To think man I’m dating was wrong to ask this? Or is it ‘normal’ these days and I’m just prudish

[GabbyK]

Man I’ve been on 6/7 dates with and all going well.

I was at a works do last night, posh hotel so dressed up. Sent him a photo of me once I’d got ready.

He replied ‘where’s the money shot’

I asked what he meant and he said ‘your tits obviously’

I haven’t dated for years so don’t know if this is just how things are now..but was I wrong to be taken aback?

I know but I now have a zero tolerance mindset. So if I have to even think about if something was wrong it’s a deal breaker.

utter ick

that's what I would reply too

I'd be grossed out if my husband said this to me. And he's obviously seen mine many times!

Why are blokes so disgusting when they have texts and socials to hide behind?

Grim. This is why I'm happy being single!

Instant ick.

No I know it's inaccurate - I was just pointing out the potential basis of the inaccuracy IYSWIM? It's do agree it makes it doubly grating... but then I used to know someone who used to write 'thank you' as 'thankyou' - one word, I never said anything but it used to annoy me and I still don't know why!

I would write

You are dumped bye !

On a piece of paper then block

Absolutely grim

‘Tits’? 🤨 unless you have the sort of relationship where this language is normal or used in a comedic way, I would be so so revolted by this

What on earth are men like him thinking?! That’s the way a man who watches too much porn and thinks of women as things to ejaculate on speaks. I’d never go near him again. How’s he got to his age believing this is the way women want to be treated? JFC.

Is it me or are men getting worse? Much worse? I mean, by all means think it, but to write it?

I would dump him for this. He's clearly got comfortable enough to drop the 'best behaviour' to reel you in.

You can do better OP.
Much better.

Well that was a pretty wet reply and a poor response from him (it’s a jokkkke!).

Yeah me too. How dare he speak to OP like that. I swear to god, If anything ever happens to my DP or if we split, I will never go near another man and I mean it.

I would have dumped him immediately.

I see the nuns have arrived with their perfect well bred boyfriends who never ever say a single word out of line and treat them all like queens 24hrs a day.. 🙄

Haha! Someone writing 'thankyou' instead of 'thank you' would enrage me so much that, if I were dating them, I might have to dump them over it.

I realise it's very much me who would be the problem in that scenario 😶

Yes, it's getting much worse. And it will get worse still - even a cursory glance at a porn site will tell you what men really think of women, and how they have been allowed to escalate that thinking.

I really hope that liberal feminists - ie pro porn, 'sex worker', heavy sexualisation of women is A-OKL, very girl boss and empowering - are starting to wonder whether maybe they've been had.

He does not view you as a potential life partner, he sees you as a piece of meat. Good he signalled his ideas so early in the dating game. You are well rid of him.

I'm not defending the OP's date, because he sounds like a complete oaf, but I definitely think a lot of the 'Well, my boyfriend would never' people would get a hell of a shock if they saw their partner's unedited internet history.

Instant ick. Byeeeee

Tits was used continuously on What Not to Wear. Used to be a word women used. Doesn't change the fact this guy can fuck off though!

Oh stop it. Just because you'd allow someone to speak to you like this doesn't mean other women shouldn't have boundaries. 'Well bred boyfriends'?? You mean men who respect women?

He’s horrible.

Yep, I'd block.