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Original poster

"watch your lip"

119 replies

Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 21:06

So context: I WFH all day, did 2 hours of dog walks, gym then went food shop - didn't stop all day. Partner was off work, slept til 11am, played video games all day with friends until 7.30 when dinner was about ready.

We sat down for dinner (grazing Infront of TV) and afterwards when I finished (he was still eating but a picky dinner). I picked up my.phone to text my sister back. He gave me a very obvious scowl (a well known look for me to get off my phone) and I said to him "I am texting my sister back quickly, I think that's fair and you've been chatting to friends all day". His response was to "watch my lip". I feel f*cking annoyed tbh. Like it's ok for him to do what he likes but I'm a child to be told off but maybe I am seeing it irrationally. AIBU?

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Noorandapples · 31/10/2025 21:09

He'd be getting a slipper flying at his head in my house

BallerinaRadio · 31/10/2025 21:10

Come on, you know you're not being unreasonable 🙄

FionnulaTheCooler · 31/10/2025 21:10

Why are you with this lazy, controlling manchild? Take this as a red flag to leave the bastard. How dare he dictate when you can and can't use your phone.

LuckyCharmz · 31/10/2025 21:10

That’s the sort of thing my dad would have said to me as a teen. Not a partner.

BingBongBish · 31/10/2025 21:11

BallerinaRadio · 31/10/2025 21:10

Come on, you know you're not being unreasonable 🙄

Ridiculous isn't it?

lazyarse123 · 31/10/2025 21:11

Fucking cheeky bastard. That sounds like a threat to me and I don't think you should stay to see what might happen if you don't watch your lip.
How fucking dare he tell you when you can use your phone when he's done fuck all all day.

yeesh · 31/10/2025 21:12

🙈 why would you allow someone to control you so much that you can’t even text your sister?

Arlanymor · 31/10/2025 21:14

"Watch your lip"?

Watch the door doesn't hit you on the way out.

Does he always speak to you like this? Man's a pig isn't he?

And by the way, it's nothing to do with whatever you have both been doing all day. It's a shit thing to say to someone.

Original poster
Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 21:14

BallerinaRadio · 31/10/2025 21:10

Come on, you know you're not being unreasonable 🙄

I honestly don't know, that that's why I asked, he's always telling me to get off my phone when we are together despite the fact I'm on it much less than most!

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Createausername1970 · 31/10/2025 21:19

Asking you to spend less time on your phone when you are together is not unreasonable in itself.

But the way you are describing it sounds controlling and telling you to "watch your lip" is not appropriate.

Springtimehere · 31/10/2025 21:19

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ShenandoahRiver · 31/10/2025 21:21

Are you afraid of him?

GeorgeClooneyshouldhavemarriedme · 31/10/2025 21:24

What exactly do you get out of this relationship?

He's lazy, disrespectful and controlling.

SeaAndStars · 31/10/2025 21:26

You would be better off without this controlling dead weight.
Get out OP.

BlueMum16 · 31/10/2025 21:27

I detest people being on the phone while others are eating. Picky tea sat on knees or not.

But....watch your lip!

How about Fuck right off!

BatchCookBabe · 31/10/2025 21:30

YABU to use the term 'picky tea!'

YANBU to dump this horrible man. 'Watch your lip' or what?

I would have said 'yeah, and what if I don't?'

He sounds vile.

Original poster
Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 21:33

BlueMum16 · 31/10/2025 21:27

I detest people being on the phone while others are eating. Picky tea sat on knees or not.

But....watch your lip!

How about Fuck right off!

This is why I asked because I do understand that me getting on my phone was a bit rude. That's why I wanted to give context so maybe I was rude but also it was the first time I'd sat down and able to reply all day while he helped me with f*ck all so maybe I was just trying to prove a point, I dunno!

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Original poster
Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 21:34

BatchCookBabe · 31/10/2025 21:30

YABU to use the term 'picky tea!'

YANBU to dump this horrible man. 'Watch your lip' or what?

I would have said 'yeah, and what if I don't?'

He sounds vile.

Tbf I agree, I also despise the picky tea term, I was just trying to give context!

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GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 31/10/2025 21:40

Watch your lip?

?!?!

No. I'd have asked him who the fuck he thinks he is! That's outrageous.

He clearly thinks he's 'in charge' and can order you around, while he apparently sits on his arse for a day and does fuck all.

Honestly, I'd tell him I've had enough of his 'lip' and he can fuck off, I wouldn't sit there and be spoken to like that in my own home by anyone. How dare he. There'd be no coming back from that for me, it just shows a complete contempt for you that I wouldn't be able to get past.

ilovesooty · 31/10/2025 21:43

Whatever the context he has no right to talk to you like that.

Rhaidimiddim · 31/10/2025 21:46

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 31/10/2025 21:40

Watch your lip?

?!?!

No. I'd have asked him who the fuck he thinks he is! That's outrageous.

He clearly thinks he's 'in charge' and can order you around, while he apparently sits on his arse for a day and does fuck all.

Honestly, I'd tell him I've had enough of his 'lip' and he can fuck off, I wouldn't sit there and be spoken to like that in my own home by anyone. How dare he. There'd be no coming back from that for me, it just shows a complete contempt for you that I wouldn't be able to get past.

This.

ibuprofenhead · 31/10/2025 21:49

What are the good points about this charming man?

AutumnCosy2025 · 31/10/2025 21:54

Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 21:06

So context: I WFH all day, did 2 hours of dog walks, gym then went food shop - didn't stop all day. Partner was off work, slept til 11am, played video games all day with friends until 7.30 when dinner was about ready.

We sat down for dinner (grazing Infront of TV) and afterwards when I finished (he was still eating but a picky dinner). I picked up my.phone to text my sister back. He gave me a very obvious scowl (a well known look for me to get off my phone) and I said to him "I am texting my sister back quickly, I think that's fair and you've been chatting to friends all day". His response was to "watch my lip". I feel f*cking annoyed tbh. Like it's ok for him to do what he likes but I'm a child to be told off but maybe I am seeing it irrationally. AIBU?

Well first off I want to say I'm deeply envious if your energy level!

he would be an EX if he spoke to me like that & im as soft as soap about breaking up with people. But that lazy bastard thinking he could talk to me like that...NO FUCKING WAY !

WallaceinAnderland · 31/10/2025 21:56

Did you choose to do the dog walking and shopping OP, or did you want him to do it? I don't understand why you are annoyed at him doing nothing if you were doing what you wanted to do.

LeafyMcLeafFace · 31/10/2025 21:57

Nah fuck off. You’re presumably an adult? In which case, if you want to go on your phone that’s your choice.

‘watch your lip’ - fuck the fuck off. He’d be out on his ear.