Fed up of ‘sexual’ dynamic between DP and my friend

[Georgiamayy]

One of my friends is very sex positive and not at all backwards when it comes to discussing things.

There have been countless examples where she has been drinking around DP and I’ve found the conversation a tad inappropriate. DP isn’t someone who I’d describe as overly forthcoming usually but around her he happily talks about sexual things.

I feel like last night crossed a line though. We were out as part of a wider group and my friend drunkenly blurted out how I should give ‘X’ a go. X being a sexual act which I’ve previously told DP I’m not interested in. She was really persistent about it, and when I spoke to DP he admitted they’d had a conversation and it had come up.

Im not sure who I should be more annoyed with, and if I just need to lay down the law now?

I hope you told her to stfu.

She's not much of a friend is she.

I don't think that she's "sex positive". She's just crass.

Why do you still speak to her or see her?

She's trying to shag your husband and isnt your friend

Sometimes it seems like “sex positive” means “desperate Pick Me”.

He's being telling her things that you do / don’t do in bed and she is now pressuring you to do those things?

This is massively inappropriate on so many levels. Even if she wasn't your friend, ganging up on you to do something you're not keen on sexually is wrong. Him telling her is a huge breach of trust. Them having private sexual conversations is really wrong. I'd be making clear with him just how much he has over stepped and I'd be distancing myself from her. And expecting him to as well - and if he doesn't, I think I'd be concerned about the nature of their relationship

Tell them (both) to stop it.

Sex positive? Nice excuse for being a bitch.
Your partner's boundaries are shit too. Soon she'll be fulfilling the desires you won't.

She just gave your DH a very clear message that she is willing to do whatever sexual act he discussed with her. And she is covering her tracks by encouraging you to do it. She isn't a friend. And you have a DP problem, because he was also clearly testing the waters with her.

If it were me I’d distance myself from her and make sure my dh is doing the same. Yanbu it’s inappropriate from him to discuss and she has then used it to put you down in front of others.
she’s not a true friend

You know if she were a man i believe the word you would use is letch! "Sex positive "is just her excuse to be letchy and a creep towards your husband and probably other men id have to say something

Bin them both off OP. Your dp has betrayed your trust and she isn’t a friend of your relationship.

And yes why is he encouraging her ? I might be a prude or old fashioned but I would never discuss my sex life with a man

I think I'd be having a serious conversation with my dh if he discussed private things outside of our relationship. I wouldn't be friends with this woman she's too 'coolgirl' .

What a pair of arseholes. Who presumably are far too interested in each others.

She isn’t into men so I doubt that!

😂 my exact thoughts

Fine...
She's still not your friend
Why do you still see or speak to her?

Then you still have a DP problem....and she still isn't a friend.

Get rid of them and watch how fast they fuck each other.

I'm guessing it's not pegging then 🤪

Yes.

She’s someone I’ve known for years, so out of duty I suppose…but we are very different people these days

Is your partner a man ? Anyway she is still being a creep regardless

This.

she is not your friend.