To be disappointed that my mom's husband donated things I would have loved

[Kate8889]

My mom husband (I was 23 when they met so don't see him as a father figure) recently donated a big box of video games, consoles etc, I saw it in a box in the garage. I have always wanted to have a video game system but have never been able to afford one.

I asked my mom if I could possibly have some of the items and she said no, these were specifically going for donation to be dropped off at a local store.

I asked if I could possibly buy with a discount, also told no, that there are things that remind him of a past relationship and he doesn't want to see them when he visits my house.

Because it would be the same to him as tossing these things in the trash and I would get some joy out of them as I have never had an opportunity to have a console before

As someone who has given away items like this, it wouldn't and I think you are being incredibly selfish.

What? You weren't allowed to listen to a podcast while washing the floor because it made you clean too slowly? Cinderella, you've got one wicked step-father.

Your mum is married to a dickhead. What do you mean he told you not to listen to a podcast while cleaning?

Stop seeing them. They’re not good for your sense of self worth

But it isn’t the same for him because he’d know you have them. Maybe hes just being mean, but it’s quite possible that they have bad associations for him and he wants them away from his current life.
If you want something like that so much, have you tried looking on eBay?

He said he wanted to use the kitchen and not have it be occupied for longer than needed and so I needed to move quicker (on a Saturday morning) when doing the cleaning and therefore meant not listening to a podcast

I have, everything is more expensive than I can justify to myself

They sound really mean

I can see this side of things

He can do what he wants with his stuff but he sounds like a right arsehole to me. What normal person gets rid of stuff that they know someone in the family would love but can't afford?

But if it’s something you really want, it would be worth saving up?

I think he is being mean but there’s nothing you can do about it.

It’s a PlayStation though. Not a framed photograph or an engraved watch. How can emotional trauma be attached to a bloody games console. He just didn’t want the OP to have it, probably simply because she would’ve liked to have it.

Who paid for the PS originally, and how long ago? Did your folks play lots with the PS but then got bored of it? What games did they have?

Why are you blaming your step-dad when your mom said "said no, these were specifically going for donation to be dropped off at a local store."

Helping family comes first and I have two children and a grandmother who I try to save up for.

Sorry OP but he might be finding your insistence quite annoying. Which is not to say that he can’t be annoying or unreasonable himself.

This PS was purchased by someone before 2013, not sure who, but it was with my mom's husband's things he wanted to get rid of. My mom doesn't play video games. She would have been fine with me having it if not for him saying it must get donated.

Out of interest, is it your mums house, or his?

My mom's, I helped buy it and she bought me out when I moved. He's really insecure about it.

Exactly this! I don't understand how people can be so attached to generic electrical items that many others will have in their homes.

Reading the OP's other responses it sounds like the step dad is a bit of an arse.

My husband broke up with his ex-girlfriend because he spent too much time on the PlayStation. She then died of natural causes and he really regrets the way their relationship ended. He no longer games. It could be something like that for all we know. Honestly, we don't know and I think people calling him "mean" need to understand there are reasons why someone would want to be rid of this stuff.

Yes, but other people have video games consoles in their homes. Does he freak out when he sees those too?

That’s really mean, there are no two ways about it.

imagine a grown man behaving like that.

Why cant you accept the word no, they are his things he gets to choose enough has to be enough when someone says no

So you moved out of our home because of this arsehole and now he is giving away stuff that you and your could kids could use? I would be raging but I don't suppose there is anything you can do.