She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

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It’s my DD’s 18th Birthday tomorrow and we have parties planned etc but of course social media being so big I will acknowledge her bday on my SM platform.

I was planning on putting the title on my post tomorrow but wanted to get your opinions first. Is that ok? She is stunning and beautiful btw, though I’d put her main attributes first, funny, loveable, beautiful personality etc…

'Beautiful in every way' rings better

personally i’ve always thought it is really odd when people say happy birthday to a relative in SM. just go to the next room and say it to the person’s face!! the people who matter will wish her a HB whether you posted or not.
it feels a bit like fishing for something or other.

that’s just my opinion though!

But surely you would have birthday cards from her? I think a birthday card written directly FOR you is much more special than something written for the eyes of people on social media.

For reasons I won’t go into, no I don’t unfortunately 😢

I think the AIBU results are more to do with OP's SM use than her question (judging by many of the comments).

I voted YANBU because I think "she’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is perfectly acceptable and a nice comment to make to someone.

We are exactly the same.

Some of the stuff friends post on SM about their children (especially when they are still children) can make me feel uncomfortable. We stopped because of consent and the fact that those images are then set in stone for the rest of their lives. I asked my DC, when they were young, what they thought of parents doing this and they both hated the idea.

My DH attended an online safety workshop at work. The guy running it took the name and Linked-In page of one member of staff. 2 hours later he knew everything about his family and kids such as names, ages, sports clubs, schools (ages gleaned from ‘billie is 7 today, so proud 😍’ type posts). He showed the group how he was able to use that data to hack into this employees work desktop, facebook, his sainsburys account, to clone his ID and thus could show how he could use this data to open bank accounts, take out loans etc. Kids birthdates are often used in some form for passwords/codes as are anniversary dates etc. And many of us lay it all out there online for anyone to see. My DH consequently has a very limited SM (in fact none now) and we do not post anything about our kids - I had to remove the ability for people to tag me as well-meaning family would tag us to share pictures of our kids parties etc.

Sorry, OP, this is a little bit of a stray of your post, but advertising your DD’s 18th birthday on line means anyone can hack it and use it. if you follow it with a ‘starting XXX university, so proud’ you have unwittingly shared her data without consent. Please do share your love in a mushy card/gift, but I’d give it to her in person.

The fact that you feel pressure...

I think it’s lovely. Even if it’s cringey, I think kids secretly love it. Mums are excused by their kids because they’re MUMS! If your mum can’t go OTT, it’s a sad old world. Go for it.

Sounds like a post that will have her moaning about on her secret accounts you don’t know about.

No idea why you need to post that rubbish on SM, can’t you just tell her.

Why not wish her Happy Birthday privately? Why the need to post on SM?

Well, if mum is on sm it would be strange not to post birthday message to her daughter. Having said that, I gave up sm 4 or 5 years ago, its all ridiculous sending best wishes to someone on sm when you literally live with them, but its not for them is it? Anyway back to the message, fine but I wouldn't say "beautiful inside and out" bit cringe. Keep it simply...Happy 18th birthday to my wonderful daughter (blank) have a wonderful day.

It's really not strange to NOT post a message to your daughter on social media. Wouldn't it be strange to post "Dinner's ready" to her daughter on social media? Or "Can't you flush when you use the toilet?" Why does only performative messages work then!

My daughter is intelligent, kind, curious, talented, passionate, loving, funny, reliable, empathetic, and just a generally great person. She also happens to be beautiful (in my opinion), but that is the least interesting thing about her.

So that other people can see it. Silly isn’t it

🤣🤣🤣 like i said i dont use it just trying to answer ops question but i might go bk on be a way of getting my son to flush, he never listens to me so maybe a message would do the trick. Lol

Social media birthday messages to people in your household or people you will be contacting personally in other ways on their birthday are not for the recipient but for the wider world. We all like to show off a bit, that's what it's mainly about, but there might be friends and family who will enjoy seeing photos of you and your family celebrating together and sharing is good. It makes us feel connected.