Why why why are they like this!!!

[Hellofrances]

My boyfriend stayed overnight at my house for the first time on Wednesday.

We both had yesterday off so had a lazy morning watching tv in bed.

He broke wind really loud and grabbed my head and forced it under the covers, I couldn’t move from under them for about 10 seconds.

He thought it was hilarious, I told him I’m a 37 year old woman and don’t appreciate that.

I think it’s the fact we’d not long been intimate and he was being really jokey.

I told one of my friends who found it amusing and said it’s a sign he’s comfortable around me which is good, but I don’t agree!

That would be the end for me. I have been with my husband 17 years and NEVER has he done or would do that. I had many boyfriends in my younger years - NONE of them would do that.

It would be an end to the relationship for me. Even if he apologised and promised never to do it again, and meant it - nevertheless he's shown me that we are intellectually mismatched.

I couldn't be with anyone that physically forced me to do anything against my will, I don't give two shits if he thought it was funny, I'd be out at that one.

These are exactly the sort of pricks that smash wedding cake into their brides faces and hair and stand their laughing.

You also need a new friend.

Honestly, sounds really scary and you deserve a lot better. Throw this one back

Is he 17? I'd be appalled though I do know some people might find it funny. Now you've made your views known, I'd hope that he never does it again. If he does, dump him immediately. It would show he has no respect for you or your wishes.

I’m sorry, OP, I don’t like being negative but I think it’s over. Not just because what he did was gross, bullying and borderline abusive but because a relationship with any mileage should have a lovely romantic period where you’re both besotted with each other and want to live up to each other’s fantasy.

As for feeling comfortable with you, I think that’s the problem. I’d NEVER want anyone to feel that comfortable with me!

As you can see, OP "they" are not like this - this particular man is, and it's not on.

Are you all for real? Some people think that sort of thing is funny, some don't. Just say you really didn't like it and ask him not to do it again then work together to find something you can both laugh about.

Instant ick for me.
I'd never want to be intimate with him again.

gross, inappropriate, and he could only do it because he was stronger than you & didn't respect your boundaries.

Exactly.

is as a one-off. Some couples do have a more jokey/matey sort of relationship, which is fine for them. But be clear that's never to happen again.

Except!!! She’d not be able to do the same to him as he’s stronger than her and would over power her - think about it

Neither have I, but a friend has experienced it (when she was much younger).

its probably why 4.4 million female live alone

Total lack of respect
And using force against you to hold you under ,using his strength against you .
No .not acceptable at all

Block, delete and sage the house. Maybe throw in an exorcism to make sure all the grossness is gone.

It’s the kind of thing a 12-year-old boy would do to his little brother and therefore I would cringe at a grown man doing it to anyone, yet alone a new sexual partner. I would laugh at an occasional, accidental fart, but if a man behaved like this I’d probably never want to touch him again.

I suppose if you both find that sort of thing funny, it’s fine. But you clearly don’t (and nor would most adult women really) so if he does, that’s a very bad sign.

Who is they?

Nothing jokey/matey about this. He used force and humiliation. He thought it was ‘hilarious’ and so he was laughing at her. I think you would be one of the very few that wouldn’t LTB.

That childish behaviour would put me off.

YANBU.

I'd end it and tell him exactly why. He used his physical strength to restrain you. Get out.

He wasn’t being ‘really jokey’ OP. There are red flags all over this.

You need to stop seeing him, now.

Wtf no, disgusting. Literally no boyfriends have ever done this to me.

Pathetic (him)

Twit and not worthy of a nice girlfriend.

Farting in bed I don't have a problem with and would probably find it funny. Grabbing you and holding you under the covers absolutely inexcusable! Why would he think that's ok? Grabbing and forcing you in any circumstance is not OK. I kind of feel the fart is irrelevant.