Page 10 | She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

ArabellaSaurus · 13/10/2025 22:47

Mother wishes her daughter a happy birthday, expresses her love for her. Friends & family express birthday wishes. People who are not interested glance at it and move on.

SpottedDeer · 13/10/2025 22:50

Ladymeade · 13/10/2025 22:19

Gawd...this is why I can't stand social media sometimes... I just don't get why people need to state on a birthday post how clever, funny, talented etc. their child is and how proud they are of them blah blah... Who is the post actually for?

To attention seek via the child. To look good to others. To remind their aquointances they exist.

greenleafy · 13/10/2025 23:12

sugarapplelane · 13/10/2025 22:19

But that’s simply not true. I would probably say that most don’t.
The only people I know who post about their kids birthdays are the ones that fawn and are over the top in general life. It’s all “look at me, look at me”.
I don’t give a flying fuck if it’s someone’s kids birthdays. We all have one
Juat a happy birthday privately is all that’s needed.

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Yes most don't. In fact the ones that do are the ones who post about everything. They can't take a flight without telling everyone etc. In my circle there are a couple like this and it's continued well into their children reaching adulthood. I get it when the kids are small, your life is quite enmeshed, but I just cringe inside when I see people post constant updates about grown up kids like anyone's interested in a weekly update.

Creamkettle · 13/10/2025 23:20

Lots of parents in my circle don't put anything private up on SM.
I don't have a single picture up of my children and don't use SM.
I would be too protective of them and all of our privacy.

Newname29 · 13/10/2025 23:28

Butchyrestingface · 12/10/2025 01:16

I'd buck the trend and not wish her happy birthday on SM.

Set a new trend of saying happy birthday to her in person.

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Love this

Lovehascomeandgone · 14/10/2025 06:10

Ladymeade · 13/10/2025 22:19

Gawd...this is why I can't stand social media sometimes... I just don't get why people need to state on a birthday post how clever, funny, talented etc. their child is and how proud they are of them blah blah... Who is the post actually for?

Maybe because they are proud of their child and want to express it. My mum is dead and I would have loved to see posts like that pop up in my memories on Facebook. But wrong generation and social media wasn’t a thing back then. Each to their own.

Wimin123 · 14/10/2025 07:22

Blimey some jealous mums on here! To the poster saying everyone thinks their daughter is beautiful etc etc you do know that’s not true don’t you?

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 08:12

Newname29 · 13/10/2025 23:28

Love this

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Me too

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 08:15

Lovehascomeandgone · 14/10/2025 06:10

Maybe because they are proud of their child and want to express it. My mum is dead and I would have loved to see posts like that pop up in my memories on Facebook. But wrong generation and social media wasn’t a thing back then. Each to their own.

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My Mum is dead too, but you know what, I look through old physical photographs of her that I have or photos that are on my computer. I don’t need to see them on social media.
She’s in my heart and memory always. I don’t need to tell the world about her.

Lovehascomeandgone · 14/10/2025 08:17

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 08:15

My Mum is dead too, but you know what, I look through old physical photographs of her that I have or photos that are on my computer. I don’t need to see them on social media.
She’s in my heart and memory always. I don’t need to tell the world about her.

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But that’s you isn’t it and not everyone is you and the same as you are they. I have just shared my perspective which is different to yours. Life
would be boring if we were all the same. I am just saying that there are other views out there and they are all valid.

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 08:27

Lovehascomeandgone · 14/10/2025 08:17

But that’s you isn’t it and not everyone is you and the same as you are they. I have just shared my perspective which is different to yours. Life
would be boring if we were all the same. I am just saying that there are other views out there and they are all valid.

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and I’m disagreeing with you.
Why is social media the be all and end all? Why does every memory have to be “out there” for all and sundry to see.
Some memories are better off private.

Jc2001 · 14/10/2025 08:31

Newname29 · 13/10/2025 23:28

Love this

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Well, saying happy birthday on SM and in person aren't mutually exclusive. It's not one or the other.

I agree the OPs message would have been far too cheesy though.

Butchyrestingface · 14/10/2025 08:33

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 08:15

My Mum is dead too, but you know what, I look through old physical photographs of her that I have or photos that are on my computer. I don’t need to see them on social media.
She’s in my heart and memory always. I don’t need to tell the world about her.

