To go on holiday without kids?

[Toskiornottoskii]

I want to go skiing. Really as a family. Problem is DP doesn’t ski yet. Kids would be just turned 1 and just turned 4 in spring. So they would just be in ski crèche.

My latest idea is to do a 4 day midweek break. Leave the kids with grandparents. DP can learn how to ski.

This is potentially not the best for 1 yo. But would be heaven for the 4 year old.

If we wait until next year then we have reception/ school to contest with and I feel like we should be at home then as I don’t want grandparents having to get eldest to school.

Is this a bonkers idea?

I can relate to this.

I love snowboarding, but my partner (for a number of reasons) won't really ever be into it... I think my son would, but he is the same age as your oldest, so it isn't an active desire for him yet...

My plan is just to wait until my son is a bit older, and then see if he likes it. If he does it might just be a thing we do together. My partner wouldn't mind as long as it doesn't become excessive or unfair (taking up all our holiday money, depriving them of what they like etc.) they have said that they would actually enjoy the mountain atmostphere, a nice place to stay, the food etc.. so it wouldn't be a complete dud of a trip for them.

Given that your partner is more willing to try, for me I would see if I could scratch that itch in the UK first. Take him to a dry slope, or an indoor ski-slope.. give him some lessons and see how he gets on. Maybe it will inspire a desire to go, and that will start a family tradition.

If not, then I think you know that leaving a 1 year old is a bit early. I'd easily leave my nearly 5 year old with grandparents for enough time to go skiing now, but I wouldn't have done so at 1.

Wrong person!

As a side note: even if you had got the right person (you haven't ) what a sadistic thing to do : to attempt to trawl old posts and plaster that information on your post. Weirdo.

OP has said the 1 year old is perfectly happy with the grandparents and used to spending time with them. So why is it too young?

I think what a lot of people (martyrs) on here don’t realise is if the children form a close attachment with grandparents from a young age they are perfectly happy to spend time with them. They are close family they have a bond with - this is a good thing!

You don’t know this because sadly you either didn’t have the chance to do this or couldn’t bear to let your precious child out of your sight - thus creating a clingy child that only wants their parents. Not healthy or a great result.
I’ve seen it on school trips with 9/10 year olds that were upset at being away. That isn’t great parenting is it?

Not at all.

autistic, unemotional, horrific family

Didn’t trawl.

you have posted multiple times about your awful in-laws, unemotional husband 🤷‍♀️

The OP also said: "This is potentially not the best for 1 yo. But would be heaven for the 4 year old."

That is why I said that she probably knows it isn't best for her child.

There is no objective age or length of time that children should be away from their parents. Personally for me, I built it up slowly, and now at nearly 5, my son spent 4-5 days with his grandparents this summer and had a great time. At 1? I'd have found that worrying, but that is just me personally. I'm sure some parents would find it ok, and I don't think they are wrong, because as long as the child has a good relationship with the grandparents I'm sure its fine.

But the OP clearly has worries about it, so isn't 100% on board with leaving her 1 year old.

Covered this upthread.

Coming from someone with a brand new username....
Here is your third😉

Oh green gully 😆

Would anyone be surprised to know that @IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland aka Greengully is an ardent Reform supporter? I think not.

Judgment, inexperience and illogical. Yep, to be expected

😂

Tell Laura I love her 😆

Are you ok?

The question is, are you.

You usually resort to accusing posters that disagree with you of being your husband’s ex, Laura. Which always raises a smile!

OMG this is hilarious.

Yep, this is what happens.

You make it you’re finding it funny

and then you have a meltdown

Eh? Honestly are you ok?

And so the unravelling of @IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland / Green Gully begins! 🤭

Something is definitely unravelling.

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There's something sinister about you.

My DH has autism (I love him to bits. I find his autism challenging ) I don't like my MIL much.

None of that has fuck all to do with how I mother my children. My DH is an absolutely amazing father despite his emotional range for intimacy with a spouse being limited.

The fact you're trying to publicly humiliate me for these -entirely unrelated - personal posts of mine, says far more about you than it does about me.

There's something sinister about you.

My DH has autism (I love him to bits. I find his autism challenging ) I don't like my MIL much.

None of that has fuck all to do with how I mother my children. My DH is an absolutely amazing father despite his emotional range for intimacy with a spouse being limited.

The fact you're trying to publicly humiliate me for these -entirely unrelated - personal posts of mine, says far more about you than it does about me.

Furthermore, sinister and downright strange attempts at humiliating me and picking apart my DHs autism (and my struggles at times with it and the fact I don't like my MIL ) has absolutely fuck all to do with me being allowed the opinion that I don't agree with parents holidaying without their children. Your attempts to make my opinions "wrong" are just.... Well, sinister. The only reason I haven't reported you is because I want other people to read your posts and feel as disturbed by your bully like behaviour as I do.