To ask DH to tell FIL to stop using our loo if he can’t clean up after himself?

[Septemberending]

We host my in-laws at least once a month for Sunday lunch and they pop round at various other points in the month.

Almost without fail, FIL will use the loo and it will be left in a disgusting state after - stinking as he hasn’t sprayed, water over the floor from where he hasn’t dried his hands properly and items such as the soap put back in the wrong place.

DH knows this greatly annoys me but won’t say anything - ‘oh, he’s stuck in his ways’ or ‘it’s only once a month’.

I’ve had enough quite frankly, and feel like it’s getting to ultimatum time.

Simple: DH talks to his dad OR DH immediately follows him into the loo and sorts out the mess.

You're not the maid.

🙄

Could you maybe draw a cross on the sink so he knows the exact spot where the bottle of soap should be returned to? Might help?

You bed to tell your husband that either he goes into the bathroom straight after his dad and cleans up the mess or he has a conversation with him about it.

Either way he should be the one dealing with this.

Not you.

Oh, goody goody, a new poo thread. Haven’t had one for a while.

Big blokes’ poo smells worse than smaller blokes ? Really ?

I’m in the ‘strike a light’ match team, much more effective than ghastly ‘air fresheners’ no matter their cost.

I think you're being unreasonable to be honest. I was expecting an awful lot worse (wee on the floor, poo on the taps or something). We can't really complain about a bit of splashed water and a soap container moving a few inches. God, your poor in-laws!

So if FIL needs the toilet while visiting where would you prefer him to shit?

In the front garden like a dog?

You are being absolutely pathetic.

The problem with air freshener is if you use it it’s really noisy! So you’re basically announcing to the house you’ve just had a shit. I second matches, you can get pretty ones for bathrooms. I think a window works best but you haven’t got one so no joy there .
nakso think you’re being a bit harsh on your FIL tbh. Not everybody has a post code bum.

OP - the main issue I presume is smell? So why not send DH in to spray after FIL uses the toilet. Problem solved.

None of the things you listed are unreasonable.. Water splashes, misplaced soap and poop smell, in a bathroom fgs.
Maybe he has asthma or allergies and can't tolerate aerosol well.. A bit grim but it's once a month.
Just admit you don't like other people using your bathroom.

You don’t like him much do you?

This post has got to be a piss take? Surely no one is this petty and upright??

We pay a "little extra" for room spray 🤣🤣

As FIL’s go I think he’s a decent one, compared to the many in-law horror stories you read on here.

Toilet hygiene and stuffing his face aside!

I thought he was leaving giant turds in the toilet.

You sound a bit unhinged to me OP. I'm sure you DH will move the soap for you if you can't cope with it.

Surprisingly lovey, air freshener isn't all that new so it's not an age problem, just the usual MN acceptable ageism.

I thought from your title he was shitting all over the place! A few drips from wet hands and soap in the wrong place is nothing to rock the boat over. I think you're being dramatic.

This is fucking ridiculous. I thought he left skid marks in the loo or failed to flush or pissed all over the seat. But not using air freshener, water from his hands over the floor and putting the soap in the wrong place? C’mon!! Get a life. Where does he put the soap? In the oven?

Spray when you go in, wipe up the splashes of water, and move the soap from the left of the sink to its special place on the right. What will that take? 10 seconds?

Who in their right mind would bring this sort of triviality up with their father? I’d be mortified to say to my lovely Dad ‘Would you mind using my expensive air freshener after you’ve had a poo Dad?’

FIL used to come over weekly and pee standing up, leaving splashes and drips and it used to drive me potty. He died about 18 months ago and we miss him, I’d even put up with the splashes again 😢

Yes, floral scented shite is delightful. Crack a window if needs be.

He’s literally done NOTHING that can be called unhygienic.

I never spray air freshener - I hate all those chemicals coating everything.

He’s used your toilet and washed his hands with soap and water afterwards. That’s it. Do not bring this up with him. You’ll sound fucking deranged. If it really bothers you that much, send in your DH after FIL has used your facilities and get him to spray your very expensive air freshener.

I couldn’t get worked up about this.

Maybe put a small dish of bicarb and a some citrus drops or a cut lemon in the bathroom if you know he is coming, I do that with my fridge if I've got something whiffy in it, works a treat.

I wouldn't invite them anymore. Disrespectful dirty man, what kind of person thinks this is okay. Vile.
Shitting should be confined to bathrooms with a window.

Christ alive

People poo in bathrooms.

Then the smell dissipates. Get over yourself.

Poor poor bloke. If someone said this to my dear old Dad I’d never speak to them again. He’s just used the loo. What is he actually guilty of? Not spraying air freshener? Is that it? I never use it either. The other two points (water on floor and soap in wrong place) are so ridiculously petty.