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Each to their own but I’m more of your persuasion. I think I’d find it a bit disconcerting and possibly upsetting if FB ‘memories’ threw up posts from my late mum when I wasn’t necessarily expecting them.

Onefortheroad25 · 14/10/2025 08:40

CherrieTomaties · 12/10/2025 01:15

Why are you asking complete strangers about what you should post for your daughters birthday?

Ah come on now..every single question on here is to complete strangers.

kierenthecommunity · 14/10/2025 08:44

Eatinghurts · 12/10/2025 01:34

maybe focussi on her now being an adult. Happy birthday to my amazing daughter looking forward to sharing the future with you.

a newborn pic with 18 years old today I did not dream of all the fun we have had. Excited to see what adulthood brings! Happy birthday.

Something like this sounds good.

The beautiful inside and out phrase is a bit overused, plus I always seem to see it being used in the past tense for someone who’s died 🙈

Does it also imply if your daughter was plain and a bit grumpy she wouldn’t be deserving of any birthday wishes? 🤣

Lovehascomeandgone · 14/10/2025 09:00

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 08:27

and I’m disagreeing with you.
Why is social media the be all and end all? Why does every memory have to be “out there” for all and sundry to see.
Some memories are better off private.

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I was trying to be nice but let me just be blunt. I am disagreeing with you and I don’t really care what you think.

StrawberrySquash · 14/10/2025 09:01

Depends on you, depends on her, depends on your general circle. Not to my taste at all. But some people would find that lovely. Will it make her happy?

Isittimeformynapyet · 14/10/2025 09:21

RightOnTheEdge · 12/10/2025 10:48

Omg what a horrible thread full of nasty, miserable comments.
Is there really any need to be such a bunch of bullies to someone asking an innocent question?

Your daughter is only 18 once OP. Write whatever you feel like. Don't say nothing and then regret it because of what some anonymous keyboard warriors on MN said.
You know your daughter and only you know if she will be embarrassed or if she will love it.

Do you really want to take the advice of smug twats who think saying
"Why dont you try saying it in real life?"
makes them sound oh so original and clever? It really doesn't.

Don't let them win and make you feel bad.

makes them sound oh so original and clever?

"Beautiful inside and out" is not original or clever - it's a sickly cliché.

The posters you're berating would advocate coming up with something personal rather than just trotting out something that is categorically unoriginal.

CoolPlayer · 14/10/2025 09:33

I say this to my daughter and see nothing wrong with it at all. x

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 10:00

Butchyrestingface · 14/10/2025 08:33

Each to their own but I’m more of your persuasion. I think I’d find it a bit disconcerting and possibly upsetting if FB ‘memories’ threw up posts from my late mum when I wasn’t necessarily expecting them.

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I would have to agree with you here

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 10:02

Lovehascomeandgone · 14/10/2025 09:00

I was trying to be nice but let me just be blunt. I am disagreeing with you and I don’t really care what you think.

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You’ve been brainwashed ha ha

ArabellaSaurus · 14/10/2025 10:30

Oh, who cares if it's a bit cheesy, ffs! It's a mother expressing her love, or declaring it publically, if you prefer. It's nice. It's a good thing in the world. I'm all for it.

Meandmyguy · 14/10/2025 10:37

I have a beautiful daughter. I actually couldn't wait to see what she would look like when she grew up as she was such a pretty child.

Well, she hates it, absolutely hates it when people comment on her looks.

Post something that doesn't embarrass her.

Hope she has a great birthday.

Lovehascomeandgone · 14/10/2025 10:49

sugarapplelane · 14/10/2025 10:02

You’ve been brainwashed ha ha

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And you are an idiot

Shotokan101 · 14/10/2025 13:11

CandleMug · 12/10/2025 01:04

It’s my DD’s 18th Birthday tomorrow and we have parties planned etc but of course social media being so big I will acknowledge her bday on my SM platform.

I was planning on putting the title on my post tomorrow but wanted to get your opinions first. Is that ok? She is stunning and beautiful btw, though I’d put her main attributes first, funny, loveable, beautiful personality etc…

"Cringe" 🙂🙃

.... don't you even considered how she might feel reading that?, or what her friends might say/think....

Personally I'd go with something a little less "declarative" and "generic" e.g. "For a wonderful daughter who's turned into such a great, caring, young woman/adult..."