Cold heartless daughter

[Beeings]

My daughter is 11. I went out to shop earlier and unfortunately fell. Two work men who were nearby came over to make sure I was ok and then helped me home. My daughter opened the door to see me hobbling up the path being supported by these two guys and her reaction? An eye roll. One of the guys said “your mum has just fallen” to which she rolled her eyes again and said “right”.

When they had gone I asked her why she’s so uncaring and she said I make a Rama out of everything and “why couldn’t you just walk home like a normal person? There isn’t even anything wrong with you”.

She’s always been like this, so cold and uncaring, why? AIBU to be upset by her reaction?

I'm not going to roast you but, short of not being able.to walk at all, I wouldn't need or want two men to walk me home. I'd just take it slowly.

I know that because I left work early one day last year because I injured myself and couldn't walk or weight bear properly.

I got a taxi home from work and, when the driver offered to help me to the door, I said, "Ah, no, thanks for offering but I can manage." He asked if I was sure and I assured him I was fine.

I didn't say no because I was being awkward a hero or just obstinate but because that's my default response. I don't see myself as someone who needs help. I'm not 'needy'.

For me to actually accept help from a stranger, I would actually have to be incapable of doing it myself.

Some people are 'needier' than others. Some people like to feel needed and some people like to feel cared about/for and helped. Even if it isn't strictly necessary. Some people don't.

If the OP is a 'needier' person then her daughter might well feel uncomfortable around that. As a parent, my consideration would be that the daughter might become someone who can't accept help because she has such a negative association with it from being a child with a needy parent.

I would be concerned about the emotional wellbeing of the daughter before I thought her cold-hearted. There's a reason she reacted as she did.

Bring it on….😂

I’d have to not be able to walk at all to let two random men basically carry me home. In fact I’d rather they called me a taxi to the walk in centre or wait for a friend or family member.

Knowing I was incapacitated a where I lived with a child alone not very wise tbh.

This is true and we’re never going to know. We all make assumptions based on our own personal experiences. I doubt the OP will return to confirm she’s a drama queen or not so all pointless really!

No you shouldn't get roasted you are being kind. The only problem is OP does not give a lot of information and updates. Very hard to judge really but I personally dont like the title of this chat when referring to a child.

I’m sure the reason that she isn’t giving updates it’s because she’s probably feeling quite crushed at the minute. Imagine having a fall that maybe left her quite shaken, getting no sympathy from her daughter and then everyone piling in to say she was the problem. I fell down the last few stairs at home and really hurt my ankle. I had to sit for five minutes to decide what to do as I was in charge of some kids. I decided to ask my husband to come home until the kids were collected. As it turned out it was just a bad sprain but it shock me up.

I think people might have had more of an open mind if the OP had shown some willing to engage or answer reasonable questions from posters. I'm always a bit wary when people post something controversial like calling a child heartless and then don't engage further.

Yes, it could well have been a sprained ankle. These days there’s nothing to be gained by going to A&E, as they don’t do anything apart from make sure there are no broken bones. No bandaging or crutches either. And if she can put weight on the ankle, it’s obvious it hasn’t been broken.

But a sprain can be very painful and leave you quite shaken up. (I’ve had plenty of sprains and a fracture.)

Although if that was the case, why didn’t the OP just say so?

I think she got roasted and probably very upset.

It was the same last year - lots of responses to a 'daughter ignored fall' thread but not much back from the OP though it was a teenage daughter then, just seems odd but maybe life is stranger then fiction

What i think is weird is the amount of heat this women has had. She fell, was prob hurt and shocked her daughter was rude. She is now being roasted by people who have decided she’s a drama queen. I’m shocked at nastiness on here, and literally kicking her when she’s down.

No you shouldn't get roasted you are being kind. The only problem is OP does not give a lot of information and updates. Very hard to judge really but I personally dont like the title of this chat when referring to a child.

Sorry to hear that. You could be right maybe she is hurt. I feel sorry that she described her daughter as cold and heartless. Lets hope OP posts back to say all is well.

well how old are you? how bad was your fall? Are you the kind of person who always makes a drama?