She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

[CandleMug]

It’s my DD’s 18th Birthday tomorrow and we have parties planned etc but of course social media being so big I will acknowledge her bday on my SM platform.

I was planning on putting the title on my post tomorrow but wanted to get your opinions first. Is that ok? She is stunning and beautiful btw, though I’d put her main attributes first, funny, loveable, beautiful personality etc…

I agree and am ardently against sharing photos or info of your children online however OP’s daughter is about to be 18. She’s an adult and I dare say has her own socials where she’ll no doubt be reposting birthday messages from family and friends. Hopefully both OP and her DD’s SM are private.

It’s my DS’s 18th tomorrow and it’s not crossed my mind to concoct a social media post extolling his virtues to the world. He’d either not see it or die of embarrassment so I’d only be doing it for myself, which feels a bit icky. I don’t feel the same when people post about their babies or little kids’ birthdays, but it’s less common when they’re 18 and on my SM only seems to happen when they’ve overcome some adversity to make it to 18 which seems fair enough rather than doing general ‘my child is amazing in all these ways’ 18th post, especially bringing beauty into it.

Put whatever you like :) it's your post. Everyone will jist say happy birthday underneath if they want to and then thats it.

I find it odd you have to ask this. Are you new to social media that you don’t have confidence about what she would like or your intended audience.

Separately, I see nothing wrong with celebrating someone’s beauty. I don’t know what the desperation is to make it secondary to other traits someone is born with.

Omg how cringey!!!
why everyone feels the need to tell everyone how beautiful, intelligent, blah blah blah and what a lovey amazing young person they are

it’s a “look at me I’m an amazing mum” post followed by “please all post to boost my daughters ego”

I ignore all posts like this!

How is it narcisstic and vain? Because you birthed said child? How odd.

Geez, what a miserable bunch of people are on here. I like looking at social media posts from my friends about their kids. I love seeing their kids grow up. Otherwise I wouldn't be friends with them.

Then just say something like: 'So proud of the woman you're becoming.'

The whole 'beautiful on the inside...' thing is a bit naff.

If it's the type of post you would usually do and she is usually ok with then go ahead I suppose.

I hate gushy stuff though and my kids hate it even more. I rarely post anything about my eldest as he is quite private but is happy with birthday messages and other special occasions as long as he gets to pre-approve any photos. On his 18th birthday I posted a short video clip of him diving on holiday with the caption "taking the plunge into adulthood, happy birthday X".photos

She is as beautiful inside as out is a potentially barbed "compliment" as you are saying someone is only a nice person if they look nice on the outside. A bit like when Titania says to Bottom "thou art as wise as thou are beautiful " with the joke being that he is neither!

Not everyone wants such overt attention, especially these days on social media so everyone sees it! I'm 77 but I can still vividly remember my 16th birthday. We weren't a family for great gestures but when I was getting ready for school I heard Happy Birthday Sweet Sixteen being played on the record player downstairs, I refused to go down until it finished, such was my loathing of it and that was just Mum and my brother!

Yaaaaaawn . . . social media is SO yesterday . . .

Horrible, sounds like something a sleazy old uncle would say as he tries to look down your top.

Ooooh no I hate these cringe syrupy "tributes" what's wrong with " happy birthday to my lovely daughter, have a great day "

Put you want. Everyone’s eyes will glaze over when they read it anyway, and they’ll just write Happy Birthday in response.

Please don't put anything on social media! It's incredibly tacky and will just embarass your daughter. It's also totally unnecessary.
Just tell her to her face how you feel (or write it in a card). That's all that's required.

It’s cringe, tell her you love her, no need to gush all over FB, nobody’s interested

post a pic if you want the memories, but over sentimental mush is too much

Put what you beany @CandleMug

I love seeing my friends kids posts, especially the ones where they include a few pics of them growing up. Or ones where they give us a glimpse into yhe adults they are becoming.

I do a little reel every year for my kids, the oldest is 26! I know they are probably a bit embarrassed, but I also know they actually love looking back at memories too.

And, quite frankly, if my mum ever actually publicly told people how proud they are of me and my siblings, instead of always moaning about me, i would be thrilled.

It is as thou art beautiful.
Not as thou are beautiful.
Bottom is not wise but he has been enchanted to appear beautiful in Titania's eyes.

Hmm I am not your target audience as I don't have any social media accounts (unless MN counts). It sounds fine to me.

Whether you should do a social media post full stop is another question though. I do find them cringey when they're about partners or family members tbh, but as I say, I'm not the target audience! I'm sure people who enjoy sharing on social media will like 👍 it

Awful idea. It should be assumed you think she is anyway. And you’re leaving it wide open to smutty comments.
I don’t really see why you want to announce it at all. I do understand some people have that need though. It’s hardly a crime but the idea of proud self-posting is alien to me.

I think “beautiful inside and out” is fine but alternatives are to post a few pics and say how proud you are of her. I think it’s very natural for parents to think their children are beautiful, so I see nothing wrong with your post tbh.

What would you say on SM if she wasn’t physically beautiful? In which case - say that.
ETA my dc would be mortified if I mentioned them on sm - are you talking Facebook? I think my dc are gorgeous but they are very closed with their SM (rightly) and would laugh at me if I said anything ‘to them’ on there when I could and would just tell them in person. But then I don’t have dc who are obsessed with sm and online lives

Hackneyed.

Omg what a horrible thread full of nasty, miserable comments.
Is there really any need to be such a bunch of bullies to someone asking an innocent question?

Your daughter is only 18 once OP. Write whatever you feel like. Don't say nothing and then regret it because of what some anonymous keyboard warriors on MN said.
You know your daughter and only you know if she will be embarrassed or if she will love it.

Do you really want to take the advice of smug twats who think saying
"Why dont you try saying it in real life?"
makes them sound oh so original and clever? It really doesn't.

Don't let them win and make you feel bad.

Pedants' Corner is over there >>>
😂😂😂

Happy birthday to my amazing and wonderful DD