To go on holiday without kids?

Toskiornottoskii · 2025-10-11T22:13:29+00:00

I want to go skiing. Really as a family. Problem is DP doesn’t ski yet. Kids would be just turned 1 and just turned 4 in spring. So they would just be in ski crèche. My latest idea is to do a 4 day midweek break. Leave the kids with grandparents. DP can learn how to ski. This is potentially not the best for 1 yo. But would be heaven for the 4 year old. If we wait until next year then we have reception/ school to contest with and I feel like we should be at home then as I don’t want grandparents having to get eldest to school. Is this a bonkers idea?

Wainscot · 11/10/2025 23:15

But does your partner have any desire to learn to ski?

UnderMedicatedMum · 11/10/2025 23:19

Wainscot · 11/10/2025 23:15

But does your partner have any desire to learn to ski?

If your DP isn’t interested, go alone. At least in that situation, no need to sort childcare

summitfever · 11/10/2025 23:21

Do it, life shouldn’t stop when you have kids… like mine did. Don’t be me!

TheAphrodite · 11/10/2025 23:29

do it! its only a short break ☺️

Numberedout · 11/10/2025 23:32

Go! You will have a great time and they will be fine

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Toskiornottoskii · 11/10/2025 23:36

Wainscot · 11/10/2025 23:15

But does your partner have any desire to learn to ski?

Well yes and no. Is he against skiing - no. Does he really know how good a holiday it is to be desperate to go - also no.

Does he want to spend 6k to go and put the kids in childcare and spend half of it in lessons. Absolutely not!

Hence why I feel like this is a now or never moment. Family ski holidays were my best childhood memories. Also my best holidays full stop. I love skiing. I want to teach my children to ski and take them.

So yes I need an affordable way to get DP on a slope, and competent at skiing.

I am not going out there with 2 kids and a DP who cannot ski! Sounds incredibly dangerous and stressful.

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RoseAlone · 11/10/2025 23:39

It's not bonkers, it's selfish, unreasonable, neglectful and downright wrong. You even have the bare faced cheek to admit it wouldn't be good for your baby but in effect, that doesn't matter because you want to ski!! Jeesh!

NuffSaidSam · 11/10/2025 23:41

Toskiornottoskii · 11/10/2025 23:36

Well yes and no. Is he against skiing - no. Does he really know how good a holiday it is to be desperate to go - also no.

Does he want to spend 6k to go and put the kids in childcare and spend half of it in lessons. Absolutely not!

Hence why I feel like this is a now or never moment. Family ski holidays were my best childhood memories. Also my best holidays full stop. I love skiing. I want to teach my children to ski and take them.

So yes I need an affordable way to get DP on a slope, and competent at skiing.

I am not going out there with 2 kids and a DP who cannot ski! Sounds incredibly dangerous and stressful.

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But the kids will be in ski school anyway?

Or you take the eldest skiing and DP can do other fun activities with the baby.

I don't think anyone would expect you to go skiing with a baby and a small child and your DP who can't ski. Surely you just divide and conquer?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with having a break from the kids, but it's also possible to have this holiday together. Loads of people go skiing with kids where only one parents skis.

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Toskiornottoskii · 11/10/2025 23:41

RoseAlone · 11/10/2025 23:39

It's not bonkers, it's selfish, unreasonable, neglectful and downright wrong. You even have the bare faced cheek to admit it wouldn't be good for your baby but in effect, that doesn't matter because you want to ski!! Jeesh!

Well yes I agree it’s not ideal. But it does open up family ski holidays for us in the future. I think most kids love ski holidays so want to make this happen for them.

Tbh it’s not going to be that much fun for me skiing around by myself for 4 days while DP is in lessons. But he won’t go by himself either.

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Peridoteage · 11/10/2025 23:45

So yes I need an affordable way to get DP on a slope, and competent at skiing

4 days won't achieve that!

