To think man I’m dating was wrong to ask this? Or is it ‘normal’ these days and I’m just prudish

[GabbyK]

Man I’ve been on 6/7 dates with and all going well.

I was at a works do last night, posh hotel so dressed up. Sent him a photo of me once I’d got ready.

He replied ‘where’s the money shot’

I asked what he meant and he said ‘your tits obviously’

I haven’t dated for years so don’t know if this is just how things are now..but was I wrong to be taken aback?

It's normal for some men. But not the men I would want to date.

That would give me the instant ick

I wouldn’t have known what he meant either.

It’s only normal with idiots, at that stage in a relationship.

Are you dating Jay from the Inbetweeners?

Er - no, that's absolutely vile.
It would make me stop dating him.
What a disrespectful thing to say.
🤮

Before we rush to conclusions - is he an ornithologist?

That would be the end of that for me. I’d have broken things off with him immediately.

Yes, it can be 'normal'. But we don't have to date 'normal'. And women rewarding these arseholes isn't a good idea.

So no ‘you look lovely’, ‘you’re gorgeous’ or anything similar?
Straight into vulgar joke about money shot?

I would lose quite a bit of respect to this man. It shows what’s on his mind really.

No doubt he will explain it away as him having an ‘edgy’ sense of humour.

Meh, I would be disappointed.

I thought the money shot was a porn term for seeing the man jizz. Never heard it for boobs. Either way it's gross

It's him..perhaps it's more common because of text communication. He might have only thought it before rather than write it down.

Dump him, sign of things to come

It’d be a dealbreaker for me. Pathetic and completely off putting.

Not the sort of man I’d want to be in a relationship with.

Six or seven dates in? When still on your best behaviour and trying to impress the other person?

It might be normal as in, something that happens a lot.

That doesn't mean you have to date him. I certainly wouldn't.

This is what the block button's for!

Horrible. A simple enjoy yourself would have sufficed. Hopefully you didn’t reply and he’ll get the message that his behaviour is out of order.

It is, but I guess in this scenario he could be using it to say that it's a photo that would make him 'offload'?

🤣 brilliant.

But seriously, I’d block and move on.

Either he's using it in a porn sense (and getting it wrong) which is probably an attempt to push boundaries or he's using it in the more general sense of "biggest selling point" - in which case he can fuck off with both the objectification and the commodification.

Time to teach him objectifying a women he's dating is the fasted way to get dumped?

I would never contact someone again who spoke like that.

Yuk. Imagine his humour when he's not on his best/early dating behaviour.

That would put me off. I’d dump him personally as my expectations are sky high nowadays. He’s crude and vulgar so it would immediately switch me off - permanently.

Get rid now. Don’t waste any more time on him. Take notice and cut loose