She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

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It’s my DD’s 18th Birthday tomorrow and we have parties planned etc but of course social media being so big I will acknowledge her bday on my SM platform.

I was planning on putting the title on my post tomorrow but wanted to get your opinions first. Is that ok? She is stunning and beautiful btw, though I’d put her main attributes first, funny, loveable, beautiful personality etc…

This is Mumsnet after all, so it can’t be surprising to find out Mums ask for opinions about anything and everything… It really isn’t strange in the grand scheme of things

I knew you’d get flamed for this OP! This is Mumsnet after alI - there’s a zero tolerance policy when it comes to things like birthday celebrations and the notion of physical beauty.

I think it’s an absolutely fine and normal thing to say to and about your DD. You’re overthinking it.

Oi, that’s not how it goes on AIBU. You don’t graciously thank posters,and reflectively depart
You’re supposed to get defensive,argue, calls us all cows and then flounce
I demand you retract your reasonable reflection and give us all the fight we expect

maybe focussi on her now being an adult. Happy birthday to my amazing daughter looking forward to sharing the future with you.

a newborn pic with 18 years old today I did not dream of all the fun we have had. Excited to see what adulthood brings! Happy birthday.

If you're not going to see her to say Happy Birthday in person, surely you can phone her and say it? Or write it in a card?

Why does she have to receive her birthday greeting via some third party app?

It sounds cringe and cliche. Can’t you think of something else? A simple happy 18th is better.

This is why I love Mumsnet - you get some twat* but you get lovely funny good spirited posters too, like you and @manicpixieschemegirl who I will tag separately.

Thanks both, you’re what the world needs! X

How embarrassing! Please don't. Just say happy birthday with a photo. Not 10 photos and a gushy message. Her friends will take the p out of her.

Thanks for this fab reply! I love it and it’s why I love this site. My god there are some knobs here but these nice replies often stand out to me, the supportive ones that understand where you’re coming from.

So thanks again lady, much love ❤️

Aww I’m so sorry to read this @Stephybris62 that’s really sad and just goes to show that whilst some may cringe about a SM post, others would appreciate it more than anything. My Mum passed away when I was a similar age so I understand what you’re going through 💕💔 Thank you for you post, it puts things back in to perspective for me x

Lots of my friends make FB posts for their young adult kids' birthdays. They often put a baby pic next to the birthday pic, with a couple of lines on how exciting/inspiring/surprising/awesome/terrifying it's been to see their paragon through to adulthood.

I don't think there's anything wrong with your first thought, OP, but my friends don't actually call their kids beautiful - youth is beautiful and, anyway, there'll be long string of slightly creepy comments on her looks. They tend instead to praise their brains, ambition, wit, creativity, achievements, etc. My favourites are where they include something like 'piercing sarcasm' or 'can charmingly put anyone at ease, or crush them with a hard stare'.

Point being, they're personalised. And they ALWAYS say they're proud of the person the kid's become!

This.

Yes buck that trend. Social media, it’ll never catch on. No siree. I mean who at 18 looks at the socials
Of course,you’re taking your own advice and saying all this in person..,,oh hang on..

I post this sort of thing on my social.media, & friends pass on their best wishes.
It's entirely up to you what you put on. Say whatever you want. I tend to avoid mentioning their physical attributes, & mention their strong character traits but that's me. (They've been feisty since they exited my womb. Not that I'd put that either!)
Enjoy the celebrations!

Do you even care about how your DD might feel about you posting about her birthday on your social media, or is it only about how YOU feel and the fact that YOU want internet attention?

It's not very original.

This.

No there is no need to say this or anything like it on social media

If you’re going to mention her looks and add a photo, don’t put a duck faced, filtered photo on, those are very cringeworthy.
i do think mentioning her being beautiful never goes down well, it immediately sets her up to be judged, either people disagree and think you’re delusional or they’ll agree and think you’re braggy, and that will reflect in her, people will assume that she thinks the same. If you want to tell her to her face she’s beautiful that’s much nicer.

Less soppy.
:If she could see herself through my eyes, she would know how special she is, inside and out"?
I hope you both have a lovely day..

Write her a personal birthday card/letter, tell her how proud you are of her etc etc. list her characteristics that delight you, nicer I think, than the over effusive
public announcement. Other people I suggest do not see her how you do.

Your post was so poorly constructed, i'm struggling to believe it wasn't written by some randy teenage lad.
Please read the play: "Linda." You might be enlightened.
My boy and girl twins will be 18 at the end of this month. I'm immensly proud of them, and yes - they're talented and beautiful. No way I'd cheapen them by creating a show boating thread on here, or plastering them all over social media.
This really is all about feeding your ego isn't it?! Gordon Bennett!

I put a post on Facebook for my daughter’s 18th saying Happy Birthday, how proud I was of her etc with a few photos from when she was born up to her 18th. The following year when the memories pop up I realised she had untagged herself 🤣🤣. Not all teenagers appreciate gushing social media posts lol.

Why do you have to put anything on 'Social Media'??

The whole thing makes me cringe - as well as the fact you are asking strangers what to write about your own daughter.

What about beautiful inside and out?