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To think that if you commit a male crime, you should do male time, even if you identify as a woman?

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TheAvidAmberPeer · 01/10/2025 21:09

I know this is a sensitive topic but I’ve been thinking about how justice systems handle trans women who commit serious crimes, especially violent or sexual offences, and whether it’s fair to house them in women’s prisons. To me, if you were born male and commit a crime typically associated with male offenders, particularly one involving violence against women, it seems like common sense that you should serve time in a male facility. Identity doesn’t erase biology or risk in those cases.

AIBU to think fairness and safety, especially for vulnerable female prisoners, should come before ideology?

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Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:31

NeonFish · 04/10/2025 22:29

Trans Ideology is dying in support year by year by year, it goes down. Feminists are winning laws each year that goes by.

In 20 years time, Trans Ideology will be a footnote in history, and in 30 years time, Sociologists will be studying how TI became such a toxic mass brainwashing exercise by Male Supremacists such as yourself.

That's most definitely not what's going to happen.
It's so beyond absurd you call me a "male supremacist".

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:32

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 21:09

That wasn't necessary because all sane people know what female means. The Supreme Court doesn't draft its judgments pitched at the level of loonies. It assumes a certain level of sanity and intelligence in its readers.

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And yet there are people without those attributes who fall into the SC judgement's definition of "woman" for the purposes of interpreting the EA. You may want to recheck your scientific knowledge.

NeonFish · 04/10/2025 22:36

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:19

In which case Dr Upton is thick or delusional or both,

No. Dr U is not thick or delusional. Dr U is trans.

He is a fully intact male that doesn't even have a GRC! He is not trans. He is an abusive and predatorial male that has a history of logging women who won't get undressed in front of him. He has shown and proven he will not respect the wishes of women.

Btw him being 'trans' does not make him the Sacred Caste you seem to think he is. His sex is male. And that classification is the only workable, fair, just and scientific classification that has stood the test of time for at least two millennia.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:38

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:32

And yet there are people without those attributes who fall into the SC judgement's definition of "woman" for the purposes of interpreting the EA. You may want to recheck your scientific knowledge.

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There are no trans identifying men who fall into the Supreme Court's definition of female though, which is the point.

NeonFish · 04/10/2025 22:39

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:31

That's most definitely not what's going to happen.
It's so beyond absurd you call me a "male supremacist".

It seems the term delusional is also fitting. As that is what is already most definitely happening. If you think otherwise, delusional fits and you are in for a world of pain. Trans Cult is basically already conceding defeat.

NeonFish · 04/10/2025 22:40

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:21

In Dr U's understand SP was one very transphobic individual who was harassing her. She doesn't see Peggie as reasonable or representing the norm. Nor do I.

This is batshit crazy. Evidence proves upton was harassing, stalking and gaslighting Peggie. He is a malignant, dangerous, misogynistic narcissistic predator who should be no where near any female in any capacity.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:40

InfoSecInTheCity · 04/10/2025 22:22

Dr Upton IS MALE. None of this word tangle stuff about being registered male at birth as though a) it may have been a mistake or (b) his sex could have changed between birth and now. Dr Upton has been male since conception, since the sperm found the egg and fertilised it and he will remain Male for the entirety of his life with no possibility of that changing.

Dr Upton can wear whatever clothes he wants, can go by any name he likes and can choose to live his personal life however he wants to but he is not now, has not even been and will not ever be female.

Dr Upton is trusted by patients, all of whom will be vulnerable to some extent if only because at the moment that they are being treated they are unwell or injured which is a position of vulnerability, to deliver personal medical care. What kind of person, knowing that they are dealing with a person in a vulnerable state, chooses to directly contravene their wishes and attempt to deceive them? He has admitted in court that he would do that. He explicitly stated that if a patient asked for a female doctor to conduct an intimate examination he would ignore that request and continue as he ‘feels’ like he is female. Regardless of how he feels he knows the biological truth, he knows what his sex is, he knows that people can tell he is male from his appearance so he knows he would cause distress, and honestly if he is in such denial of the truth and evidence then he should not be deemed competent to treat patients.

