I have just had a mortifying first date situation. Can people please tell me their stories for solidarity?

[FatGirlSin]

I met “Tom” online and we had been talking a few weeks and getting on well.

Tom told me lots about his cat sooty and I was happy he was an animal lover.

Met up for the first date at a bar between both our houses and hit it off straight away, we had some drinks then were supposed to be going for a meal but a drunk woman knocked her drink over him so Tom suggested we walk to his house (very close by) he could change his top and at the same time he’d order us an Uber to the restaurant.

We got to his house and Tom went to change his top and I waited and had a glass of wine in his living room. I noticed a black cat on the windowsill and opened the window and let it in, Tom was ready to go so we left.

The rest of date went well until the end of the night when we parted ways. Tom rang after he got home sounding astonished and asked if I’d let a black cat into his house.

l said yes I thought sooty wanted letting in, Tom then told me that sooty is an indoor cat and was in🙈.

Sooty is a grey Persian with a black nose and tips of ears, the cat I’d let in was a neighbours cat and the neighbour had seen him through the window in Toms house and wasn’t impressed.

Both cats were unhappy about each others presence and Tom had to clean up the house and calm down his neighbour and explain he hasn’t deliberately been attempting cat napping.

I feel so embarrassed and I told my best friend that I thought it was an easy mistake for anyone to make, she said that it was just typical of me.

Has anyone else blown a decent date doing something embarrassing? I’m not sure I’ll hear from Tom again.

I knew a girl who said “could you please hold my bag while I use the ladies?”
And she crawled out the toilet window and he never saw her again.
Until 30 years later when they had an affair.

Tom then told me that sooty is an indoor cat and was in🙈.
Was in what????

“offered to lick me out behind the railway station”. 😂😂😂😂😂😂. How on earth could you refuse such a silver-tongued charmer?

The house. He was in, not out.

HHH

I’m surprised he didn’t name his cat Jerry 😝

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People do a lot more than just go round to a man's house on a first date, believe me.

you must lead a very sheltered life.

This is absolutely brilliant, OP! Started off my day with a laugh 🤭 Hope you can both move past it. Just the idea of these two cats having a face off when you and Tom are out having a laugh 🤣

Has there been a second date OP?

Did he give her her bag back?

I noticed a black cat on the windowsill and opened the window and let it in, Tom was ready to go so we left.

and at no time during the rest of the evening did you mention this. aye, right.

If he doesn’t want a second date he’s a tool. That’s a great “how we accidentally stole the neighbours cat on a first date and look at us now” story for the wedding.

Was his house clean and tidy? To have a house presentable when a visit was not expected would be a good sign in my book.

Like your friend said this is your fault. It’s mildly funny but tbh you should not have let the cat in as you were intrusive here and presumptuous. It might have been Tom’s cat but he might have been purposefully leaving it outside on his date for any number of reasons - the cat might have been an outdoor cat prone to pissing all over house in his absence. So the right and sensible nothing to do - what I’d imagine 90% of people would do here - is simply wait till Tom came down and say hey Tom does your cat want to come in? Tbh if a date had done that with me I’d think they were overly familiar too soon. Fact it wasn’t even his cat isn’t actually that funny as it might have gotten his cat pregnant or fought with it.
If you’re going about opening windows to let his cat in, would you likewise start going in fridge and cupboards to feed it?
Try have more boundaries! Like people said it’s also not a great idea to go back on first date.

@Chickensky, I think I'm surprised that he didn't show pics, as I'm surrounded by people who will readily show pics of their pets very quickly (myself included!) 😂

Thank you for the LOL’s 🤣
Hilarious!

Ha ha. This is the sort of thing thst would happen to me🙄

Eek northerner here who would usually use ‘it goes through me’ to mean it makes me feel physically uncomfortable like nails on a blackboard. Will be more careful saying it in future 😂

Lol be grateful sooty wasn't in heat and you let a tom cat in! Otherwise you would have to commit to help raising babies!

Very true!

Omg. Lucky escape

You went to his house on a first date, while he changed his clothes. While understandable in the circs and not a situation he’d set up or predicted, THAT was bad judgement.

The cat thing was pretty ridiculous.

This. OP is a red flag, cannot believe she just went and did this in a strangers house. Where are her manners? And how could she not mention it afterwards, like oh btw I let your cat in. They could have fought badly. I don’t even think OP offered to help tidy up after this or offer to apologise to the neighbour.

It goes right through me - I recognise all meanings cited as normal, interested that others don’t. So for:

Food = diarrhoea
Drinks = need wee very soon
Sound of nails on blackboard = makes me shudder

The mistake would be using the ‘shudder’ version to describe food or drink! Also doesn’t make sense because ‘goes right through me’ is always a physical experience, as I understand it.

That's hilarious. I'd like to think Tom found it hilarious too; I don't think I'd like a man who was upset by it or decided it was a reason not to see me again.
It's a great story for the future.