Neighbours request

[isitmytime]

This might be long so I apologise
I’ve lived in my house, end terraced, for 3 years.
neighbour was a little over friendly to begin with but much better now and we are polite and friendly but she’s no longer messaging me daily etc.

i work shifts so I’m up at 5am or coming home in the early hours. She caught me yesterday morning and asked for a quick chat and complained about noise (she’s previously said she never heard me and I’m hardly in, which is true) I don’t watch the tv at these times, I either get showered and ready for work and leave or come in get ready for bed and read a book in bed.

she’s requested the following:
no toilet flushing, shower running the tap after 11pm or use the downstairs toilet.
if I’m up early that I don’t shower in the morning or use my hair dryer.

she also moaned about me closing the car and front door, using the extractor fan when cooking, the washing machine/tumble dryer being on after 8pm and some other minor things, this is just in general not time specific.

She was most put out that I said I’m as quiet as I can be but that I won’t adhere to her request and that it’s normal living noise when in attached properties.

this morning she allowed/encouraged her 5year old to stand at my path and scream for a good 10mins while they were getting ready to leave for school. She obviously thought I was still sleeping after getting in at 2.30am but I was up and was leaving the house. The child ran in saying mum she’s just left.
AIBU to continue as normal and ignore her ridiculous request?

Update
now I know she’s making this up…
Last night I stayed at DPs he was passing mine so picked me up around 7pm and then dropped me off on his way to work about 7.30am. My car was obviously still there so looked like I was home.
I was out the front when the neighbour and friend returned from school drop off and overheard her bitching and moaning about noise last night!
The friend was encouraging her to say something. I said morning and asked if everything was ok and they both quickly went inside.
I’m baffled! I’m going to go round when her partner is back home and try and find out what the hell is going on.

She's doing it for the drama. She's got something to whinge about to her mates in the morning.
I'm all for ignoring, but I would actually speak to her partner now and tell him, making it clear that you overhead her talking and that you were not home last night so any "noise" must be coming from elsewhere. I wouldn't accuse her of lying because that never goes down well (however true it is) but more that you want to find out who and what is causing the issue as it's not you.
Best of luck. Hopefully she'll feel a right twat at being caught out fibbing, but she seems the type that won't.

So…I spoke to her partner just as he got home from work. I made it look like I was just popping round to speak to her when in reality I’d been hovering about waiting to see him arriving back!
I explained I was just wanting to chat to her about the noise issues and he was really perplexed so I explained what had been happening the last few days. He didn’t have a clue what was i on about but that he’d speak to Her and ask what was going on.
She then came out and wasn’t very talkative just asked him why we were chatting then went back inside without addressing anything.
I actually feel a bit sorry for her after speaking to him. There’s been a traumatic incident in her close family and she’s apparently not coping at all. He’s confirmed they’ve never heard anything she was complaining about and that she’s never mentioned anything to him either.
she’s seeking help from her Dr, he was home early to take her to an appointment and said he’d speak to her as they last thing they want is to piss me off and for to to actually start being noisy and cause and issues. Obviously I’m not going to do that and I feel bad that she’s got so much going on in her life that she’s behaving a bit erratically. I don’t know the reason she chose to blatantly lie but hopefully it won’t happen again.

I didn't think she sounded very well @isitmytime but I didn't mention before because it can come across as a sexisr trope

It’s good it is in the open for everyone’s sake. You did a good job OP

sounds like you are a really nice neighbour

So in other words, your NDN is a trouble-making idiot.

Her family issue wasnt caused by you - so she loses any sympathy right there.

I'd still tell her to fuck off if I were you when you see her next.

"I actually feel a bit sorry for her after speaking to him. There’s been a traumatic incident in her close family and she’s apparently not coping at all."
Your sympathy is misplaced. Whatever is happening within her family, you are not being noisy and her lying that you are is not helping her close family, is it?

@isitmytime there is given what you have said and her behaviour a chance she isn’t lying - auditory hallucinations/hearing things is a symptom of depression/sleep deprivation and having a psychotic break.

given how you describe her and what is going on it is possible that is the case

I don’t think it’s as severe as hallucinations etc I just think she wanted something to be angry at that took her away from the main thing that’s going on.
of course her lying was not the right thing to do but she’s been caught out and hopefully won’t do it again. Her partner did say she’s not told any friends about what’s happened and asked me to keep it to myself, by lying she was getting sympathy/attention from her friends just about the totally wrong thing.

She sounds like she’s possibly in the throes of perimenopause also. I see this behaviour often.

Wow, that's a pretty insulting generalization.

Ewww

Where do you often see it?

It isn't.

@Francesteini’d very much doubt it she’s only in her 30’s 34/35 I think. I think it’s grief that’s caused some sort of breakdown.
it’s been all quiet since yesterday. Actually not even sure any of them have left the house today.