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To think that if you commit a male crime, you should do male time, even if you identify as a woman?

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TheAvidAmberPeer · 01/10/2025 21:09

I know this is a sensitive topic but I’ve been thinking about how justice systems handle trans women who commit serious crimes, especially violent or sexual offences, and whether it’s fair to house them in women’s prisons. To me, if you were born male and commit a crime typically associated with male offenders, particularly one involving violence against women, it seems like common sense that you should serve time in a male facility. Identity doesn’t erase biology or risk in those cases.

AIBU to think fairness and safety, especially for vulnerable female prisoners, should come before ideology?

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tigger1001 · 04/10/2025 20:33

CorvusPurpureus · 04/10/2025 20:25

Did you just acknowledge Upton as a 'man who identifies as a woman?'

See? Even you know you're talking absolute mince. You know he's a man. He knows he's a man.

If he touches a patient who requested a female doctor, he is doing so without consent, & @TandoraYou. Know. This.

Shame on you.

Exactly this.

the thing with the Upton case is it's shining so much sunlight on the nonsense that this all is.

the whole nhs Fife defence was eye opening. And not in good ways for them or Upton

tigger1001 · 04/10/2025 20:36

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:29

if they seriously think that they are biological and they feel female, that is enough to
make them biologically female - then they are not fit to practice medicine.

No it's perfectly possible to be trans and practice medicine.

Yes it absolutely is. But cannot override patients consent. If they want a female doctor then a biological female doctor, unless not possible and that is fully explained with options, is who treats them.

a trans doctor, who is worth their salt would never put themselves in that position and would find a suitable doctor to treat the patient.

one who cannot do so, isn't fit to practice medicine. That's the big difference.

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 20:38

I mean DU did play on the male hockey teams. So he can’t have thought he was female otherwise he’d have been demanding to play on the female teams. The fact he totally presented as male until very recently shows he knows he’s male. The fact is he told HR he would be using the female changing rooms shows he knows he’s male was male. No women ever went to HR and said “I’m going to be using the female changing rooms if that’s ok”. All evidence points to the fact he knows fine well he’s male and I’m not sure why some posters are so determined to insist he knows he’s female.

anyway. Back to the subject of the thread. No males should be in female facilities however sad this makes those males.

yellowspanner · 04/10/2025 20:40

The Supreme Court has ruled that women are people who are born women. They have two XX chromosomes and a vagina.
I can't see what there is to argue about.
If you commit a crime and have a Y chromosome you go to a men's prison.
If you have a Y chromosome , even if you've had your penis removed and I'll feel vulnerable in a men's prison, there is a simple solution.
Don't commit any crimes.
I can't understand why criminal men, with or without penises, have anything to do with women or women's prisons

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:41

yellowspanner · 04/10/2025 20:40

The Supreme Court has ruled that women are people who are born women. They have two XX chromosomes and a vagina.
I can't see what there is to argue about.
If you commit a crime and have a Y chromosome you go to a men's prison.
If you have a Y chromosome , even if you've had your penis removed and I'll feel vulnerable in a men's prison, there is a simple solution.
Don't commit any crimes.
I can't understand why criminal men, with or without penises, have anything to do with women or women's prisons

The Supreme Court has ruled that women are people who are born women. They have two XX chromosomes and a vagina

that's not what the SC ruled 😂🤦🏼‍♀️😭

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 20:42

Exactly. If males feel uncomfortable in male prison, they can simply not commit crimes.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:43

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 20:42

Exactly. If males feel uncomfortable in male prison, they can simply not commit crimes.

What an ingenious thought. If only someone had thought to tell them that:

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 20:44

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:31

Dr Upton was registered male at birth, and yet she understands/ recognises herself to be female. This is what it is to be a trans woman. No 'changing sex' involved.

He cannot "understand" himself to be something he is not, unless he has some kind of cognitive impairment making him unfit to practice medicine.

She doesn't have a cognitive impairment - she has a cognitive difference which renders her trans. This does not make her incapable of practicing medicine. By all accounts she is an excellent doctor.

If he doesn't understand that his perception of himself is of fuck all relevance to women, who see him as the male doctor he is, he shouldn't be practising medicine. Because an excellent doctor centres the patient, not themselves.

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 20:45

I feel a bit sorry for those trans people who were misled into believing they had the right to access spaces designated for the opposite sex. In my opinion, they should look into suing those who lied to them and misrepresented the law. Unfortunately, they now have to abide by the law and use the facilities designated for their sex. That may upset them, but they need to deal with it.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 20:45

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:43

What an ingenious thought. If only someone had thought to tell them that:

Well it's something to which trans people should pay particular heed, isn't it?

