Are these red flags?

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I have begun seeing someone and have feelings for them but I am worried that there are some red flags. Would appreciate any views.

Previously spent time in prison around 10 years ago
Had some issues with drugs and alcohol until fairly recently
Speaks quite negatively about his ex gf

They are pretty big issues but everyone has a past and he says he has changed. Am I stupid to believe this? What would you all do?

Yes to the freedom programme.

What makes you happy? what does your ideal day look like? can you do more of that?

What does your life look like? do you work? family? friends?

It’s not an over night cure to do all of these things- you need to look at it as a journey with highs and lows. There will be good days and bad. No one is ever happy all the time either. Some days are just shit and we have to learn to sit with that and think what can I do to help myself that’s good for me. Just reaching out on here is one of those things. Because it makes you realise that there are also a lot of good caring and decent people in the world that genuinely want the best for you even though we are all strangers! You need to have faith! Believe in the best version of you that perhaps you cannot see yet. But she is there. Take it day by day. Look for the small simple things in the present moment and take the time to appreciate them . Even if it’s just a nice coffee or a chat with a friend.

'Everyone has a past' is a really silly thing to say. The pasts of most people don't include addiction or prison.