Adults learn to ski much less easily than kids. It took me probably 4 week long trips to feel comfortable on reds, starting from a week as a teenager into my twenties.

My 8 year old was better after a single weeks holiday than i was after 3.

Even if you do a cheap midweek break now, is your DH going to be happy spending £8k or so annually which is what school holiday week skiing costs for a family of four.....

I think its quite selfish to leave a 1 year old for this. Baby will just have no idea whats going on and won't understand you disappearing for 4/5 days, that's quite traumatic for a baby that age.

AgnesMcDoo · 11/10/2025 23:46

Why not. Go for it and enjoy!

AgnesMcDoo · 11/10/2025 23:47

RoseAlone · 11/10/2025 23:39

It's not bonkers, it's selfish, unreasonable, neglectful and downright wrong. You even have the bare faced cheek to admit it wouldn't be good for your baby but in effect, that doesn't matter because you want to ski!! Jeesh!

What a load of hyperbolic shite. 🤣

CherrieTomaties · 11/10/2025 23:50

Toskiornottoskii · 11/10/2025 23:36

Well yes and no. Is he against skiing - no. Does he really know how good a holiday it is to be desperate to go - also no.

Does he want to spend 6k to go and put the kids in childcare and spend half of it in lessons. Absolutely not!

Hence why I feel like this is a now or never moment. Family ski holidays were my best childhood memories. Also my best holidays full stop. I love skiing. I want to teach my children to ski and take them.

So yes I need an affordable way to get DP on a slope, and competent at skiing.

I am not going out there with 2 kids and a DP who cannot ski! Sounds incredibly dangerous and stressful.

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Why not take your partner and kids to one of the indoor ski centres here first? There’s Castleford, Manchester, Milton Keynes, Tamworth and Hemel.

Then base your decision around if they like it.

CrispsPlease · 11/10/2025 23:52

I'll be honest and blunt here, I really don't agree with these "solo" me me me Pursuits. You had children . You can't have it both ways.

It makes me laugh how everyone on here slags off young normal aged parents in their 20s. Yet I'll bet your late 30s , early 40s. It's always the older parents who do things like this. Can't seem to understand it's your child's time now, not your solo escapades time.

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Toskiornottoskii · 11/10/2025 23:54

CherrieTomaties · 11/10/2025 23:50

Why not take your partner and kids to one of the indoor ski centres here first? There’s Castleford, Manchester, Milton Keynes, Tamworth and Hemel.

Then base your decision around if they like it.

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Yes so plan was to do some days at the snow domes pre trip.

But as PP says I need this wonderful man to be invested to the point that he’s willing to spend a hideous amount of money a year on skiing.

Milton Keynes snow dome ain’t going to cut it 😂

I need to get him on top of a mountain with a schnapps down him thinking bloody hell! Look at this! This is amazing 🤞

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Toskiornottoskii · 11/10/2025 23:56

CrispsPlease · 11/10/2025 23:52

I'll be honest and blunt here, I really don't agree with these "solo" me me me Pursuits. You had children . You can't have it both ways.

It makes me laugh how everyone on here slags off young normal aged parents in their 20s. Yet I'll bet your late 30s , early 40s. It's always the older parents who do things like this. Can't seem to understand it's your child's time now, not your solo escapades time.

Well I am 34. If I was 40 we might have got round to a pre kids ski trip. 🫠

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 11/10/2025 23:57

Go with your single or child free friends they’d love the quality time with you and much better skiing to be had with experienced skiers

CypressGrove · 12/10/2025 00:00

I need to get him on top of a mountain with a schnapps down him thinking bloody hell! Look at this! This is amazing

Four days of lessons isn't going to get an adult learner to that point. Quite possibly no amount of lessons will.

DreamyTealGuide · 12/10/2025 00:00

RoseAlone · 11/10/2025 23:39

It's not bonkers, it's selfish, unreasonable, neglectful and downright wrong. You even have the bare faced cheek to admit it wouldn't be good for your baby but in effect, that doesn't matter because you want to ski!! Jeesh!

what, leave the kids for 4 days with their grand-parents?

