She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

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It’s my DD’s 18th Birthday tomorrow and we have parties planned etc but of course social media being so big I will acknowledge her bday on my SM platform.

I was planning on putting the title on my post tomorrow but wanted to get your opinions first. Is that ok? She is stunning and beautiful btw, though I’d put her main attributes first, funny, loveable, beautiful personality etc…

If my mum had put a gushing FB post (tho it wasn’t around in those days) for my 18th, I’d have died of embarrassment.
I find it so odd and cringeworthy when people do this.

Why do you need to put anything on social media? Just wish her happy birthday!

I find all happy birthdays on social media to people you will see on the day totally cringe tbh. Same as all the endless public declarations of love. Just tell them in person!

Be honest OP. Would u post if she wasn’t stunning / beautiful and all these other attributes. You seem more taken with her looks. It’s a show off post.

I'm not a pedant. But if you're going to quote Shakespeare, quote him properly.😉

I think that these kinds of posts are meant to highlight the poster rather than the person being referenced, 'Oh look what a loving mother I am' . Poor daughter.

what's wrong with being beautiful?

You can be smart , AND talented, successful AND an athlete, AND beautiful.
There are some stunning young girls out there, they do have parents somewhere.

I find it 10 times worst to make it sound like a burden or pretending it's not true.

No one needs to be ashamed or hiding when they ARE beautiful, and if a mum writes "to my beautiful daughter..." that's her job anyway, of all the parents who need to find a person beautiful, the mum is that person 😂

Why do you have to justify your feelings for your child to others?

Is it not enough that you think your daughter is wonderful?

’My lovely daughter is 18 today! Happy Birthday, Anna’ is simple enough if you feel the need to advertise on Facebook if you’re that thirsty for attention and likes.

My teen would die if I did this. Just don’t 🤣

This is one of the most OTT reactions on here tbh. She is stunning and beautiful, both on the inside and the out, but that doesn’t matter on here because no one knows us in real life so it’s subjective on here I admit.

I completely understand why it’s bad to focus only on physical attributes solely and I also totally get the views of posters saying she’ll be cringing to death so don’t do it, however, if you think it’s ‘bad parenting’ to say, as a mother, that your child is beautiful, then I think that is far more detrimental to your child!

If your own mother can’t say ‘you’re beautiful’ or you look lovely to give them a bit of confidence, then that’s a poor doo. Regardless of whether they believe their child is truly beautiful or not according to wider society, it will give them a little confidence boost regardless. Everyone wants to feel attractive or pretty or the like at some time, regardless of what they say!!

It’s not the most important thing no, but we’re all human after all and it’s a sorry state of affairs if you’re own mother can’t say it (for whatever reason…!)

OMG! I am exasperated! Celebrate your daughter! Put anything you want to! You, as
her mother, you are her biggest cheerleader. You can’t celebrate her enough.

I have a daughter, my only child, I cannot ….OMG….express how wonderful she is. She is kind and is as beautiful inside as she is outside.

She knows how I feel about her. She is a mother of 2 now and a wife and has a successful business. She is 32.

Yes, life has its knocks, and when that happens,
she calls me, comes over has a cry and we turn it around, have a laugh!

Don’t hold back!

Of course you can say this. To me, it seems odd not to say it to your daughter directly, instead of to the whole world.

Aww thank you - I love this! Made my night reading this through all the doom and gloom.

And that’s you told too! @honeylulu

😂😂

And, I am will add, that when I see my daughter, which I do quite regularly, and I realise that I forgot to tell her how beautiful she looked, I say to myself “oh damn…” She is a confident and compassionate human being. Let’s celebrate our daughter’s.

I do say it to her directly. It’s not the whole world, it’s my FB. Most people on it acknowledge their children’s birthdays, it’s certainly not rare.

Bit why bother in the first place?

Would you notice if Sandra didn't post one year?

I love that on mumsnet people reproach op for posting about a teen birthday on socials. It is wholly appropriate to use FB and socials for a birthday greeting. In fact it is unusual to not use SM.

Performative messages by people saying how much they love their husbands are why I left FB. It was like being in a Hallmark store.

I think it's more normal and less naff to pop into the next room to tell your husband in person.
Luckily my family agrees.

But if your family likes this kind of thing and won't cringe, then post what you want.

I guess most people acknowledge their kids birthdays on SM so it puts some kind of pressure if you don’t. Perhaps if it wasn’t a significant birthday I wouldn’t feel as pressured. I don’t post much, perhaps 5/6 times a year for perspective

In my world no-one does this on social media!
Even on family and friends WhatsApp groups no-one posts messages celebrating their own child’s or partner’s birthdays.

Oh come on! Mumsnet is the OG of performance parenting. The bragging (everyone husband is a six figure salary titan and the kids are all sporty genius) MN is the mothership of emotional incontinence. Emotional Out pouring about neighbours,husband,Mother in law

“Happy birthday”

Thats your experience and so the expectations won’t be there for you but that’s not the case for many people. I don’t live my life on SM by any means but its finding the balance

Not the same thing at all as people don’t know who you are.
Also, why brag about your husband’s salary? Women should be able to brag* about their own.

*or just be able to state it on an anonymous forum when relevant