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To want a South American husband

228 replies

Lostthebubblewand · 25/10/2025 21:10

Bored of dating. Just thinking how great it would be to ship in or import some sort of instant husband like via Amazon. Obviously they would have to consent too lol. No terrible unrealistic expectations nor would they need to be anything other than reliable, friendly and a bit of a laugh.
I wouldn’t even care if he had affairs.
Who would you marry if you had the choice? I’m going through a bit of a reggaeton phase hence the fetishisation of Latino men, I know it’s appalling. But I also think they would make good husbands. Plus be good looking.

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Swiftasthewind · 30/10/2025 17:13

TempestTost · 30/10/2025 17:00

Ethiopians are often quite conservative. No doubt they were very friendly to he but I doubt they'd have taken her home to their mother which would be a lot more indicative of what they really thought of her.

But fetishising people on the basis of race is gross whatever you call it.

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That’s fine, I don’t think she had any intention of settling down with any of them at that time.

As for ‘fetishisation’, how does that account for for what people like to see in a prospective partner? I happen to really be attracted to men of certain ethnicity, and I also like tall men does that mean I have a height fetish too?

TempestTost · 30/10/2025 23:05

Swiftasthewind · 30/10/2025 17:13

That’s fine, I don’t think she had any intention of settling down with any of them at that time.

As for ‘fetishisation’, how does that account for for what people like to see in a prospective partner? I happen to really be attracted to men of certain ethnicity, and I also like tall men does that mean I have a height fetish too?

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If you talk about shagging people only because they are tall, yeah, that probably counts.

I used to know a woman with tiny feet. She often was asked out on dates and realised part way through the man she was with say her mainly as a set of tiny feet. She hated it.

Most people find being sexualised over because of their ethnicity really creepy. Women and men both.

Dweetfidilove · 30/10/2025 23:38

Swiftasthewind · 26/10/2025 19:02

I always wanted to have children with a man of African or Asian heritage, on a fundamental level I think I would feel guilty having a child with another British man and bringing another privileged white child into this world. I’m probably past the age of being able to have children now, but it is pleasing to see that younger generations of women are considering spreading their wings and getting seriously committed to men (and other women!) from outside the community.

It won’t be in my lifetime sadly, but I look forward to a world without prejudice and characteristics to separate us from another. We are all one big human race! ✊

🤔👀🙊🤦🏾‍♀️

StrongLikeMamma · 31/10/2025 18:16

Gwenhwyfar · 28/10/2025 16:38

"would feel guilty having a child with another British man and bringing another privileged white child into this world"

OMG

Yep this is completely nuts.

Swiftasthewind · 31/10/2025 18:36

StrongLikeMamma · 31/10/2025 18:16

Yep this is completely nuts.

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Would you kindly explain to me why that is nuts, and not a justified, genuine heartfelt reaction to the suffering my ‘kindred’ has wrought upon the world?

Gwenhwyfar · 31/10/2025 20:19

Swiftasthewind · 31/10/2025 18:36

Would you kindly explain to me why that is nuts, and not a justified, genuine heartfelt reaction to the suffering my ‘kindred’ has wrought upon the world?

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If you want to make the world a better place you should be bringing your children up to be decent human beings no matter their colour.

StrongLikeMamma · 01/11/2025 05:26

Swiftasthewind · 31/10/2025 18:36

Would you kindly explain to me why that is nuts, and not a justified, genuine heartfelt reaction to the suffering my ‘kindred’ has wrought upon the world?

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You’re taking the piss.

Beautifulhaiku · 01/11/2025 05:51

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Arraminta · 27/10/2025 15:35

God, I bet you're fun at parties!

Anyways, I don't feel I could commit to a one off purchase even with a lifetime guarantee. But quite like the idea of maybe having a Chris Hemsworth timeshare? Ideally the first two weeks in July so I can watch him surfing and running manfully along the beach.

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You can object to racism and still be quite fun at parties. You should try it I reckon.

Beautifulhaiku · 01/11/2025 05:57

Westfacing · 26/10/2025 15:28

The OP fancies having a husband from South America - people from SA are not a race, so nothing racist in that.

Someone else would like to have Nigerian lovers - nothing racist about that either! Wanting to keep it to yourself that you've gone off for some foreign sex is not racist behaviour.

As mentioned upthread, back in the day Scandinavian men were the ideal shag.

