Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

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Relatives have turned up to stay unannounced from 60 miles away. I was looking forward to having a very chilled weekend watching what I wanted on tv and snacking with some lovely walks.

AIBU to think its rude to turn up unannounced?

So did they stay ?

As long as they're really cool ghosts and add Halloween atmosphere. If they're Enfield poltergeist type 70s weirdos then I'll tell them not to bother.

Such hyperbole! No-one is bursting into tears of compassion for OP. Lots of people are agreeing that uninvited guests who turn up to stay with no warning are really annoying. OP hasn't actually said who these people are so they may not even be her parents. Shoehorning in some emotional blackmail about dead parents isn't necessary.

60 miles is an hour away, that’s nothing. They’d have to go home if they did that to me!

@Wot23OP hasn’t actually said it’s their parents? You don’t have to put your regret you didn’t treat your parents properly whilst they were alive onto someone else.

Just say no. 60 miles is around an hour away.

Just casually mention that you've all just got over norovirus, that should send them packing.

We definitely need more info from the OP before we can judge.

Perhaps OP has taken on board all our suggestions, and a violent confrontation has led to police custody for one or all of them?

I personally do not have a problem with people calling unannounced for a quick chat,tea and cake. HNRTFT so maybe a back story. Definitely YANBU if just a call from nowhere.

Well... there might be a clue in the thread title, something about coming to STAY...

You have ruined your own weekend by enabling their rudeness.

It's very rude and they wouldn't have got through the door if they'd turned up at mine.

Why are they coming to stay? Can’t they visit another weekend?

Just say no, Zammo!

Sure, it's rude. But I guess you caved? So they'll just do it again.

I’d be so pissed I’d tell them to go home. Or I’d tell them I had plans and go out for the entire day and night and not spend a second entertaining them or catering for them. It’s incomprehensible that anyone would think this is okay behaviour.

This didn’t happen. You're eight pages deep on a mad story with no explanation, don’t waste your breath.

I am one of those iconic Mumsnetters who does not answer the door unless expecting someone. I run a business so time is money to me. I look at the ring doorbell picture and if its someone I dont know or want to know I dont acknowledge them. It could be the king of England but if he has no appointment I dont want to know. I have a sternly worded notice to that effect. Its not my problem if people cant read English or follow simple instructions.

I have occasionally answered and told them Im on the on the app and am away in X. "What a pity you didnt bther to make arrangements." I dont drive so there is no car there to give me away if Im inside. I get a real sense of tee hee hee from doing that.

They only live an hours drive away! Go home.

Grow a pair and tell them that, then.

Who are they, anyway? Have they done this before? It’s not remotely normal to drive 60 miles to see someone without telling them, and even less normal to expect to stay for the whole weekend.

oh LOL, no OP simply stated relative, I asked whose side, a fact everyone who has taken offence at my post has ignored (and Op has not answered).
Love the fact you too are now stretching into pure speculation.

please confirm how times per week you saw your parents up to the day they died? In my case it was at least once per week so stick that in your pipe and smoke it.

Why did you let them in?

good to know you consider that expressing an alternative viewpoint on here "isn't necessary"

I am so sorry this happened to you. I am betting it will never happen again!
People who are so brazen as to turn up uninvited and to stay deserve a short, sharp NO. "I have other plans made for this weekend and cannot accommodate you this time. Let me know the next time you are planning to visit, and I will see if I am around." They know you have a kind and caring nature and took full advantage of it. Shame on them.

Oh my goodness how amazing to see you. I’m actually just about to go out but could do a cup of coffee if you fancied that? Where are you off to next?