Boyfriend has described himself as “pussy whipped”

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I don’t know if im just being extra sensitive because im on my period and feeling crap in general, so I want some perspective.

my boyfriend and I have been together for about four months. We’re both 26. He’s sent me a screenshot of a conversation he was having with one of his friends this evening, where he agrees with his friend who says he’s “pussy whipped” and he shoots back and basically says the sex is so good I can have whatever I want.

this entire exchange has just made me feel really
grossed out, because I think that’s something I wouldn’t discuss with anyone else. AIBU to feel like this?

This is the dilemma, of course.

Men are expected to be intensely attracted to their partners... but for some reason, just aren't supposed to verbalise it. Which all seems a bit odd to me.

He sounds immature.
It also sounds like him and his friend have been slagging you off as he’s told his mate something that makes him sound pussy whipped. He’s then not denied this, he’s made out that’s fine because of the good sex. Rather than sticking up for you and saying ‘no I’m not’ etc etc.
Also he clearly thinks it’s a compliment!

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There are definitely more respectful ways of getting that across!

It’s more the fact he believes this to be a compliment for me.

Get rid .

Why would he want to forward this stupid comment to you? I sure young guys say dumb stuff to their mates, but why does he need to tell you about it? He sounds a bit dense to me…..

There was a clip on Big Bang Theory that explained it well, if you want to search it.
Not to my taste, but some people use it in the "Who's wearing the trousers now" sense, meaning they're happy that the woman is the boss in the relationship, not meaning it nastily. Personally, I'm not keen on it though, but I'm old.

Of course they can verbalise it

friend: dude you’re pussy whipped
man: ew that’s a gross expression. Please don’t talk about my gf like that.
friend: don’t you fancy her or something?
man: yes she’s hot as hell, but more importantly she’s funny/kind/intelligent/not a piece of meat for you to objectify.

It’s not hard.

@DollydaydreamTheThird

Bird????? You sound as bad as OPs boyfriend!

Yes, that's the point. I was giving an example of what he could have said to his male friend in his voice at 26 without being too vulgar.

It would have been totally irrelevant to OP's situation if I had suggested that her 26 year old boyfriend should speak like a woman in her 50s from the home counties that is old enough to be his mother

@OwlBeThere man: yes she’s hot as hell, but more importantly she’s funny/kind/intelligent/not a piece of meat for you to objectify.

Is it not the opposite? The implication of "pussy whipped" is that the man has ascribed a queen-like or goddess-like status to the woman.

Ewww. I’d be removing the “pussy” from the equation forthwith.

Then throw him back. You can do better.

I spent far too long in a similar relationship that I ended last year. I am exactly twice your age and should definitely know better than to spend my time on a man who doesnt make me feel special. So as I didnt learn that lesson until too late, I hope I can pass that on to you in the hopes you dont make the same mistake.

In his head it was "I said the sex was so good, thats a compliment, she will like that!", because thats all that matters to him. Find someone who keeps his brain in his head not his pants.

Disgusting

Yuck… no just no!

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You deserve better.

It's fine. Stupid expression but if he's generally ok just tell him that's not your choice of words so don't use it. And move on.

Yuck. Leave before you end up stuck having kids with him.

I voted yabu. Simply because me and my friend im 35 dhes 41 have just been discussing sex lifes with relatively new partners we both have haha we were on the phone nearly 2 hours

I'd be more concerned about what has he been saying to to his friends about you for them to think he is 'pussy-whipped', it infers you are controlling and bossy and he's only putting up with it because the sex is good.

If he does things like this and he doesn't make you feel special now, at 4 months in, he absolutely never will treat you respectfully.

Run like the wind. You deserve so much better than “okay” 💛

PW means a man is happy to be bossed about by a woman. Your definition is completely off!

Okay, now you cannot be wasting your 'goodness' on 'okay men' who don't make you feel special.
No wonder he's so excited. Dump the loser!

He's not the one. End it and move on. He's way too immature for you.

I would contact the RSPCA.

No, your hormones are telling you to run like the wind! Listen to them! 🚩

This is just yuk. Sorry.