JustAnotherManicMomday · 04/10/2025 20:48

If you are born male and sexualy assault a female you should be locked up gen pop in an all male prison. Where the men can treat you like their bitch the way you deserve. You should not get to claim being a woman to avoid the punishment for the crime you committed using the dick you claim not to want. If they were perfectly happy using it to abuse a woman then they can't claim to be a woman to get a lighter punishment which places them in a prison with women which equals more potential victims.

yellowspanner · 04/10/2025 20:50

The Supreme Court did rule that women are people who are born women and the biological sex cannot be changed. Someone with a Y chromosome can identify as a hippopotamus but is still male

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:50

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 20:45

I feel a bit sorry for those trans people who were misled into believing they had the right to access spaces designated for the opposite sex. In my opinion, they should look into suing those who lied to them and misrepresented the law. Unfortunately, they now have to abide by the law and use the facilities designated for their sex. That may upset them, but they need to deal with it.

I feel a bit sorry for those trans people

oh please.

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:51

yellowspanner · 04/10/2025 20:50

The Supreme Court did rule that women are people who are born women and the biological sex cannot be changed. Someone with a Y chromosome can identify as a hippopotamus but is still male

No they didn't and they certainly didn't start talking about having xx chromosomes and a vagina:

Namelessnelly · 04/10/2025 21:04

yellowspanner · 04/10/2025 20:50

The Supreme Court did rule that women are people who are born women and the biological sex cannot be changed. Someone with a Y chromosome can identify as a hippopotamus but is still male

I find it quite sad people are still desperately trying to gaslight women into thinking this means males are still allowed in female spaces. The fact they’re not allowed seems to have really upset some people, so I reckon now would be a good time to retrain as a therapist. I’d make a fortune!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/10/2025 21:09

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:51

No they didn't and they certainly didn't start talking about having xx chromosomes and a vagina:

That wasn't necessary because all sane people know what female means. The Supreme Court doesn't draft its judgments pitched at the level of loonies. It assumes a certain level of sanity and intelligence in its readers.

Alucard55 · 04/10/2025 21:36

It just gets madder.

I wonder if it would be acceptable to ask for a biological woman?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 21:49

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:25

He was the one harassing Sandy Peggie, not the other way round.

I totally disagree with you - as ever.

Big wow.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 21:54

Alucard55 · 04/10/2025 21:36

It just gets madder.

I wonder if it would be acceptable to ask for a biological woman?

Dr U believes that applies to him. Well I don’t believe that is genuinely what he thinks, but it’s what he claims.

Alucard55 · 04/10/2025 21:57

So according to @Tandora we are now in a situation where if an elderly woman, a woman with learning difficulties or a woman who doesn't have English as a first language is raped they should take the time to find the right words so as not to offend a male doctor who thinks they are a woman.

Alucard55 · 04/10/2025 21:58

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 21:54

Dr U believes that applies to him. Well I don’t believe that is genuinely what he thinks, but it’s what he claims.

If that's what he claims I'm at a loss to understand why he's employed as a Doctor.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 22:07

You and me both. I heard him say it in a courtroom.

Alucard55 · 04/10/2025 22:13

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/10/2025 22:07

You and me both. I heard him say it in a courtroom.

He is a disgusting predatory man.

InfoSecInTheCity · 04/10/2025 22:22

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:31

Dr Upton was registered male at birth, and yet she understands/ recognises herself to be female. This is what it is to be a trans woman. No 'changing sex' involved.

He cannot "understand" himself to be something he is not, unless he has some kind of cognitive impairment making him unfit to practice medicine.

She doesn't have a cognitive impairment - she has a cognitive difference which renders her trans. This does not make her incapable of practicing medicine. By all accounts she is an excellent doctor.

Dr Upton IS MALE. None of this word tangle stuff about being registered male at birth as though a) it may have been a mistake or (b) his sex could have changed between birth and now. Dr Upton has been male since conception, since the sperm found the egg and fertilised it and he will remain Male for the entirety of his life with no possibility of that changing.

Dr Upton can wear whatever clothes he wants, can go by any name he likes and can choose to live his personal life however he wants to but he is not now, has not even been and will not ever be female.

Dr Upton is trusted by patients, all of whom will be vulnerable to some extent if only because at the moment that they are being treated they are unwell or injured which is a position of vulnerability, to deliver personal medical care. What kind of person, knowing that they are dealing with a person in a vulnerable state, chooses to directly contravene their wishes and attempt to deceive them? He has admitted in court that he would do that. He explicitly stated that if a patient asked for a female doctor to conduct an intimate examination he would ignore that request and continue as he ‘feels’ like he is female. Regardless of how he feels he knows the biological truth, he knows what his sex is, he knows that people can tell he is male from his appearance so he knows he would cause distress, and honestly if he is in such denial of the truth and evidence then he should not be deemed competent to treat patients.

NeonFish · 04/10/2025 22:29

Tandora · 04/10/2025 20:06

Let's return to this thread in 30 years and review who is on the right side of history.

Trans Ideology is dying in support year by year by year, it goes down. Feminists are winning laws each year that goes by.

In 20 years time, Trans Ideology will be a footnote in history, and in 30 years time, Sociologists will be studying how TI became such a toxic mass brainwashing exercise by Male Supremacists such as yourself.

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