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Trans woman in Riot Women! WTF?

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OneBadKitty · 18/10/2025 19:59

I usually love anything by Sally Wainwright, but what was she thinking by have a trans-woman in a band called Riot Women that is supposed to be full of menopausal women singing about HRT and other female related issues?

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BundleBoogie · 22/10/2025 23:11

Darker · 22/10/2025 22:48

Cis woman here. Happy to stand with @Kreepture and others on here, and to advocate for treating trans men and trans women with respect and dignity.

How lovely. Just a quick point to say that redefining yourself as a subset of women in order to accommodate men is not at all in the interests of women and kind of proves the point of women on this thread objecting to this man taking a woman’s job on a show about middle aged menopausal women.

Happy virtue signalling!

DoinFineIThink · 22/10/2025 23:13

BundleBoogie · 22/10/2025 23:05

Ok. Let’s say that anyone who defines themselves as a ‘cis woman’ is not working in the interests of women.

Telling women they're "womanning" wrong - how very feminism 🙄😁

BundleBoogie · 22/10/2025 23:14

Btw. This is the somewhere near the bottom of that slippery slope. He is very likely to end up punching a woman to death in the boxing ring for all to see.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5431505-boxing-the-other-one-lin-yu-ting

BundleBoogie · 22/10/2025 23:16

DoinFineIThink · 22/10/2025 23:13

Telling women they're "womanning" wrong - how very feminism 🙄😁

Well including men in your definition of woman is definitely not feminism - not that we’re actually talking about feminism here. Just women.

BIossomtoes · 22/10/2025 23:28

BundleBoogie · 22/10/2025 23:03

Odd comment, but we were talking about the one in the programme who appears to be pretty hostile to women.

OK, so those of us who think that men who actually rape and assault women are more misogynist than a fictional character in a show,

That’s just an attempt to obscure the issue being discussed on this thread. This isn’t just about a fictional character in a show. This actor is quite hostile to women irl. He is also a man. How do you differentiate him from any other man who is hostile to women?

we were talking about the one in the programme who appears to be pretty hostile to women.

That character is anything but hostile to women.

RogueFemale · 23/10/2025 00:13

TheKeatingFive · 22/10/2025 20:02

And yet there are so many groups dragging their heels and trying to avoid implementing the Supreme Court judgement.

However leaving that aside, dont you see the contradiction in saying to someone 'yes we accept you as a woman, but not in this circumstance, or this circumstance.' Isn't that just fundamentally very strange and a confusing messsage to send to someone?

I don't accept the premise of' yes we accept you as a woman'.

For a start, if you have a penis, you're not a woman.

It's not at all confusing, except for the bit where you expect people to pretend you're women.

Womenareamazing · 23/10/2025 00:49

IWantThisJob · 18/10/2025 20:01

Agree. I liked the show in all other respects but this was so jarring.

In a show that discusses the multiple rape of a 12 year old child, violent attacks on women, corrupt police, suicide and misogyny the thing you found

TesChique · 23/10/2025 04:33

BundleBoogie · 22/10/2025 13:38

Fyi i am very gender critical, but i am NOT intrinsically a mean, nasty, bitter person

Erm… you said this though. 🤷‍♀️

Id wager you were cunts long before this debate and youll be them long after

Yep. I did. Not being a mean person doesnt equal not standing up to people.

Calling someone i dint know a pervert, however....

We decry the trams movement on here for being aggressive and saying evil things, you are no different

Namelessnelly · 23/10/2025 05:38

DoinFineIThink · 22/10/2025 23:13

Telling women they're "womanning" wrong - how very feminism 🙄😁

Telling women they have to accept men into the category of woman and going so far as to shoehorn themselves into a subset of women to allow this. How very feminist. Nothing like bowing to the patriarchy and allowing men to define womanhood. That’s true feminism right there. Well done

Serpentstooth · 23/10/2025 07:10

SW has written a part for a trans actor. A trans actor is playing that part. What next? Cancelling Shakespeare because Juliet is 14?? Shylock's part looks dubious to modern eyes. Elder abuse in King Lear. Please note that Juliet would have been played by a male when written. The premise of this thread is absurd. Unless SW states publicly that she was forced to shoehorn a trans actor into a production where he/she has no valid part, perhaps we could leave her to get on with her job ie making entertaining Sunday night tv with broad appeal at which she is extremely successful.

