Warning to all mums

[ILoveHolidaysAbroad]

No matter how wonderful you make your children’s upbringings, they leave and never look back. I did it all for my kids, the best of everything, no expense spared, I worked very part time to be there with them, they had extravagant birthday parties and holidays to Disney land multiple times. Now they are adults and I hardly hear from them. No fall outs. But they just make their own new families and you become discarded.

When you grow up catholic you’re told that you don’t give to receive

Absolutely agree. My 7 year old son is very much a mummy's boy. He always loves me and comes to me when upset.

You sound like someone who gets very immersed in whatever you are doing, OP, so when your children were younger it was making sure you did everything you could for them, now it's your business, working seven days are week.

Perhaps your children are the same and they are just very immersed in whatever they are up to at the moment. It doesn't mean that it will always be like this.

Mine did at 7. But they do grow up, move away, fall in love, marry, and you hope treat their wives well. Just hope for lovely daughter in law

Sure but have you ever met an Irish catholic mother - the guilt! My mother expects all her sacrifices paid for

I have a bloody Irish Catholic mother, who did sweet FA for her own mother leaving that to my aunt. But expected the world from her own children.

Are you my sibling? My mother would prep all her supporters in advance of momentous family events: weddings, christenings, funerals and then they would give us lecture after lecture - at the actual event - about what terrible children we were while she stood in the background smirking.

Ah to be sure we're all terrible children. Thankfully we stopped caring years ago.

@ILoveHolidaysAbroad my opinion is that usually, secure and happy kids have the confidence to go out in the world and live their lives because they’ve had such a good upbringing. You’ve done well. They know you are there.

In my twenties and early thirties I didn’t see much of my parents. I do now I’m a bit older. It’s just how life goes, I think. They’re enjoying their independence in the world but it will all settle in years to come, I am sure

Evidence?

Ouch

This is a very sad post.
I lost my Mum recently. I'm in my fifties and spoke to her almost every day of my life. I was very grateful for everything she did for me.

I have grown up children - it's so rare I don't hear from them that I worry if I don't......
I am sorry you feel discarded. Give your children space, and hopefully they will realise love goes two ways.