Am I ungrateful because DP didn’t buy the calendar I wanted before it sold out?

[Gillinggold]

I had a shit week last week and DP knew I was browsing beauty calendar’s. He asked which one I liked and I told him the name of the one I was going to buy.

He told me not to buy it and that he’d treat me to it as one of his Christmas presents to me. I was really grateful and said it sells out quick so to be aware of that.

Lo and behold, he’s gone to buy it and it’s sold out and not coming back in stock. I was annoyed, said I really had my eye on it and would have happily brought it myself as originally intended.

He says I’m being ungrateful and that it’s not his fault. Well, I told him he’d need to get a move on at the time and feel really annoyed now….

Those poo-pooing these advent calendars clearly aren’t in the beauty world or see the value in them.

My DP gets me the vogue one each year, and most of the products are full-size - not samples. It only takes a few high-end products and you’ve already got your monies worth. If you buy high-end makeup / skincare / haircare then they are well worth it.

I’m only just finishing off the products I got in last years calendar.

Cynical balloon popper.

Fair enough. Never when I looked but may have missed it.

The Hannah Martin x ok one is still available and I think the boots one which was great value
I did get the space NK one, it was a redundancy treat to myself and the value is well worth it

I know. It’s really shit. It’s the kind of thing my DP would do then just shrug.

I think it can depend on your age. I used to be into ‘stuff’ but I’m just not anymore. One day I just woke up and realised I no longer wanted it. For me personally it would just be clutter, but I didn’t always think like that, I consumed and wanted stuff I wouldn't want for free now.

Threads like this always bring out faux naivety and miserable gits.

Christmas things sell out in advance, it’s not exactly a shock. The local Santa garden centre sold out within 30 minutes of booking opening yesterday. Christmas stuff is popular, can’t be a surprise

This! MN is wild for this sort of thing, it’s amazing how pathetically desperate some posters are to throw darts at the OP.

Honestly shit happens. If it was so important to you, you should have bought it yourself.

Arseholes out in force, I see.

I would be annoyed OP. It doesn’t matter what the item was, you wanted to buy yourself a treat with your bonus, DH stepped in to tell you not to because he would buy it for Christmas for you (conveniently saving himself the job of thinking about what to get you), you told him how quickly it would sell out, and then he didn’t buy it in time. He’s got a cheek to tell you that you are being ungrateful.

Hopefully you will be able to find it in a store or it will restock. If so, I’d buy it yourself, and tell him he can make it up to you with a lovely surprise gift at Christmas instead.

She didn't ask anyone to fix her life. She was perfectly happy buying the advent calendar for herself but her other half offered to buy it as a present. He then didn't do so in time and the OP can't fix the situation he's created because it's now sold out.
Why is this thread generating such venom - because a woman dares to want to spend money on perceived frivolities like skincare?!

Yes that would bug me.
His assertion that you should grateful he said he would do something but then didn't, would bug the absolute shit out of me, more than the calendar.
That's complete CF territory.
I wouldn't be letting that go.
He's a bullshitter.

You've misunderstood what type of calendar it is..

I’ve been burnt too many times by exactly this situation so now I just use DH’s card and tell him what present he’s bought me.

You sound like you could improve your reading comprehension skills 🤣

Definitely not UR, my DH has form for getting cheaper version of what i actually want or leaving it too late. You warned him, he didn’t listen. I’d be pissed off. Can’t get over the wave of why do you buy presents, buy it yourself etc. people are strange🤣

I mean you don’t need to be grateful BUT I would never think an advent calendar needed to be bought before the beginning of October. I love beauty but can’t justify the price of those things so have never compensated buying one, so it wouldn’t occur to me to buy one before November

Ungrateful for what? He didn't bloody get one.

Can't stand men with fragile egos like this. Messed up a plan but try and turn it back on you because the intention was there.

Unless someone told me that it sold out on the day it was released (or whatever it was) I would think that I'd have until November to get something for Christmas.
I would not interpret "form for selling out early" as an advent calendar selling out in September.

Trauma

How does that make you ungrateful though, did he buy another one instead and expected you to be happy?

I think I'd be annoyed as well.

I would suggest reading the OP again. It is a beauty advent calendar. Often in high demand and they sell out fast. The OP advised this was the case.

Not a 2026 calendar with dates and crap on to hang on your wall.