‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

I’d like to hazard a bet that when there’s no double portion of meat for him alone, he’ll be right in about those spuds and trimmings! back for pudd too. Tell him to track that on his App CF

But that's the issue with someone who is orthorexic. They don't/can't eat normally, no matter what the circs. It's the lack of flexibility that makes them orthorexic. "Cue memories of my exH coming to my parents' for Christmas, declaring that he would only eat the vegetables but not to do anything special for him."

Going to someone else’s house on and piling your plate high with the most expensive item on the menu is rude. Just reiterate to your sister that she’s to bring cooked meat for him or they can all stay at home.

Bowel cancer rates are increasing the highest amongst vegetarians in India (who often eat all their meals cooked from scratch 5-10 portions of veg per day) as they’re least likely to exercise

Is that adjusted to allow for the fact that India has a higher number of vegetarians?

If the boyfriend starts boring on about the gym, please please please share this anecdote over the dinner table.

....and are maybe eating more Western convenience foods than they traditionally did?

The majority of Indians are not vegetarians, walk a lot so the overall rate is low, and are under 40. This is local data coming from specific vegetarian populations with higher life expectancies that previously didn’t see bowel cancer.

She’s literally dating a “Meat Head” 🤣
go to costco, buy a cooked rotisserie chicken (it’s like £4.50 or something). It comes in a bag.
slap a gift bow on it and eh voilla!

Two chicken and a gammon for 8 people, right? Isn’t that enough?
Yes you want someone to feel welcome but grabbing a pile of meat like this is entitled and self-involved.

I would think that the border as to what is obsessive and what is just a preference is what life situations are impacted.

I know of people who say 'I'm a bit ocd' or similar. I have met true sufferers form OCD who have admitted that they would be unable to leave their home in a hurry with their sick child if there was an incomplete compulsion eg they had not completed their shower ritual, had unprepared chicken on the worktop.

Would I literally go without food if there wasn't an option (e.g a day out at a theme park, a remote cafe on a hike)? No
Do my preferences trump basic
politeness? No

A couple of weeks ago I went to a private hospitality event. I ate all 4 courses including a pudding. It would have been rude not to with the amount the host had paid and very obvious in the small private dining area.

Not everything someone is very interested in is an obsession. One relative follows the Ukrainian war for literally hours each day and is on some sort of WhatsApp group for more detailed analysis. It's just an interest. The same amount of time watching tv and reading about slebs wouldn't get any judgment.

Playing on gaming consoles can lead to some missing meals. That's more concerning in my opinion.

It will be interesting to find out if he is demanding or whether this was being driven by your sister. But I’m guessing that she has eaten with him several times and so this must come from somewhere.

Whether he’s asked for a pile of meat or she’s offered is key. But her making the expectation on his behalf to a different host is rude.

Is your sister engaged to Henry VIII?

Buy him a tin of Chum, he'd be barking to come again.

Greetings original commenter 🤗
I've only just seen your comment & most surely don't feel you're being unreasonable to any degree, God Bless You
Immediately clicked on You're Not Being Unreasonable & it seems most believe the same 🥳
You've already got your work cut out for you & I feel your niece's bf should bring his own meat, ready to eat, not cause friction between you & your dear sister
Much love to you&yours & wishing you all the utmost best 💚

😂Bless you & can just imagine his face /their faces 😆

You just know hes hoping someone will ask about it, so he has the excuse to bang on about his training schedule and muscles etc

Have followed thread as looking forward to OP's update!

Am I the only one who has spent most of this thread reminded of the hot mailman on the Good Place? Bit niche maybe? Poor DN!

A mega gym bunny should be into healthy eating, so he should be piling his plate high with veg.

I'd love to see your reference for that 'fact'. Meanwhile:

A major factor influencing colorectal cancer in India is diet. The traditional Indian diet, high in refined carbohydrates, sugar, and low in fiber, has changed significantly over the years. The increasing consumption of processed and red meats, along with fast food, is also contributing to the rise in cancer cases. These dietary habits increase inflammation in the gut, making it more susceptible to cancerous changes.

Why Indians Are at Greater Risk of Colorectal Cancer: What You Need to Know

Totally following….

So just had a text from DN
I sent one earlier saying ‘Hey DN looking forward to Sunday and meeting your betrothed again properly ! Been ages so should be nice - mum gave me the heads up re the roast - him being more of a meat man, but all good got loads in!’

DN reply said it all

‘Bloody mum lol
yes he is bit of a meat head
it’s all good tho he will go with the flow. Might bring a couple of bits of that’s okay
as he don’t really do veg.
mums bringing a berry and frozen yogurt pudding too he will deffo eat so I said bring meringue nests too for the others which will be like Eton mess’ then.
Hope that’s okay
see you Sunday

Oh my goodness, he has every woman fixing his needs.

Lost in translation then!

Good luck for Sunday and have fun

Doesn’t he??
what are we playing at!!