To think man I’m dating was wrong to ask this? Or is it ‘normal’ these days and I’m just prudish

[GabbyK]

Man I’ve been on 6/7 dates with and all going well.

I was at a works do last night, posh hotel so dressed up. Sent him a photo of me once I’d got ready.

He replied ‘where’s the money shot’

I asked what he meant and he said ‘your tits obviously’

I haven’t dated for years so don’t know if this is just how things are now..but was I wrong to be taken aback?

It doesn't take sky high expectations to dump somebody for doing this though.

Dear God.

YANBU OP. It's not that you're 'prudish' it's that men have no fucking boundaries and feel entitled to womens' bodies. The bar is in hell.

Nope.

Did you reply?

Disrespectful horrible message to receive. Block!

"money shot"...ewwwww. I'd have sent a photo of a five pound note, then blocked him.

No id have told him to fuck off in response.

I’d have expected a compliment/hope you have a great time, not a bloody porn style comment. Kick him to the kerb, appalling comment, immediate ick.

The 'money shot' as far as I'm aware is a porn term used for a man ejaculating over the woman's boobs, after sex. It's definitely not something I'd be expecting a man to say after 6/7 dates! It would completely put me off.

Who cares whether or not it's normal for others OP? You don't like it and that is what matters. After 6 or 7 dates he should know what your standards are.

GRIM.

Did you respond? If so, what did you say?

Yeah I said I’d share a photo if one was taken of me later in the night eg group photo but said I wasn’t comfortable taking one just for that reason and he replied to say he was just joking.

Well, at least he’s shown you fairly early on that he’s a fuckwit. I wouldn’t waste any more time with him, frankly.

I would be put off for three reasons.

First, because I'm assuming that hadn't been the tone of your previous conversations and he shouldn't have assumed you'd be fine with that.

Second, because he didn't actually say 'You look great' or whatever, he just demanded a picture of your tits without bothering to compliment you or say something nice about you. It's all about him, the selfish twat.

Third, I would be put off because the term 'money shot' really doesn't mean what he thinks it means...! He's trying to sound all worldly-wise and casual but he's actually got it badly wrong if he thinks a 'money shot' means a picture of your tits.

(For those Mumsnetters unaware: a 'money shot' is actually the moment in a porn film where they show the man ejaculating. I would be put off by a man who knew less about this sort of thing than I do.)

Yes thats the money shot. Utterly gross.

And this is the supposed Honeymoon period......

Just joking, of course.

Ugh. Just no.

That would still be inaccurate, though, and would annoy me. If he's going to try and be edgy, he at least needs to get it right.

The more I think about it, the more cringeworthy it is.

I realise his misuse of the phrase 'money shot' isn't the worst thing about his behaviour, obviously, but for some reason it's the thing that's grating on me the most.

Dump. What a twat

He’s lying.
He’s gross.
Get rid.

All I can say is... oh jesus, not another one.
Horrible.
Sorry...

Yup, absolutely this. 👆
@GabbyK YANBU OP and this would put me right off him. I'd have replied "No, I never send photo's like that - because I'm not stupid."

Yuk. The upside is he’s communicated a lot with that question and you are now free to find a man who respects you before this goes any further.

He's grim, and he's not even clever enough to craft a decent joke or flirt well.