Would this be embarrassing in your family?

[Lorecan]

I know it’s only trivial but it’s hit a nerve.

So my family finds everything embarrassing. As a result I’m rarely able to say anything meaningful or share a soppy toast ona birthday for example. I think it comes from Dh who finds any expression of emotion saccharine. DC have followed suit.

Yesterday we watched Baby Boom (in memory of Diane Keaton who is a fav of mine) and I really enjoyed it. As the credits rolled I raised my mug and said “RIP Diane”.

Apparently I was being embarrassing! I’m hardly a soppy git and quite low key myself but it would be nice to occasionally be a bit more emotional

anyone else have families like this?

Also, a toast usually belongs at formal mournings or celebrations, so doing it for a celebrity you didn’t personally know feels odd as if borrowing the language or an act of real grief for something
the whole thing is entirely mawkish. So cringe.

Jesus, this thread. It really isn't that deep.

When I went on holiday with my teens in the summer, we saw palm trees and I commented that palm trees are like a symbol of resilience, as they bend but don’t break.
My daughters have taken the piss out of me ever since, for being so corny 😳😄

@JMSAsomehow that was corny but sweet.

what op did was cringey though

In the summer when doors and windows are open you can hear the cheers and clapping from my neighbours when England score. I guess we live in Cringeville.

Is this a joke - a Mumsnetter parody, how is a informal toast in the company of family so in private, akin to laying flowers for dead celebrities?

It’s always nice to be nice and kind, show your children it’s important to express their emotions. We all say how much we love each other every day it becomes part of who you are. That said my mums not that good with vocal or physical emotion & my kids are more stand offish with her than their more expressive grandparents and aunts. Nothing wrong with showing your emotions. Good for you for trying

@Lorecan
I don’t think it matters whether others find it cringeful . I personally do find it cringeful but that’s just how I am, but I would hope the people I love would feel free to express themselves in the way that felt best to them.

Not at all embarrassing in our house OP! We would say what we felt and no one would laugh at us. I would say something similar if we’d seen David Bowie on TV or Freddie Mercury…all the talent that we don’t have any longer. I clap a Hollywood handshake…so what? No one in my family would blink an eye.

It wouldn’t happen in my family. I find it a bit cringe, but that’s me. I wouldn’t tell a person that unless the specifically asked.

It really isn't that hard to follow. I find weeping over the death of public figures and schlepping for hours to lay flowers in a wilting pile or file past a coffin to be odd. Because of that, because of who and how I am, and my innate reaction to it, I know I would also find it cringey if someone I was with raised a toast to the death of an actress. It was a comment on my own reaction to others' behaviour.

Yes it would be
but we're Irish and take the piss out of any more sensitive behaviour. In our house every time we through a tea bag out we'd toast it when you were around.
Fully accept that we're emotional deep freezes though.

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