Why do British people (at least on MN!) Have such issues with adults celebrating birthdays?

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This has always been really striking to me & I've been on this site on & off for at least 15+ years.

The idea that adults like to celebrate their birthday brings out such negative reactions. I've never understood it!

Is it a cultural thing?

I'm Irish & we generally love to celebrate & speaking for me & my circle, we see the joy in marking these occasions as so many dont get that privilege.

But MN is another world when it comes to this!

Why is that?

Well i can say i do have my windows open all year round cant stand to much heat or that stuffy feeling.
I dont wear shorts though lol i have fluffy pjs.

I don’t think they have issues with adults celebrating.
it’s the DH bought me a Ferrari, he didn’t even wrap it.

I've never had a birthday party in my life and have no intention of ever doing so, but I really don't give a toss what other people do as long as it doesn't affect me. However, the fact that I don't celebrate my birthday seems to offend quite a lot of people, so it works both ways. It's just as unreasonable for people who love parties etc to complain about those of us who don't as vice versa.

Ha, haven’t read that. They are clearly very very Superior People.

Mumsnet seems to be dominated by chewy faced, sanctimonious misery guts. I'm a long term user and its actually not as bad as it used to be tbh . I think it's less about the celebrations and more about trying to be as far away as possible for those they deem 'loud and brashy'. It's very classy to just sip water and stare at the wall don't you know?

I have windows open.
That's really not my point! 😂

Oh, treat yourself! It's a good one!

All of this.

This. Life is short and the world can be a horrible place, we need as much joy and good vibes as possible. I never did the whole baby shower or gender reveal thing because it's not my thing, but I love watching GR videos on Facebook.

It was my birthday two weeks ago and I’m still celebrating. I had birthday dinner round 2 last night. All the birthday banners are still up. I went away last weekend (not for my birthday, it was for a meeting), but I took my birthday cards with me and decorated my hotel room 😂). I celebrate my birthday for like a month. I wouldn’t expect anyone else to, other than Dh and dc who come along for the ride, but life is short. We should be having fun while we’re here.

We don’t! At least me and my friends don’t. Who are these miserable buggers who don’t enjoy celebrating each other’s birthdays?

At my 50th, I loved the short but funny and loving speeches from my husband and adult kids. I like that my kids can see me as a person with a history and friends and as someone who can be celebrated. It was a fantastic evening. We looked after the guests very well too. So much food and drink!

I think it's more that a certain amount of posters HAVE to disagree with any Op just to be arsey .
They are usually full of their own anger

In ‘real’ life, I’m sure that most people celebrate birthdays. On MN (especially for the unknowing few that make the mistake of posting on AIBU), there’s a bunch of people sprinting faster than Usain Bolt to be the first to criticise and humiliate anyone who posts about having a birthday celebration, or about their birthday being ruined - usually by their third rate partner.

I love celebrating my birthday, even to the point of buying myself presents.

It's fine to celebrate birthdays but on here people seem to get a bit hung up about their birthday being "perfect" or presents being right.

I find it weird that they care that much.

God knows!! I don’t just have a birthday, I have a birthday week!!

I am starting to realise MN is just another world full stop! Such bonkers attitudes on here it really is quite incredible. I am with you - celebrating birthdays is great!

So true hahahaha, also so much hate if you have any nice things or like your life - or MIL!

Because it's childish, and I don't like being the centre of attention?

I'd much rather celebrate something communal, like Christmas, where everyone gets gifts and it's about being together.

Because it's childish to go out for a meal or have a drink with friends?

Okay

Every adult I know celebrates their birthday. DN always treats herself to a few days away for hers. DS always does something, as do I. I don't drink alcohol, so wouldn't go to the pub, but I do go out to eat, get pressies and have a cake.

Birthday celebrations are great. Birthdayzillas aren’t (kicking off because their present wasn’t good enough, somebody didn’t cancel their wedding to come to your non-milestone birthday, somebody didn’t intuit you wanted them to organise and pay for a massive bash for you and all your friends, somebody couldn’t afford your 9 day overseas birthday extravaganza and made their excuses…)

It’s birthdayzillas who I see getting their arse handed to them on here. Not somebody just having a normal birthday celebration.

It's full of women who are resentful martyrs, or who don't like celebrating birthdays but have no emotional intelligence to realise it's their issue, not because it's a terrible thing to do.

I have a real challenge celebrating mine but am acutely aware that it's a me issue not that I am right and therefore superior.

It's like the odd person who told the woman who was thrilled to have been upgraded to business that she must not show any excitement at all - why?

Oh FGS birthdays are such over the top attention seeking crapology, especially when they are celebrated like a wedding. Honestly what goes on in people's heads to think that anyone but yourself is even remotely interested in how many candles you need this year. I'm sick of it.

But I don't believe much of what is said on various threads, so roll your dice about the above paragraph. 😊

LOL what? going out for a birthday meal celebration is "childish" and yet sitting around a Christmas tree festooned with baubles with presents delivered by a fat man in a red suit trimmed with fur in a sleigh is, what- "mature"?

LOLOL