Would that be better if the OP and her DH go on a beach holiday instead? Is it the concept of snow that makes you so angry? 😂

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Toskiornottoskii · 12/10/2025 00:03

CypressGrove · 12/10/2025 00:00

I need to get him on top of a mountain with a schnapps down him thinking bloody hell! Look at this! This is amazing

Four days of lessons isn't going to get an adult learner to that point. Quite possibly no amount of lessons will.

Really?! Some of our friends have learnt to ski as adults and obviously he’s never going to be expert but I need him safe enough to ski with children so he doesn’t kill himself or them. Like a competent leisure skier.

I do know what you mean though. The fear is real as an adult. Probably quite rusty myself.

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DreamyTealGuide · 12/10/2025 00:03

CrispsPlease · 11/10/2025 23:52

I'll be honest and blunt here, I really don't agree with these "solo" me me me Pursuits. You had children . You can't have it both ways.

It makes me laugh how everyone on here slags off young normal aged parents in their 20s. Yet I'll bet your late 30s , early 40s. It's always the older parents who do things like this. Can't seem to understand it's your child's time now, not your solo escapades time.

what are you on about. Having children doesn't mean you stop having a life. Would that be ok if the OP was staying home to clean the house while the kids are with their grand-parents?

It's always the older parents who do things like this.
you tell that to all the 20 year old mothers who go away on hen weekends or Ibiza weekends with their friends 😂 (to name a few)

Happygolucky314 · 12/10/2025 00:03

@Toskiornottoskii

i would only leave my children if I’d taken them on holiday prior or booked and planned to after. I’d think it was incredibly selfish to spend any sort of money on just me going away instead of taking my children

on that note if you are considering it can’t you do something unselfish like go on a city break to a place YOU BOTH would enjoy and not just you?

you wouldn’t be forcing me to ski so I don’t know why your partners allowing you to push him into it. He doesn’t have to learn because you said so so stop pushing it onto him

DreamyTealGuide · 12/10/2025 00:06

Toskiornottoskii · 12/10/2025 00:03

Really?! Some of our friends have learnt to ski as adults and obviously he’s never going to be expert but I need him safe enough to ski with children so he doesn’t kill himself or them. Like a competent leisure skier.

I do know what you mean though. The fear is real as an adult. Probably quite rusty myself.

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No, you don't learn how to ski in 4 days.

you can have fun sliding down the easiest slopes a bit, but let's be realistic.

Someone who has 4 days practice, even 4 days with a private instructor, is not competent enough to deal with children. They will barely manage to hold themselves, no way to look after kids - and kids can suddenly go REALLY fast 😂

NuffSaidSam · 12/10/2025 00:07

Toskiornottoskii · 12/10/2025 00:03

Really?! Some of our friends have learnt to ski as adults and obviously he’s never going to be expert but I need him safe enough to ski with children so he doesn’t kill himself or them. Like a competent leisure skier.

I do know what you mean though. The fear is real as an adult. Probably quite rusty myself.

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You really don't.

If he does end up as a good skier then that's great.

But you don't need both parent's skiing to have nice ski holidays with your kids. Don't get fixated on this. Take everyone on a ski holiday this year and see how you all get on. The baby isn't going to be able to come skiing with you anyway no matter how good your DP is. Make some memories skiing with your 4 year old. Make some lovely family memories building snowmen and sledging and drinking hot chocolate after a snowball fight.

Tiswa · 12/10/2025 00:07

Take the children out of it. Does he want this. DH loved skiing we tried twice dragged on two further holidays with DD and it just isn’t for me.
turns out as it happens it wouldn’t be for DD (16 Raynauds hates sports that isn’t dancing and only part of skiing she likes the sound of is the Apres ski) or DS 13 either.
he’s fine we do other stuff