To think man I’m dating was wrong to ask this? Or is it ‘normal’ these days and I’m just prudish

[GabbyK]

Man I’ve been on 6/7 dates with and all going well.

I was at a works do last night, posh hotel so dressed up. Sent him a photo of me once I’d got ready.

He replied ‘where’s the money shot’

I asked what he meant and he said ‘your tits obviously’

I haven’t dated for years so don’t know if this is just how things are now..but was I wrong to be taken aback?

I think she means: She wasn't happy taking a photo just so he could see her breasts.

But she will send another photo (not including her breasts either) of her with her friends when she's with them. So he will only get photos of her socialising.

It's a bit clumsily put.

Some people would find it funny, some would be disgusted, some would be turned on. It's not a new thing either, people were definitely requesting/sending pics over 6 years ago. Maybe even more so in them days before people really considered the security of sending intimate pictures.
Just do what feels right to you, tell him how you feel and move past it together or end it.

I’m by no means a prude but that would give me the ick. It’s objectifying and just plain grim.
This will only be the start of grubby behaviour if you stay with him.

No, it's not normal 👍

To be blunt, OP was just being a wet lettuce. She didn’t want to react to his “show me your tits” comment so she copped out with a “Oh ehm well I’m not comfortable with that but if I’m in any group pictures I’ll send you those.” Obviously no breasts involved, just trying to put him off and passively indicate that she will only be sending normal, clothed photos.

I'm a man, i'd not ask this, i'd wait until we'd gotten there naturally. If you liked me perhaps you'd send me one without asking.

If I was asking, i'd assume that we'd already gotten to a level where we'd already established cheeky banter like this was ok.

Sounds a bit creepy to me.

If I was asking, i'd assume that we'd already gotten to a level where we'd already established cheeky banter like this was ok.

This is not cheeky banter @LeaderBee
It's a nasty, misogynistic comment which demeans all women.

I would block him.

I confused.

He said he wanted a picture of your tits and you said you send him one later in a group?

I agree,

But the same comment once you have established a rapport with someone, it can cross over into "cheeky banter". Couples talk like this to each other regularly once in an established relationship and context matters for a lot.

Agreed. I’ve been with current partner a year now and she regularly requests photos which I’m happy to provide. She even asked for one after the first date and I sent it. But it was consensual and in context. I’d known her a while before we started dating so it wasn’t like we’d just met.

The OP sounds within her rights to be a bit put off if this is the first time something like this has been discussed I’d say. A vary clumsy way of broaching the subject