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 07:12

TesChique · 23/10/2025 04:33

Yep. I did. Not being a mean person doesnt equal not standing up to people.

Calling someone i dint know a pervert, however....

We decry the trams movement on here for being aggressive and saying evil things, you are no different

Standing up to the evil women objecting to a man in what was purported to be a woman’s ‘space’ you mean?

Such a worthy cause - go you.

I haven’t called anyone a pervert. 🤷‍♀️

StandFirm · 23/10/2025 07:31

BIossomtoes · 22/10/2025 23:28

we were talking about the one in the programme who appears to be pretty hostile to women.

That character is anything but hostile to women.

It really sounds like pp hasn't bothered to watch the show. It makes all their points irrelevant as a result.

thepariscrimefiles · 23/10/2025 07:32

TheKeatingFive · 22/10/2025 19:54

Well of course it's relevant. Are you saying we're not supposed to take anything from this in terms of how men identifying as women are viewed by society?

Earlier in the thread, someone said that it was great that this programme showed this character being 'accepted as a woman' by the community.

So if that's a great, positive takeout, then I'm asking that we think through the consequences of that. Is it a good thing if men are accepted as women? What about when that starts to infringe on women's specific needs and experiences? Where do we draw the line?

Where do we draw the line? I presume that you would like a ban on employing a trans actor in a female role on the BBC even if it's a really tiny peripheral one, with no back story or evangelising?

Other posters have said that they would object to a trans actor being cast in any role, unless the role was about a male to a female transition and it was shown in a very negative light.

The mantra has always been that the objections to trans women are about their access to women only spaces and are just about safety. I don't think any women were put at risk during the filming of Riot Women so the strong reaction on here seems to be due to a visceral dislike of trans women.

StandFirm · 23/10/2025 07:36

Serpentstooth · 23/10/2025 07:10

SW has written a part for a trans actor. A trans actor is playing that part. What next? Cancelling Shakespeare because Juliet is 14?? Shylock's part looks dubious to modern eyes. Elder abuse in King Lear. Please note that Juliet would have been played by a male when written. The premise of this thread is absurd. Unless SW states publicly that she was forced to shoehorn a trans actor into a production where he/she has no valid part, perhaps we could leave her to get on with her job ie making entertaining Sunday night tv with broad appeal at which she is extremely successful.

Agree. I find this whole thread very patronising towards SW who is one of the most experienced and talented writers working in British telly right now. I think she knew exactly what she wanted to do with that character and how the character was meant to fit into the story and wider relationships. And she definitely knows how to write women.

thepariscrimefiles · 23/10/2025 07:48

OneBadKitty · 22/10/2025 22:45

Having now watched all episodes it's pretty clear that the trans character is a shoehorn as they are literally insignificant to the plot. Shame they had to have them in the band and not in a more likely role.

Hebden Bridge is known for it's lesbian population, and it's general eco and sustainable culture with lots of organic, vintage, craft shops, and locally sourced shops and markets, not it's trans population. I'm a local and it's a very accepting place in many ways, but never particularly noticed more transpeople than anywhere else.

Sally Wainright has form for her brilliant casting and writing of women's issues and roles. This feels like she was pressured into including some of the characters in the name of inclusivity and diversity.

The issues faced by the main characters were very much women's issues and not universal for transwomen.

I very much doubt that Sally Wainwright was pressured into this. This is just wishful thinking on your part.

'The songs were written by ARXX - a punk duo from Brighton made up of Hannah Pidduck and Clara Townsend.

Wainwright said: "They wrote the music and the lyrics, but we also offered them bits - for example, our police advisor, Lisa, came up with the first line 'I'm so depressed, I can't get dressed'.

"So again, we all put little bits in, but ARXX really turned it into their own and brought their fabulous energy to it."'

The duo ARXX who wrote the songs have said that they are are trans inclusive. In an article in Rolling Stone, it says that:

'Having cut their teeth in the DIY punk and feminist scenes of Brighton, ARXX’s Hanni Pidduck and Clara Townsend, who are both in their thirties, produce music that traverses themes of queer love, joy, mental health and trans rights.'