Dr Upton...is not now, has not even been and will not ever be female.

Dr. Upton does not agree with you. Dr. Upton is a trans woman, that means that Dr. Upton recognises/ understands herself to be female, despite having been born with observable male characteristics.

This is the reality of who Dr Upton is: she cannot help it, she cannot change it. You are not required to have her be your doctor, but you cannot change who Dr Upton is ,
or how she sees herself in the world, with the force of your opinions about her.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:40

InfoSecInTheCity · 04/10/2025 22:22

Dr Upton IS MALE. None of this word tangle stuff about being registered male at birth as though a) it may have been a mistake or (b) his sex could have changed between birth and now. Dr Upton has been male since conception, since the sperm found the egg and fertilised it and he will remain Male for the entirety of his life with no possibility of that changing.

Dr Upton can wear whatever clothes he wants, can go by any name he likes and can choose to live his personal life however he wants to but he is not now, has not even been and will not ever be female.

Dr Upton is trusted by patients, all of whom will be vulnerable to some extent if only because at the moment that they are being treated they are unwell or injured which is a position of vulnerability, to deliver personal medical care. What kind of person, knowing that they are dealing with a person in a vulnerable state, chooses to directly contravene their wishes and attempt to deceive them? He has admitted in court that he would do that. He explicitly stated that if a patient asked for a female doctor to conduct an intimate examination he would ignore that request and continue as he ‘feels’ like he is female. Regardless of how he feels he knows the biological truth, he knows what his sex is, he knows that people can tell he is male from his appearance so he knows he would cause distress, and honestly if he is in such denial of the truth and evidence then he should not be deemed competent to treat patients.

Dr Upton...is not now, has not even been and will not ever be female.

Dr. Upton does not agree with you. Dr. Upton is a trans woman, that means that Dr. Upton recognises/ understands herself to be female, despite having been born with observable male characteristics.

This is the reality of who Dr Upton is: she cannot help it, she cannot change it. You are not required to have her be your doctor, but you cannot change who Dr Upton is . That is DU's reality regardless of the force of your opinions about her.

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 22:43

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:31

That's most definitely not what's going to happen.
It's so beyond absurd you call me a "male supremacist".

Why should people not think youre a male supremacist? You’ve openly stated that the feelings abd wants of males trump any needs or wants of any woman. Thst is the very definition of male supremacy. You’ve been trying to bully and gaslight women into admitting men into female spaces, you’ve called women unwilling to accept that these males are not women transphobes and bigots, you’ve mocked a rape survivor and you have defended a male who has made it clear he will violate the boundaries of women who request female care. That to me shows you are a male supremacist. Which is fine. You do you.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:48

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 22:43

Why should people not think youre a male supremacist? You’ve openly stated that the feelings abd wants of males trump any needs or wants of any woman. Thst is the very definition of male supremacy. You’ve been trying to bully and gaslight women into admitting men into female spaces, you’ve called women unwilling to accept that these males are not women transphobes and bigots, you’ve mocked a rape survivor and you have defended a male who has made it clear he will violate the boundaries of women who request female care. That to me shows you are a male supremacist. Which is fine. You do you.

have a biscuit. 🍪
(And stop projecting your bizarre fantasies onto me).

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:51

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:40

Dr Upton...is not now, has not even been and will not ever be female.

Dr. Upton does not agree with you. Dr. Upton is a trans woman, that means that Dr. Upton recognises/ understands herself to be female, despite having been born with observable male characteristics.

This is the reality of who Dr Upton is: she cannot help it, she cannot change it. You are not required to have her be your doctor, but you cannot change who Dr Upton is . That is DU's reality regardless of the force of your opinions about her.

