To ask DH to tell FIL to stop using our loo if he can’t clean up after himself?

[Septemberending]

We host my in-laws at least once a month for Sunday lunch and they pop round at various other points in the month.

Almost without fail, FIL will use the loo and it will be left in a disgusting state after - stinking as he hasn’t sprayed, water over the floor from where he hasn’t dried his hands properly and items such as the soap put back in the wrong place.

DH knows this greatly annoys me but won’t say anything - ‘oh, he’s stuck in his ways’ or ‘it’s only once a month’.

I’ve had enough quite frankly, and feel like it’s getting to ultimatum time.

I must admit that I thought the same!

I agree with whoever said to get hubby to nip in there, open the window and spray (if no one is asthmatic etc). Maybe dry around the area.

If he’s a nice father in law, as you said, you won’t want to hurt his feelings or have them not visit.
Maybe the ladies, or other sensitive souls could use upstairs?

Hope it resolves without a falling out or hurt feelings x

"Here's a big brush. Would you like a demonstration of how to use it? Or would you prefer to use a bucket?"

Lol seems petty your end

Who has spray in their toilet? Can think of nothing worse than two disgusting smells mingling together 🤢🤢🤢

Glad you have cooperative bowels, not everyone is the same.
I wouldn't choose to use anyone's loo but I don't have the choice.

Sadly your hilarious reply is totally irrelevant to this thread.

I also say YABU. Nothing you’ve said sounds at all disgusting, a couple of drips on the floor a the soap in the wrong place???

And not everyone can wait until they get home to do a shit, many will have bowel problems that you’re not aware of. Although I personally would try to mitigate it by cleaning the toilet behind me with the brush and toilet cleaner.

I think you’re the one being unreasonable. He’s hardly making a mess !!!! Must be nice to shit roses as you obviously do!!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

IMO OP I'd look at it this way... at least you know he's washing his hands before leaving the bathroom! What on earth are you complaining about? Misplaced soap and a few drops of water! Seriously!
I'm a self confessed clean freak but I'd rather have visitors to clean up after when they leave after feeling welcomed into my home rather than have anyone feel uncomfortable and not visit at all. Especially loved ones who won't be around forever. Priorities! Get them in order!

There is no window.

It looks as though your FIL doesn't actually point Percy at the porcelain but just lets it dangle. Your DH should definitely sort this out or clean up after his father himself. My husband lets his dangle too!!! Why won't he point it?????

Where did you get information from ?

Water on the floor from washed hands and pee on the floor are two completely different things.

Brilliant First World Problem- get a grip !

I don't think you actually read the post. What part was disgusting?

Could be a lot worse. Imagine if he left skidders in the loo, missed the loo & peed on the floor or didn't wash his hands. That would be disgusting. If you know they're coming over open the bathroom window before they arrive & leave the air freshener on top of the toilet lid so he has to move it to lift the lid (Hint for him). Water drips on the floor & soap in the wrong place isn't a major issue so let it go.

We could always hope they don't visit! I'm too old for potty training folks whatever their age. Feel sorry for his wife!