To want a South American husband

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Bored of dating. Just thinking how great it would be to ship in or import some sort of instant husband like via Amazon. Obviously they would have to consent too lol. No terrible unrealistic expectations nor would they need to be anything other than reliable, friendly and a bit of a laugh.
I wouldn’t even care if he had affairs.
Who would you marry if you had the choice? I’m going through a bit of a reggaeton phase hence the fetishisation of Latino men, I know it’s appalling. But I also think they would make good husbands. Plus be good looking.

This kind of thing?

Not a surprise. Most are awful at sex, enough for it to be a stereotype really. I wonder if it is abroad! In fact I’ve heard of men finding pleasing a woman a turn off!

Plenty are misogynistic and I think in worse ways than described in the thread.
Obviously a personal taste thing but I think many are very feminine these days - not for me. Personally I find a man who wants to take care of/ provide for his family (wife & kids) extremely sexy.
And just in my experience they lack a certain charisma and expect women to fawn at their feet (and we often do??).

Perhaps immigration will cause British men to pull their socks up!!

Yes not all British men - but vast majority!

I have no idea why his head's cut off. I didn't do that deliberately.😳

Also quite ugly as well. This might sound a bit crass but I find British men have a sort of, I don’t know like an inbred look, that’s what my friend once described it as and once she said that I could not unsee it!

Fetishising men based on their ethnicity is extremely racist. Everyone seems to think that because the conclusion to their posts is pro the non-white race then it's fine.

Posts like 'I just want to book a flight to somewhere like Nigeria to hook up with as many black men as possible in two weeks. I'd be too ashamed to tell anyone when I got back though' are racist and if anyone doesn't realise that then they are probably racist as well

Cool xenophobia.

Reggae and reggaeton related but not the same (reggaeton is influenced by Reggae). Reggae is Jamaican but definitely not Reggaeton.

aye, okay… thanks for clarifying!

The OP fancies having a husband from South America - people from SA are not a race, so nothing racist in that.

Someone else would like to have Nigerian lovers - nothing racist about that either! Wanting to keep it to yourself that you've gone off for some foreign sex is not racist behaviour.

As mentioned upthread, back in the day Scandinavian men were the ideal shag.

Are people really encouraging sexual exploitation on this thread?

It’s a complete shit show isn’t it. Racial fetishisation, national stereotyping, racial stereotyping and discussing the genitalia of whole groups of men. But it’s just “bants” apparently.

Ew.

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@JHoundhardly… I can’t speak for the others on here but it’s not so much fetishising a race as appreciating the values of another culture and thinking it would be easier to find romance in a country with those values. So less emphasis on finding your ‘perfect match’ ‘soulmate’ etc and more on finding someone who you quite fancy, can have a laugh with and who likes my cooking.
In the same way that white men started marrying women from Thailand or Russia due to wanting to be put on a pedestal, British women are choosing to date foreign men to escape the shit that British men put them through, such as not committing, expecting women to be both breadwinner and domestic goddess, not really wanting to compromise hobbies for family life, all that shit. As we head towards further equality, women like me who have had children, are home owners, professionals, good self esteem will choose men who are less effort. I don’t need a provider nor do I need sperm. I just want a good time and to be treated like a lady.

In the same way that white men started marrying women from Thailand or Russia due to wanting to be put on a pedestal, British women are choosing to date foreign men to escape the shit that British men put them through,

Both of this is problematic.

Hispanic is an ethnicity and saying you want to fly to a random country of black people for two weeks to have as much as shameful sex as possible is the textbook definition of racism. It's profiling men based on their race - it's not seeing them as individual people but instead a colour

It's not fetishising a race says the person who literally said in the OP that she's fetishising Latino men.

Yes it's just like British men getting a Thai bride - and those men are both disgusting and racist

I second this. I have many LA friends (women) and none of them would marry a LA man ( cheating and not treating women well as top reasons)

@Cinnamon77what would be the difference if I was a Latina who wanted a British man, or a Latina who wanted to marry an Asian man?

If by British man you mean a white man (which is probably also racist) then it would be equally racist.

Asia is a massive continent of many different races and ethnicities. I don't know what you mean there - it's not comparable with Hispanic men

Don’t meant to derails the thread but I can’t decide between a miniature and a standard poodle.

Can you sway me either way bostonchamps?

How is that sexual exploitation? The men in these countries love it as much as the women who go there do, this is not the same as a white man going to Thailand to try and pick up a young bride, which I would absolutely say is sexual exploitation.

The two just simply aren’t the same, it sounds like you are jealous quite frankly.

@Cinnamon77i think you’re the one who’s being ignorant now, Latin America is a huge continent too. I didn’t specify whether my preference was indigenous, Mestizo, Latin Americans of African descent, Argentinans of Italian or German descent, Japanese Peruvians… the list goes on. I don’t mind, my post was not about looks but about culture and values, and style! Ethnicity is irrelevant.
And no I don’t mean white British, I mean British, culturally British, as in would it be wrong for a Latina to dream about a polite, slightly eccentric, posh British man (of any colour!) as I think many non British women do! Look at the appeal of meeting Hugh Grant for American women? Why is my post any different to that?

You can’t say that all South American men cheat and treat women badly. DH is South American and treats me better than any man has and never cheated. He cooks, he cleans (more than me) he loves doing family things.

It's exactly the same as Thai brides. It's older, richer people who hold all the power targeting younger people who have a lot less. The British men justify this in exactly the same way - saying the women love it, are really into it, know exactly what they're doing and are getting a better life out of it

Do you think Latin America (80 times the size of the UK and ten times the population) is one culture? I'm not even sure Britain is one culture that can be generalised in that way

No it’s not the same at all. The power dynamics are entirely different. In fact, one major reason a lot of women cite for travelling to these countries for a man is that they are looking for someone who is masculine and traditional because they consider the men back home to be lacking in that department.

My last partner was a coward who spent his weekends painting and playing with little toy soldiers and wouldn’t say boo to a goose. I can see where they are coming from to be perfectly honest.