Husband and Lindor

[Clementina49er]

A couple of weeks ago we were in Wilko together and he added a bx of Lindor in some weird flavour (possibly Baileys) to my shopping basket for which I paid without comment. They went on a shelf in the kitchen and I had maybe two out of the box before discovering the empty box a mere two days later. I made no comment but I must admit I thought "that's a lot of chocolate to eat between meals in such a short time."
Ten days later I saw a box of Lindor dark chocolate mint flavour in Sainsburys so I bought them. I have a bit of a thing for dark chocolate and mint.... but a box of Bendicks lasts me at least a fortnight.
The Lindor went in the cupboard but I'd have one from to time to time in the evening with a cup of coffee after my meal.... they weren't "hidden " as such because DH is perfectly capable of opening the cupboard door.... but I know what he's like with chocolate, sweets and biscuits and a packet left anywhere visible in the kitchen will be empty before you can say "I was looking forward to eating one of those"... After lunch I noticed him go and help himself to one of the Lindor.... I made no comment, and decided I'd have one too..... I did notice there weren't many left in the box butagain, I didn't comment.... he's a grown man.
However, when I saw with his hand in the box less than an hour later something snapped and I said "only one a day": he was very offended, but he knows where the supermarket is and has enough money to buy his own damn chocolate if he wants to make a pig of himself.... He is noticeably overweight and has a sweet tooth as well as a love of alcohol and fatty foods. I cook from scratch and we eat healthy, nutritious, filling meals so I really hate to see the crap he eats in between times, not because he's hungry, but because it's there.He buys bags of Doritos and creamy dips, adds mayonnaise to meals which have their own sauce and puts 3tsp of sugar in his coffee. I make no comment about any of this, but AIBU to set a rule that expensive chocolate which I have bought is limited to one a day? There is actually other chocolate in plain view on the table, so he could have helped himself to that, but he decided he wanted a second Lindor. I rather suspect that if I hadn't seen him with his hand in the box I would have gone to it this evening for a chocolate and found it empty.

@Clementina49er "A couple of weeks ago we were in Wilko together"

Surely not.

It’s ok to say ‘it’s my chocolate, please don’t eat it!’ But to make reference to his weight and say he’s making a pig of himself… JFC, yes unreasonable, controlling and rude!

One a day, you didn’t say that to a grown adult 😂 if you are married then money is shared, that’s the whole point of marriage.

2 Lindors over the space of an hour is not a huge stuff your face binge is it?

Telling him to only eat one is controlling. Wanting your chocolate to be available for you to eat isn't.

We keep chocolate in a muesli box because we know the kids won’t find it there, despite it being right next to their cereal.

I suggest it’s time to launch Operation Muesli (or similar)

No one can eat just one a day! Well except you😁. You sound like my mum, she’d make a small bar of chocolate last a month! Me on the other hand cannot be trusted around chocolate 🫣

Buy your own and hide it.

Exactly. 'Don't treat him like a child but hide your chocolate from him'. Makes sense 🙄

The pandering to selfish men knows no bounds.

Lindor? Expensive? You’re having a laugh, surely?

I don’t think people are suggesting that, I think a lot of people are saying hide it because that is what they do knowing that there husband’s would take them too. Just like if my husband left a slab of cadburys Wholenut in the fridge to enjoy later.. Will it still there by the time he comes to eat it, probably not.

@Clementina49er What an awful thing to post about your partner. If my partner thought/ spoke this way about me - especially on a public forum - I'd feel so hurt.

He’s a grown man, leave him alone! Please god don’t let my life become this boring that I make posts like this

If you snapped ‘Only one a day!’ at me, I’d tell you to shove your Lindor up your arse.

Has he spotted these yet?

How many times does it need to be said on this thread? There are still some branches of Wilko. I was in one only last week.

If they are your chocolates and he refuses to buy his own, I think it is perfectly reasonable to stipulate that he can have one of yours a day. That’s quite kind of you actually!

There is no such thing as eating one lindor! Must be at least 3.

But if you want your own stuff, have his n hers shelves and don't touch each other's stash. Dp wouldn't eat my hotel chocolat and I leave his chocolat digestives alone. Everyone is happy.

I showed this thread to my dh who is partial to a lindor ball (or three)

he wanted me to post to point out that, sadly, men are just as prone to emotional eating as women. It’s a daily struggle for him not to eat unhealthy snacks in the cupboard, regardless of the healthy meals we eat together.

The only solution is to hide them better or not buy at all.

I was a sweet summer child, quite innocent of Lindor, before I visited a beautician for a reasonably ouchy procedure.

She rewarded me with a red Lindor ball for being so brave 😂 just the one. One was all it took. I swear there's crack in them. Was addicted for two years.

But...what a two years 😋

Oh and missing the point of the thread entirely in Hamburg (and presumably some other places) there is a lindor SHOP with PICK AND MIX FLAVOURS the vast majority of which have never been spotted in UK supermarkets. As a lindor loving family this was extremely exciting

Treating an adult as though they are a child is hardly attractive!

He may lack self control but OP lacks manners.

I hope this post isn’t real … if it is please don’t speak to your husband like that. It must be so humiliating for him.

This is why I buy liquorish when I want a sweet treat OP. My husband won’t touch it.

I’m fed up of buying chocolate that my husband demolishes. He would eat mine and his. And not ever replace it.

I think it's fair to be worried about his heath overall, but you don't get to dictate how much he should be eating of anything. If a partner said 'one a day' to me it would be a massive turn off and id find that really controlling. The fact you refer to him as a pig is horrible and very disrespectful. I'd never be with a man who spoke to or about me in that way.

I think whatever is bought in the household food shop is fair game for whoever is in the household and just because you like to take a little here and there across a number of days doesn't mean he has to eat by your rules and at your pace. He's an adult and makes his own choices In the same way you do. If you want treats that are specifically yours to take and eat by yourself at your leisure then I think you need to keep them separate. If he digs into your stash then he needs to replace it before you have the chance to go looking for it.

I think it's a real example of a double standard between men and women.