on high six figures and eat only Läderach, Honold or whatever the fuck. Meanwhile in the real world, for lots of people, Lindt is rather pricey. There's plenty of much cheaper chocolate to be had (I know, I know, cocoa content, palm oil, yadda yadda) and lots of people buy Lindt as a treat or for occasions.

As for OP, both unreasonable. Yes, he shouldn't eat your chocolates and should replace them if he had. But 'one a day' would make me irrationally angry, I'd see red, would tell you to fuck off, and eat the whole box on purpose. No one would dare speak to me like that. But yea, on the other hand he should replace them, that's true too.

This, if the husband pays for the shopping can he get to decide ops portion sizes?
’noooo 2 potatoes, 3 slices of carrot and 1oz of chicken breast! NO MORE!!!’

Not on mn
”what’s his is ours, what’s mine is mine” is the war cry for many!

Total sympathy for the OP. I have the same issue. If I buy nice treats for both of us, he guzzles all of it in a flash and then I don’t get any, even though he knows I am then upset and annoyed at missing out. If I hide anything, I get annoyed that I’ve had to go to such lengths and he gets upset that I’ve tried to deceive him.
It’s not about cost or control or health, it’s about respect and consideration for one’s partner and that’s why it’s so upsetting.

OP, I can totally relate, my DH does the same and it drives me crazy. I’ve actually acquired a taste for 85% dark chocolate because it’s the only thing he won’t touch. Everything else is gone in a couple of days, so there’s no point having it in the house.

Edit - worth noting I go absolutely feral for certain treats too, so can’t judge lest I be judged 😆

My DP and I have each have a 'snack cupboard'. We don't eat each others snacks as he is very sweet toothy and I am not. A box of lindor could last me a month, he would eat it in 5 mins 🤣 I would tell your partner to get his hands off my lindor and get his own!

You buy your Lindor in a SUPERMARKET? Nooooo!

https://www.lindt.co.uk/shop/gift-ideas/pick-n-mix

There's a Lindt shop in the Wembley Designer Outlet 😉(and, apparently, in the Cotswolds)

I could read no further than “ one a day”. Just didn’t compute.

One box a day is totally reasonable...it's chocolate..it's trying to keep it to the one box that's hard ...

Your comment is ridiculous but why would he eat all the chocolate and not call at the shop and replace it for you both? If he likes eating 10 chocolates a day then he needs to buy it multiple boxes a week otherwise you would never get any which isn’t fair. Also, and this winds me up, I bet if you were fat he would have something to say about it.

Not the point of this thread but it is the shop I miss most of all. Ours was replaced by a massive (notactuallya)Pound Shop which is not even close.

Their garden/christmas lights were the best and last forever. Still got some solar ones going strong in the garden. Cannot say the same for the B&M ones I got this year.

Is this a joke?

1 Lindor a day and you’re telling him off when he’s trying to get a second?!

I suspect this is the tongue in cheek chocolate equivalent of the famous MN chicken which lasts a family of 4 for 2 weeks.

Solved!

https://www.lindt.co.uk/lindt-pick-mix-selection-box-4-5kg

Really? It read like a straight comment. And I've seen food behaviour this disordered and worse.

Why is eating a small amount of chocolate "disordered eating"?

I’m horrified.

id dump a man who spoke to me like you did.

you are obviously very incompatible.

He’s comfort eating to overcome the trauma of having such a controlling wife.

Well said 🙌 i’m also at the same weight and wear children’s size. A box of lindor would last me around 2 years or more.

So, I can’t be arsed reading the full thread, but where are you where you still have a Wilko? Did they not shut them all down?
Some towns still have one? Lucky you .

In terms of your AIBU - yes I would be pissed off if my DH was guzzling my chocolate but he could eat as much as he wanted of his own chocolate.