You do Sally Wainwright a disservice by assuming that she holds the same bigoted views as you but was pressured into being inclusive by the BBC.

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:01

StandFirm · 23/10/2025 07:31

It really sounds like pp hasn't bothered to watch the show. It makes all their points irrelevant as a result.

No. The man playing the backing singer character in the programme is hostile to women.

BIossomtoes · 23/10/2025 08:03

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 07:12

Standing up to the evil women objecting to a man in what was purported to be a woman’s ‘space’ you mean?

Such a worthy cause - go you.

I haven’t called anyone a pervert. 🤷‍♀️

What “woman’s space”? As someone right at the beginning of this thread observed: it’s a TV programme, not a toilet. I was at university with Sally Wainright - same year, same course and unless she’s changed beyond all recognition in the last 40 years, nobody tells her what to do. She’s thebadass bitch she writes about.

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:06

Womenareamazing · 23/10/2025 00:49

In a show that discusses the multiple rape of a 12 year old child, violent attacks on women, corrupt police, suicide and misogyny the thing you found

Using the topics of rape and sexual abuse that sadly is very much an experience of many women to berate other women for objecting to an unnecessary man in what purported to be a show about women is a new low.

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:08

Serpentstooth · 23/10/2025 07:10

SW has written a part for a trans actor. A trans actor is playing that part. What next? Cancelling Shakespeare because Juliet is 14?? Shylock's part looks dubious to modern eyes. Elder abuse in King Lear. Please note that Juliet would have been played by a male when written. The premise of this thread is absurd. Unless SW states publicly that she was forced to shoehorn a trans actor into a production where he/she has no valid part, perhaps we could leave her to get on with her job ie making entertaining Sunday night tv with broad appeal at which she is extremely successful.

Apart from PPs claiming that on this thread to defend him being there I haven’t seen any evidence that it was specifically written for a man unless you have?

BIossomtoes · 23/10/2025 08:24

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:06

Using the topics of rape and sexual abuse that sadly is very much an experience of many women to berate other women for objecting to an unnecessary man in what purported to be a show about women is a new low.

It would be if that was happening anywhere other than your imagination. It’s blatant distortion of what’s happening.

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:51

BIossomtoes · 23/10/2025 08:03

What “woman’s space”? As someone right at the beginning of this thread observed: it’s a TV programme, not a toilet. I was at university with Sally Wainright - same year, same course and unless she’s changed beyond all recognition in the last 40 years, nobody tells her what to do. She’s thebadass bitch she writes about.

That’s why I put ‘space’ in quotes. It is metaphorically a women’s ‘space’ as it was a programme clearly marketed as being about mid life menopausal women.

Shoehorning in a man to play a female character is unnecessary to the show and just demonstrates how determined some people are to prevent women having things for us. I have no idea why SW did it but clearly that part of the show is objectionable to a number of women. The only mystery is why some women wish to criticise other women for making their feelings known.

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:54

BIossomtoes · 23/10/2025 08:24

It would be if that was happening anywhere other than your imagination. It’s blatant distortion of what’s happening.

In a show that discusses the multiple rape of a 12 year old child, violent attacks on women, corrupt police, suicide and misogyny the thing you found [jarring]

It was literally what was said. You tell me how that is not using those topics to berate other women for objecting to that man.

Darker · 23/10/2025 08:57

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:01

No. The man playing the backing singer character in the programme is hostile to women.

Hostile to all women?

Or trans-exclusive women who insist on calling her a man?

BIossomtoes · 23/10/2025 09:00

BundleBoogie · 23/10/2025 08:54

In a show that discusses the multiple rape of a 12 year old child, violent attacks on women, corrupt police, suicide and misogyny the thing you found [jarring]

It was literally what was said. You tell me how that is not using those topics to berate other women for objecting to that man.

Because those things are what the drama is actually about. They’re the context. And the women’s space argument is ludicrous, you’ll be suggesting men shouldn’t watch it next if you carry that to its logical conclusion.

Darker · 23/10/2025 09:15

It looks like Sally Wainwright wanted it to be a trans-inclusive ‘space’, even though the key focus is on the experience of cis women.

I’m sure she could have included a storyline for Miranda about the violence that many trans women experience, but maybe Miranda’s quiet presence and inclusion in this group is the story Sally wants for her.