To be hurt and angry that DD told her prof her mum is a TERF and he sympathised

[Dahliadaily]

My DD is at a Russell group uni studying a masters following a 1st in humanities. I’m really proud of her obviously.
We were always really close. She cried for me throughout freshers’ week, relied on my tough love.

We differ respectfully on the trans issue. I am a feminist and a biology grad and believe in the reality of sex and the importance of single sex spaces, the rule of law.

We negotiate this ok and do keep talking. I’m sure that more unites us than separates us. We agree on prostitution for example. But not on the medicalisation of gender.

She is a lesbian. Has lots of gay non binary and trans friends. Her flatmate is a trans man. I’d never make a personal remark about any of them.

My other DD told me that uni DD has got close to a prof (male and gay - nothing sleazy) and told him I was a TERF. He responded “that must be really difficult for you”.

She’s an intelligent young woman, capable of forming her own views. But I can’t help being hurt by her comment and angry with the prof for siding with this idea that I’m difficult or even evil / unkind. It feels a bit like grooming.

How is saying 'humans can't change sex' hate? Please explain?

Good job I don’t take unsubstantiated wild claims from reality denying randoms on the internet with any credulity.

You hate TERFS who I am guessing you consider a minority, does that therefore make you right wing?

No. As I clearly posted, I don’t respond to, what I consider nutters, on the internet.

Why do you believe people stating humans can't change sex are 'nutters'?

I don’t hate anyone. I look at people who have been radicalised against a minority and I feel pity, not hate.

But you are responding.

Don’t know where I said that but feel free to quote me.

I am a minority myself. Gosh, this is so confusing.
Is a brown woman wanting her own toilet more right wing than a white transwoman wanting to enter that toilet? It's minority Olympics! 😂

Why do you think acknowledging that humans can't change sex makes us 'radicalised'?

You're throwing out all kinds of insults here, but literally none of it makes sense.

So that puts you in EXACTLY the same category as most TERFS. TERFS feel terribly sad for you that you have been indoctrinated into believing falsehoods and undoubtedly pity you rather than hate you or anyone else

If you’re a British female, you’re the majority.

That's what the people you think are 'right wing, radicalised, hate-filled, nutters' believe.

What is your problem with their views?

As are males, however they identity. Who is this minority you speak of?

Couldn’t care less though. Unlike yourself.

Females in the Uk are the majority.

"A measure of a civilised society is how the majority treats the minorities"

Actually am really curious @Differentforgirls if my mum insists on a woman- not a transwoman- to do her intimate care as she ages, is that ok or transphobic? She doesn't know what a TERF is, but she knows she wants a woman.

Right. So you are a men’s rights campaigner. A MRA. You should’ve said!

Glad we are agreed then that by your own metric you are right wing. Not sure what it is you think I care about, you are quite confused in your assertions so it's tricky to understand exactly what you are trying to communicate!

resorting to personal insults to a woman doesn’t make you a feminist. It shows your misogyny 👍. Night!

You mean men? You're a MRA then?

You still raging? 🤣

You seem very poor at reading people's emotions. Why is that?

Where’s the personal insult? You said females were the majority, making males the minority. You are on the side of the minority with your wee quote. I’d argue that 51% to 49% doesn’t constitute that much of a minority but hey ho.

Also failing to see how that constitutes misogyny but nothing is appearing to make any sense with you at this stage…