To not understand why DH books a hotel in same town when colleagues visit

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Does anyone else find this strange?

DH’s team are spread over England and Wales (head office is where we live) and about 3 times a year, they have a two day meeting at the head office with the staff who travel particularly far put up at a local hotel.

The last two occasions, DH has also stayed at that hotel (he says expensed by the company). His reasoning - he doesn’t want to wake
me (and 2x young DC) midweek when arriving home later after drinking and a free hotel isn’t something to say no to. They always have big socials but he’s usually vague on the detail. He’s one of 3 men and there are 6/7 women, only one of which is local so the rest stay at the hotel.

I just find it so strange. The hotel is a 10
minute drive away from us and he has no issues waking me up when he’s had too many pints with his mates on a Friday night.

I’ve never been on a team night out where partners are invited! Apart from anything else, the night is usually put on expenses and you can’t usually expense dinner/drinks for none team members!

Not sure if anyone else has suggested this but when I rack up expenses they are paid when my salary is paid as an extra line (not taxes etc obv) goes for everything from parking fees and petrol to evening meals. So amount goes into a system with receipts and they’re paid in the following pay run.

Actually, that's a great idea. There is no reason at all - not one single reason - why he wouldn't want his wife to come and join in a bit of a party and have a night in a hotel if he's not doing anything behind her back that he wouldn't do in front of her face.

What?

I love my partner but I wouldn't want him there on a works social with people I only see a couple of times of year. I see him every day. I don't want to spend an evening making sure he doesn't feel left out with people who are strangers to him.

I'd stay in the hotel too.

We have a 2yo, and a couple of times this year I've booked a hotel down the road. Cheap suburban Travelodge for £38/night and I get to have a blissful quiet evening read, a long bath without ducks in it, a good night of sleep, and no hint of being included in the morning routine.

I used to do this too, when mine were little. Bliss!

That’s a separate issue, but if he wanted to shag somebody only one of them would need a hotel room. He could easily go back to her room, then get a taxi home and you’d be none the wiser. In fact if he was up to something, that’s probably what he’d do. So I wouldn’t read anything into the room.

I hear what you’re saying, three nights to relax probably seems quite often to somebody that probably struggles to pee alone! I remember those days quite well!

Same, my husband worked away quite a lot which is why I used to book myself a hotel room nearby every couple of months and take my book, a bottle of wine and some snacks and have a full night’s sleep!

Absolutely the norm in that situation. Alternative is he leaves early to come home so he doesn’t disturb you, missing out on the networking and the fun, also misses spending time with colleagues at breakfast. Or he stays out late, comes home and disturbs you, gets up early to join them for breakfast and disturbs you again. Poor guy can’t win.

Sorry posted then realised I should have read your other posts. Does sound more dodgy now I’ve read your updates but generally staying in the hotel at an event like that isn’t suspicious in itself.

Is he usually a low class misogynist?

Who is he having sex with?