She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

[CandleMug]

It’s my DD’s 18th Birthday tomorrow and we have parties planned etc but of course social media being so big I will acknowledge her bday on my SM platform.

I was planning on putting the title on my post tomorrow but wanted to get your opinions first. Is that ok? She is stunning and beautiful btw, though I’d put her main attributes first, funny, loveable, beautiful personality etc…

You are miserable. Goodness grief

The world of daughters is obviously very different from the world of sons. My boys would think I had gone mad if I started gushing about them on SM.

@CandleMug dont mind the miserable dinosaurs on this thread.

Your post sounds fab and go for it. Children are a blessing and to have a child reach 18 is no small feat. I’ve known people to go at no age. So go for it, shout it from the rooftops how amazing your daughter is. Big happy 18th to her and may she have an an amazing day!

Just tell her in person or on a card FGS
I’ll never understand these public declarations and to ask on another platform what to say to your own daughter is just laughable

I’m not a SM person either but for OP and many others, posting birthday messages comes as naturally as writing out a card. It may not be what you or I would do but it’s perfectly normal and harmless, and certainly not deserving of some of the replies she’s had from the usual Mumsnet chip pissers.

You’re thinking far too much into a social media post. Why don’t you think this much about what you’d like to write in her card or actually say to her face. I’m sure she’d appreciate the message more if it wasn’t shared infront of hundreds of other people she doesn’t even know.

I just think the way OP is bigging up this birthday is OTT.

And a lot of posters on MN seem to do the same for birthdays tbh. Multiple parties, holidays , expensive presents seem to be the expectation of many. Especially for what they consider to be " big" birthdays. It just just smacks of self importance and the feeling the whole world should revolve around them just because it's the anniversary of the day they were born.

Yes the 18th birthday is of special importance if OP is UK based because it marks the transition into adulthood.
But that doesn't mean total over kill. Why the need their announcements on social media of an exchange of sentiment that should be private between mother and daughter?

It seems a bit much I’d just put happy 18th birthday I am so proud of you type message. If I used social media.

Just write what you want and don't overthink it. Don't most people just skim-read all the long, gushing posts about other people's children, maybe pop a quick "happy birthday" in the comments and then scroll on by? I don't think your anyone is going to pick apart and analyse your wording to this extent.

Happy 18th birthday to our beautiful daughter X?

Could you maybe put something slightly less cringe like 'you're proud of the amazing young woman she has become '

A lot of hate for social media! I love seeing my friends' kids grow, happiness and celebrating 💛

Jesus. It's not a bloody press release! Or are you some sort of SM influencer?

It's her birthday, not yours. If you're one of Those SM users who has to faux-address their children on birthdays on their own SM 'platform' ('You're the most amazing person I know, you're such a special part of our lives' etc) when almost certainly the children won't even be reading it, because what self-respecting kid is on the same SM as their mum? ... anyway, if you're one of those people, why not just say ... Happy Birthday?

Or you could just go and say it to your child in person and give her a lovely cuddle. Why the hell people feel the need to be performative about family birthdays I just can't understand.

Is your 18 year old DD on FB?
If not who are you posting for?

😁

This is a lovely message and fwiw I wish my mum would gush about me even once.

Posting your child’s DOB on social media may not be “harmless” I’m afraid.

But then I work in fraud prevention so am always extremely negative about the over-sharing on SM!

IME the worst social media birthday posts for 18 year olds are the ones that refer to the young person as 'my baby' - as in 'my baby is 18 today!' etc. It just makes me cringe for both young person and parent.

Go for it OP, whatever you put will be appreciated I'm sure.
My almost adult DD looks out for her yearly FB post from me and enjoys going back and reading all the old ones. She reposts them on Instagram sometimes with 💀 which I believe means she finds them amusing . Not at the fact I posted but at what she was wearing. (Tween DD had many pink and sparkly outfits and now there's much more black!)

You know your daughter, not the people on MN. If you think your daughter would be pleased to see that on her social media, do it. I think it's a mums place to be proud and gushing over their kids, it's lovely.

I hate sm birthday wishes from parents. Also partners to each other. It's fine from friends. I have an acquaintance she and her two daughters do this to each other and it's so over the top and these are adults who see each every day without fail. Virtue signalling. This lady also does heavenly birthdays.
It's cringy as fuck.

If you don’t know what to post why bother at all. I have never posted anything about my kids on SM, they don’t my feelings validated on FB and they are not interested in what my FB friends think.

btw - we all think are kids are beautiful inside and out.

Nothing wrong with a facebook post to commemorate your DD's birthday. Writing a cliche like that wouldn't be my style but if that's the sort of thing you say in real life then go ahead.

I just made an album titled DD's 18th Celebrations for my daughter- didn't feel any need to point out her beauty or how amazing she is as my friends and family already know that.

I celebrate her achievements from time to time on FB when relevant like passing driving test, going to uni, her art exhibitions etc. so no need to reiterate all that stuff.

This

Also, from your posts it does sound like her physical beauty is actually something you are most proud of and the most notable thing about her.