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Dr Upton doesn't get to have his own reality.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:55

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:51

Dr Upton doesn't get to have his own reality.

Dr Upton isn't in control of that reality my dear. It's who she is.
You saying "she's doesn't get to" have her reality is about as useful as me telling you that you don't get to have a nose.

Hoardasurass · 04/10/2025 22:56

Tandora · 04/10/2025 16:05

Listen - I know this is your tactic - you don't like me challenging your (awful) opinions, so you do everything you can - no matter how manipulative or false- to drag my character through the mud.

I'm not going to play in the mud.
i said absolutely nothing wrong on that thread whatsoever, nor this one . The same cannot be said for others' treatment of me.

You love to play the victim and think that makes you bullet proof to say whatever false, manipulative, crap you want. Well guess what- you're not the only person who's been through these things- they don't confer you with some special status to be an arsehole. I have survived rape, CSA and I don't hate trans people either,

If you would like to go back to the topic then let's. Otherwise have a great day.

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@tandora You drag yourself through the mud with the words you use and your callous disregard of women's needs and trauma which you have again done with the post I've quoted even when trying to pretend that were victimising you

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 22:56

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:51

Dr Upton doesn't get to have his own reality.

I’m just confused as to why this poster is so convinced that DU is female. All evidence shows DU is male, knows he’s male and is just a narcissistic man preying on women he sees as “inferior”. Maybe “reality” is another of the words some posters have a different definition for. They’re coming across as a bit like those Sov Cit weirdos who rely on semantics to try and get out of obeying laws.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:57

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 22:56

I’m just confused as to why this poster is so convinced that DU is female. All evidence shows DU is male, knows he’s male and is just a narcissistic man preying on women he sees as “inferior”. Maybe “reality” is another of the words some posters have a different definition for. They’re coming across as a bit like those Sov Cit weirdos who rely on semantics to try and get out of obeying laws.

Tandora doesn't believe it and Upton doesn't believe it himself.

No one actually believes it.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 22:59

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:38

There are no trans identifying men who fall into the Supreme Court's definition of female though, which is the point.

Some posters could achieve Olympic gold in “point missing”.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 22:59

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:57

Tandora doesn't believe it and Upton doesn't believe it himself.

No one actually believes it.

I concur.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:59

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:57

Tandora doesn't believe it and Upton doesn't believe it himself.

No one actually believes it.

The denial is off the charts.

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 23:01

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 22:57

Tandora doesn't believe it and Upton doesn't believe it himself.

No one actually believes it.

That is what I find so reprehensible. If I thought these posters truly believed it, I could almost understand the contempt for women and the callousness towards victims of SA, but when you realise they’re just doing it for shits and giggles, and to try to upset women, it just shows the sheer nastiness behind this movement.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 23:02

Agree.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 23:03

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:59

The denial is off the charts.

It's fascinating really.

I fundamentally disagree with you, bu I can at least accept and understand your perspective is different to mine.

But you are completely incapable of doing the same. In your mind it is logically impossible for someone to have a different perspective / a different experience to you.

That is the extremism.

NeonFish · 04/10/2025 23:04

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:55

Dr Upton isn't in control of that reality my dear. It's who she is.
You saying "she's doesn't get to" have her reality is about as useful as me telling you that you don't get to have a nose.

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And schizophrenic men who think they are Jesus are real too, and that is their "reality" so they really are Jesus and should be accommodated as such.

No. Mental illness and delusions are mental illness and delusions.

Alucard55 · 04/10/2025 23:06

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:59

The denial is off the charts.

You can say that again!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 23:07

I think Upton has a personality disorder rather than a genuine psychological delusion. I absolutely don’t believe he doesn’t know what being biologically female is or that he is male. He’s lying for control, IMO.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 23:08

Tandora · 04/10/2025 22:59

The denial is off the charts.

If you believed trans identifying men were women, you'd give them the same respect and consideration you show to actual women.

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