Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

[Teizzz]

Relatives have turned up to stay unannounced from 60 miles away. I was looking forward to having a very chilled weekend watching what I wanted on tv and snacking with some lovely walks.

AIBU to think its rude to turn up unannounced?

Very inappropriate.

I only found out after my husband died that his ex used to do this to their son and DIL all the time. It drove the DIL demented, but mummy could do no wrong, so the DIL didn't want to rock the boat.

Sounds like it doesn’t it ? Presumably they’ve been accommodated in the past so think they can do it any time. I would be putting on my coat and telling them i have plans, so off they pop !!

Oh my days, I need more info!!! 😨
Is anyone else sweating on an update and needing more details and context?!!!
😫 🙏 😩
As my hubby would say, I'm sweating like a nun with a cucumber here, luv! 😆 🥒 🤣
Come on OP! Tell us what happened next in this saga!
Did you kick them to the kerb? 🤔
Or did you start being as disgusting as possible to make them awkward and uncomfortable? 🙏
Great tricks like: Dry shaving legs in the lounge, clipping toe nails, picking nose and eating it, belching and farting, scratching your arse and sniffing.
You know, all the sexy tricks? 😆 🤣 😂

Red Herring argument. OP knows they won’t be able to turn up unannounced when they’re dead - the point is she wants them to stop turning up unannounced now.

OP must be quite busy entertaining them tonight.
I would hate that. And I would never just turn up unannounced. So rude , especially to want to be put up for the weekend too.

Mine are dead.

I still think that it is completely bizarre for anyone to turn up on someone else's doorstep expecting to be hosted overnight, without so much as asking them first.
(Aside from someone fleeing domestic violence or something which I'm sure the OP would have mentioned).

Why didn't you say no?

Did they think you would love the surprise? Awks

Even if you're the sort of person who were happy to put them up with no notice - if you're that hospitable, you might already have people staying. Or you might have plans to go out. Or be staying in with a new boyfriend. Or just taking time alone to recover from a busy week.

At 60 miles, they can easily go home again. And if they don't want to, in my town, I know where the hotels are.

“Would you like a cup of tea before you set off home” is a very useful weapon in your arsenal. Otherwise this explains the meme I saw this week and saved for just this occasion

I would be so pissed off!!

My parents are dead but I'm not one of those annoying posters who will try and guilt trip an OP by saying that I'd give anything to have my parents back and them turning up to stay unannounced.

This is just breathtakingly entitled. I can’t actually believe anyone would do this…

I quite often do a 350 mile round trip to see my parents, there and back in the day. 60 miles is nothing. Say they're welcome to stay a couple of hours and then bye bye.

It's rude.

Same as popping in without texting / phoning .
Also so rude to out stay your welcome.
People are selfish .

Nobody turns up to stay unannounced. I don't think this is a real post and I have reported it.

DD1 is 25 and she and her fiancé are going to a theatre show near us a fortnight tonight (she lives in a smaller city about 90 minutes drive from here). She knows that they are always welcome to stay over here but when we spoke earlier she checked that it was ok for them to stay over. This is her family home but she still checks.

Who are they? Why did they just turn up? Surely they know you well enough to know you’d not appreciate this!
I don't know anyone who would do this!

good to know you would rather not see your parents than unexpectedly see them. It won't be a red herring when you know it will never happen again...then you might show more interest / care

💯 agree with you. What if you had plans to be out all day? Or were with friends, on a day out etc. how odd. What was their reasoning for showing up?

OK so you are one of those posters who won't accept an alternative viewpoint and think everyone should burst into tears of compassion for the OP over something as trivial as an unannounced visit?

Hell no. I would absolutely hate that and I don’t think I’d be able to hide my annoyance 😬 DC are both currently under 16 but I imagine they’ll be the only unexpected “visitors” I’d appreciate! DP and I are having a much needed restful weekend after a tricky week and I’d be really gutted if someone imposed themselves upon us tonight. Tell them to politely piss off.

@Wot23 .

No-one is bursting in to tears. Don't be ridiculous.

good to know you would rather not see your parents than unexpectedly see them. It won't be a red herring when you know it will never happen again...then you might show more interest / care

No-one is saying that.

Everyone - even those of us who have lost our parents - are simply saying no-one in their right minds turns up to someone's house without notice, telling them them they are coming.

I am part of that everyone, and I quite like it when people pop in for a cuppa unannounced, but I would also be totally okay if I called on someone for a cuppa, to find it wasn't convenient. I wouldn't expect anyone to let me in if it weren't.

It’s not an alternative viewpoint, it’s an over dramatisation. If you can’t see that this isn’t trivial to the OP then it’s a case of pot, kettle, black.

What bullshit.