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OP literally refers to Latino men.

Cinnamon77 · 01/11/2025 06:16

There's nothing more racist than a white middle class woman who donated to BLM in 2020 and now says "Trust me, if it was racist, I would know and would have called it out"

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 01/11/2025 06:27

I have a Russian to trade in here - strong IT skills and a James Bond villain accent which is useful for diffusing 3rd party conflict. And once generated electricity from a potato. Any takers? Will consider Irish blokes, Canadians or giant poodles.

Ddakji · 01/11/2025 09:16

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 01/11/2025 06:27

I have a Russian to trade in here - strong IT skills and a James Bond villain accent which is useful for diffusing 3rd party conflict. And once generated electricity from a potato. Any takers? Will consider Irish blokes, Canadians or giant poodles.

I love a Russian accent. But I don’t have anything you want to trade ☹️🤣.

Swiftasthewind · 01/11/2025 09:19

Who would want a Russian after the way they’ve behaved in Ukraine? So much for solidarity with the Ukrainian people.

The Indian accent on a man is so much better anyway.

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 01/11/2025 09:21

Swiftasthewind · 01/11/2025 09:19

Who would want a Russian after the way they’ve behaved in Ukraine? So much for solidarity with the Ukrainian people.

The Indian accent on a man is so much better anyway.

Are you suggesting I’ll have to consider a smaller Poodle to account for devaluation in the ruble?

SnowFrogJelly · 01/11/2025 09:26

Lostthebubblewand · 25/10/2025 21:10

Bored of dating. Just thinking how great it would be to ship in or import some sort of instant husband like via Amazon. Obviously they would have to consent too lol. No terrible unrealistic expectations nor would they need to be anything other than reliable, friendly and a bit of a laugh.
I wouldn’t even care if he had affairs.
Who would you marry if you had the choice? I’m going through a bit of a reggaeton phase hence the fetishisation of Latino men, I know it’s appalling. But I also think they would make good husbands. Plus be good looking.

Buy a husband on Amazon?! Now I’ve heard it all

Pouy · 01/11/2025 09:38

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 01/11/2025 06:27

I have a Russian to trade in here - strong IT skills and a James Bond villain accent which is useful for diffusing 3rd party conflict. And once generated electricity from a potato. Any takers? Will consider Irish blokes, Canadians or giant poodles.

Teenage me, always thought id end up with a Russian husband, after meeting just one and having the biggest teenage crush on the accent 😂my best friends brother was hosting him staying as a school exchange thing.
I only have a French husband though, so nothing on your trade list!

BackBackAgain · 01/11/2025 09:48

I fear for your dm's

PeonyPatch · 01/11/2025 16:41

TempestTost · 30/10/2025 17:00

Ethiopians are often quite conservative. No doubt they were very friendly to he but I doubt they'd have taken her home to their mother which would be a lot more indicative of what they really thought of her.

But fetishising people on the basis of race is gross whatever you call it.

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I kinda agree - we shouldn’t fetishise people based on their race. It’s actually gross. Focus on the person in front of you rather than their race or ethnicity. This thread is rather strange so I’m gonna clock out 😬

Arraminta · 01/11/2025 18:09

Wait? What? Is it wrong for me to festishize Chris Hemsworth running manfully through the surf then???

Cinnamon77 · 01/11/2025 18:17

Chris Hemsworth is an individual, he's not a race

Arraminta · 01/11/2025 19:00

Cinnamon77 · 01/11/2025 18:17

Chris Hemsworth is an individual, he's not a race

No. He's clearly a demi God, from a race of demi Gods.

Swiftasthewind · 01/11/2025 19:40

I find it absolutely incredulous that having a preference for dating black men is somehow racist or ‘fetishising’ people of colour. I suspect most of the posters scolding a woman for her preferences are actually halfway outing themselves as white men utterly affronted at a woman having the audacity to not fall at their feet and worship the very ground they walk upon.

Carla786 · 20/11/2025 21:36

Swiftasthewind · 26/10/2025 12:53

I recall I read a study in a magazine back a few years back and they ranked men from all the countries in the world and British men came right at the bottom! My younger self was surprised but with age it has become absolutely clear that they weren’t wrong! One of the biggest unseen advantages of immigration is all the hunky foreign men that are instantly accessible and I just love it so much!

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What were they ranking them on?