"watch your lip"

[Dogmama991]

So context: I WFH all day, did 2 hours of dog walks, gym then went food shop - didn't stop all day. Partner was off work, slept til 11am, played video games all day with friends until 7.30 when dinner was about ready.

We sat down for dinner (grazing Infront of TV) and afterwards when I finished (he was still eating but a picky dinner). I picked up my.phone to text my sister back. He gave me a very obvious scowl (a well known look for me to get off my phone) and I said to him "I am texting my sister back quickly, I think that's fair and you've been chatting to friends all day". His response was to "watch my lip". I feel f*cking annoyed tbh. Like it's ok for him to do what he likes but I'm a child to be told off but maybe I am seeing it irrationally. AIBU?

Why are you with him? He sounds horrible. Is he controlling you ? Surely you would want to get out of the relationship. I don't follow why you are with him.

No he was off work to do a hobby thing that didn't happen . He then was just absorbed on video games and it was just assumed I'd sort the rest. He asked me what was happening with shops and dog which usually means he wants me to sort.

What? He said that to you, his partner?

There’s no context or background or information of any kind you could give that doesn’t end with - leave this horrible man.

Exactly! Who the fuck does he think he is?
Kick him out!

Watch your lip sounds horribly threatening to me

Yes it does. There's an implied threat of (at least) aggression to follow, if not violence.

That's the sort of thing that my Dad would have said to me as a teen, and I knew that if I pushed my luck any further, a smack round the ear would have been the next thing on the agenda.

Unless this is a one off OP, I agree with everyone else, you should consider leaving before the threat becomes a reality, men only use this phrase when promising violence in my experience.

Why do you think that being on your phone is a bit rude yet you don't seem to think that him lazing about and gaming for most of the day isn't?
Watch your lip is a threat.
Open your eyes @Dogmama991

He’s a lazy arse then!? It doesn’t sound like a very balanced relationship. It’s probably time to have a good think about whether this is any good for you…

He sounds like a keeper

He asked me what was happening with shops and dog which usually means he wants me to sort.

What did you say when he asked you?

Its the kind of expression a lower class oik would have used back in my parents day.

He does not sound like a kind partner at all! Does he bring lots of positives you have not mentioned to the relationship? If not, I would be wondering why I was with him if I were in your shoes.

Good luck!

As usual, first response nails it! 👏👏

Yes the 1980s called, it wants OP’s ‘d’p back.

Or what?
I would never let my partner speak to me like that, especially if he was sat on his arse all day. Where's your backbone? Time to readdress the power imbalance in your relationship and stop letting him take you for a mug. Argue back, ignore him shooting you looks, ask him why he's looking at you like that, why he's saying that, when he's taking the dog out etc..

He is controlling you and you're making his life easier to do it. Wake up call time!

Fuck him, he’s your partner, not your dad. Sounds like a dickhead.

If he gets worse when you attempt to rebalanced and address the situation then you have your answer.

Men playing computer games all day give me the absolute ick.
‘watch your lip’ guy would be booted out of my life. How dare he?

You made him wait until 7.30 for dinner?

'Watch your lip' sounds like a threat to me. The details surrounding it are actaully irrelevant. It sounds like he thinks he is in charge and that he can tell you off because he has authority over you. I would never accept this from my husband under any circumstances.

Sorry why are you with him? He doesn’t get to talk to you like that. And why is he allowed to video game and sleep all day while you work?

He’s horrible and taking the piss. Leave him now.

What do you find attractive about a man child who plays computer games all day and leaves you to do everything else and then has the nerve to tell you to “watch your lip”??

I’m really sorry to sound a bit harsh here but it never fails to horrify me what some women will just put up with to be in a relationship. Where is your sense of self-respect? Do you really think his behaviour is ok?

The things some women put up with. What happens if you don't 'watch your lip? If you choose to use your phone when not approved of? If you say 'don't speak to me like that'? This is potentially very bad OP. Take him to the Exchange shop and get a better model or have a vacancy for a while. This is the beginning.

In my house, DH would have told me his hobby had been cancelled and asked what needed doing. We’d have split the jobs between us, not a chance he’d have sat on his arse all day. And if he told me to “watch my lip”? I would go batshit!
This man sounds like a lazy, entitled wanker. What is he bringing to the relationship?