To do a day out without newborn weeks after birth?

[honeymelina]

There is a big family get together coming soon that my family has been planning for long time. Many relatives will come, there will be food and children playing, all that kind of thing. It is exactly the type of day my DS would love and I would like to go too. With the drive and everything we would be out most of the day, maybe from 10 in the morning until around 4.

By that time the baby will be around one or two weeks old. I am being induced for medical reasons in next few days so the time is already quite certain, let’s not get into that. I am not really worried about if I can manage physically, my mum will be there and I can sit down if I need, but I think more if it is realistic to leave the newborn at home with DH for that long. He is fine with it but says when baby is here I probably will not want to go.

For feeding I can pump while we are out and also leave some milk already at home, so that part is okay. But I keep thinking maybe it is too soon to be away the whole day. The main thing is I would like to spend some nice time with DS and it’s an important event for my family. I would not take the baby because it is not really the right place, and I cannot just send DS without me.

So AIBU to think I can do it? Has anyone done something similar soon after birth and it was alright?

Youve gone from "would be more reasonable to leave baby at home" to "cant possibly take baby", thats odd. So further questions are only natural.

But, to stick to the topic - yes you are BU

There are also SO many variables that may well mean leaving the baby with dad (sorry, im assuming hes dad) might not actuall be an option (not least the expectation of having enough milk to express and leave)

Could you potentially both go?

She literally says the baby with be with DH.

For all the posts on MN whining about partners not doing things now you’re saying her DH shouldn’t? Honestly, this site.

I’m going to go out on a limb and say OP isn’t going to at least try a bottle before the day 😂

Um, yeah. So?

So…you said can’t her DH take the baby, which is already the plan.

No, I didn't say that.

Think she said DH take the older one.

There's plenty a partner can do outside of feeding the baby - cleaning, laundry, meal.planning, cooking, taking care of toddlers.

What MNers generally complain about is the fact that many men have no idea that there isn't a house fairy taking care of all of that, or needing detailed instructions on every single item they 'help' with, and then needing to be told they're Very Good Boys when they've produced dinner one night.

If you plan to breastfeed baby then I would imagine this may be a struggle to manage with a 1-2 week old? I would have struggled at that point.. Also, from a biological perspective, it will likely be distressing for such a young baby to be away from mum.