To ask DH to tell FIL to stop using our loo if he can’t clean up after himself?

[Septemberending]

We host my in-laws at least once a month for Sunday lunch and they pop round at various other points in the month.

Almost without fail, FIL will use the loo and it will be left in a disgusting state after - stinking as he hasn’t sprayed, water over the floor from where he hasn’t dried his hands properly and items such as the soap put back in the wrong place.

DH knows this greatly annoys me but won’t say anything - ‘oh, he’s stuck in his ways’ or ‘it’s only once a month’.

I’ve had enough quite frankly, and feel like it’s getting to ultimatum time.

I had some sympathy until you started with the fat phobia.

More wild responses from the perfect MN posters who have shit that clearly smells like lavender and never spill a drop of water on the floor.

I think it's a tad unreasonable to think it's 'ultimatum time' because your FiL doesn't put the soap back where you want it. His poo stinks - doesn't everyones? Having smelly poo hardly makes you dirty and disrespectful. Fake sprays do little to mask the smell properly anyway.
I think you need to learn to be a little more tolerant towards your FiL who in your own words is otherwise a decent one!

If it was only no spray and water by sink I wouldn't say anything.

If it was skiddies or pee or paper on floor then I would.

I was coming on to post the same.

It's a natural bodily function. At least he's washing his hands. And soap in wrong place...? Really??

Why is he poor FIL? He’s fed and watered by OP every month for Sunday lunch.

Do you think he cooks for OP?

Sorry but this is ridiculous.

If he were leaving skids everywhere then sure, but not using spray and, GASP, not putting the soap back in the designated soap area??!

WTF?!!

You can get to feck with the 'larger person' rubbish, too. Everyone has an arse, OP. Even prissy old you.

You need to unclench. SO badly.

Disgusting, wait until you get back home! If there were skid marks left I would go ballistic

You sound like a horrible and weird person.

Because his daughter in law is discussing his bowel habits online!.. Yes, anonymously, but seriously I'd rather cook my own lunch. Not everyone can time when they poo.

Are you one of those people who can hold it whenever they want and assume everyone else's human experience is the same?

Sometimes if you gotta go, you gotta go. There's loads of conditions where it's quite common to need the loo shortly after eating.

I thought you were going to say that he left shit all over the toilet seat or something. Are you really saying that this is because he doesn't spray chemicals around after a normal bodily function, splashes of water and soap in the wrong place? Genuinely, is this the disgusting state you mean, or have I missed the bit where he shits in the sink?

Seriously?

Can you put it on DH to go in after and sort it.

Is there a window that can be left open - better than spray as it will be fresh air rather than disguised smell.

Husband needs to clean uo after his father if he doesn't want to address it

Odfod.

What a horrible fat shaming comment.

I've been up and down through my life and my shit smells the same.

You sound like a mean and nasty piece of work

I bet people voting YANBU have only read the thread title. OP, you are being ridiculous about a few drops of water on the floor and the soap put in the wrong place.
If the smell is really bad ask your DH to go and light a match afterwards, job done.

Have you read the OP?? The only thing to ‘clean’ are a few drops of water on the floor.

Id love this to be what a disgusting toilet looks like! Soap dish, water splashes? That’s all fine. I’d be soooo happy with this. I deal with horrors I won’t even write down as it’s horrid.

You could always install an extractor fan. Or an ejector seat.

He obviously feels very comfortable having an after dinner dump, leaving the smelly aroma to float around the living area.
I admit I'm extra sensitive to this, my late DF wouldn't open a window, he leave the door wide open afterwards, defiance. 🤮
Everyone shits but it isn't pleasant and should be private with minium impact on the host.
His digestive system must be fast.

Always match boxes in all toilets in my family. It neutralises bad smells and no nasty chemicals

Agree
I really thought this was going to involve poo on the seat or something

Non event for me.

Sort out what? Soap in the wrong place? Water on the floor?

It might be what you are cooking that isnt agreeing with him

How does what she’s cooking have anything to do with not putting the soap back exactly in place 🤣